I am I know I am and a spoilt cow but please read anyways.

[pipsqueeke]

ARGGGHHH!!!!

DH and I were trying but not really iycwim for no 2, I get pg, and what happens - DB and his GF also try and have a call today that she's also pg - I woudn't mind so much but a) he split form his ex about 4 /5 weeks ago - max, and 2 he was cheating on SIL with the new GF. - his business thou. anyhow when I was expecting DS my cousin announced when his GF for 1 month was 4 weeks PG. (I was 6 weeks at the time hadn't announced it or anything) we'd been trying for about 9 months had 1 m/c as well in that time and started fertility investigations.

I know I sound like a cow and a bitch - i'm not honest. but this time I wanted to have 1 pg when no one else in the family was as mainly it's to do with my cousin doing no wrong. but ooh I don't know. and now M&D will be on the phone saying it's not right they're not married etc etc he's still tied to his ex thru a morgaged house. M&D were unimpressed at the thought NGF was pg - god knows what they'll say now (v old fashioned)

I am genuinly happy - honestly I am. I just wanted 1 PG when I wasn't compared to someone and my child wasn't.

go on tell me I am unreasonabe and a cow but it's allowed as i'm pg and it's pg hormones

I hate when you have a moment and post on here, then get over it and a bit

oh god...most of us would think it a bit...surely?
but maybe not post on mn about it.
Think of it like this...at least your baby will be compared to an actual baby...my baby was compared to my parents new puppy (born around the same time)
'oh yes...Maggie is doing that too'
Erm yes mum...but Maggie is a farking dumb beast...i was talking about your new grandchild

Oh sorry.. this wasn't about me and my issues was it

tp compared to a puppy how rude. lol.

dl@m - I was reffered so early as when I was a child I had major homone problmes and imbalances which if i'd not have had they would have made me wait for the year as it is we waited 6 months. I think with that it was more a case of your typical we'd been trying and got no where they looked at each other and were pg so it was a sore point from that pov.

am seeing them both tomorrow at M&D's - we have a family gathering for dad's birthday as you do! lol so will congratuate them etc properly after, once M&D are out of the way - will see if they'll take DS for a walk around the castle or something.

I have "shared" all my pregnancies with sisters and SILs and it did make me feel like you so you're not alone.

I got them the last time though and managed a "only pregnancy in the family" with DS3

YAB a bit U but you're very hormonal so you're allowed to be

Pipsq could you ask your parents not to talk to you about the DB and his GF and their pregnancy? Tell her you're sorry, but you can't be a confident on that one that the more she talks about them the less special it makes your pregnancy feel? Isn't that crux of what you don't want to be part of?

Oh no! It's fine to think these things, and to post on MN about them, but I really think that mentioning them to other members of the family is likely to lead to problems.
So, rant away on here, pipsqeeke, but not to real life people!

no it's hard to explain II - this is my second for a start their first - for both. my parent's third GC. I know they'll be happy and excited as well. (will also help me to understand PIL's thoughts a bit I think re it being DB not me if that makes sence?) I don't want to be excluded form their news and scans etc nor do I want them to feel they have to hide anything- that's not what our family is about. once everything's confirmed DB will tell the rest of the family- obv SIL as I guess I should call her now is being cautious - which I totally understand. I think DB would be v v hurt if I said I didn't want ot be a confident as we've always been v v close.

HC - have no intention of mentioning it to RL memebers - that's why I MN! lol.

Tbh I agree with you about them being pg only as they don't seem to have known their gfs very long or be in stable relationships (what's that??) before they got pg.

I bet all the babies will made welcome when they arrive though . It'll be nice for your LO to have some cousins of the same age.