NDN is an idiot

[Lemonlady22]

Had problems with the NDN before but thats in the past, tend to ignore now except hellos. Im not well at the moment so maybe its made me a bit touchy, anyway wake up to the engine of his car running(not for the first time) five minutes later he puts children in car, leaves them in it and goes back indoors. ten minutes go by ive and had enough so i go outside and wait another five minutes, there front door is open, the car is in the street by the way, he comes out so i said 'im ill in bed listening to your car engine for the last 10 to fifteen minutes why do you do that all the time' he said a few things but the main thing is that 'the kids are in there watching a dvd' so i said 'you shouldnt be leaving children in a car alone with the engine running'... he got all shitty and said 'so youve never left your children in the car like that' i said 'no actually i havent because its illegal and anyone could get in your car and drive away'...he then just got in the car and ignored me (his wife was still indoors)...so i just said 'its ok i will ring social services then' and i went indoors...so am i being unreasonable, is this a new thing (we didnt have dvd player in our car when my kids were young ) is it ever ok to leave children in the car with engines running?

Kind of terrifying how many parents on here think it's fine to leave their children in a car with the car running, unlocked, in broad daylight. Very odd 'parenting'. Poor kids. about as terrifying as the amount of parents who think it’s perfectly ok to co sleep when all advice is not to and safe co sleeping guidelines only exist because parents ignore the general advice not to do so because of the increased risk of sids which is far greater than the risk of a freak accident happening to a car sitting on someone’s driveway.

NoCauseRebel neither option is something a parent should be doing. Would you be happy knowing someone kidnapped your children and did God knows what to them, because you wanted to leave them in a car for 10 mins? I wouldn't have thought so. Sadly though, such people do exist. Some creep in my home area was trying to recently get children into his car, and that's a quiet village in the middle of nowhere. Shit happens in life, best option you have is to try and prevent that shit happening. If you want to pretend that some areas on the world are completely safe, be my guest. Unfortunately nowhere is completely 100% safe. Precautions need to be taken.

It was in the street. NOT the driveway FFS.

I am fairly relaxed, but could never leave small dc that age out of my sight for that long, and on a public road. What would happen if the 3 yr old decided they wanted a drink, or Mummy or something, got out of the car and headed off in the wrong direction, even worse stumbled into the road. So many bad things can happen if you leave them on their own in the house for just a few minutes, 3 yrs old is almost the worst age for maximum amount of trouble/destruction in minimum amount of time as they are able to climb, unlock, unbuckle, open doors etc but have very little sense of danger. I would put mine in the car and then go back to the house to get bags etc, but I would be back and forth quickly and able to see if they were getting restless and looking for what to do next. 10-15 mins of time alone is a recipe for trouble

Interesting what people think about this. I tend to ignore him most of the time, but i speak to her. This is a man who got applied for planning for an extension on his house which was at first none of my business, but when he showed us the plans we objected because he wanted to join it onto our detached house...knocked on my front door shouting at me ( was looking after my dying mother at the time) and said we were jealous and didnt want him to increase the value of his home...um right...we actually didnt want him to decrease the value of ours...if we wanted a semi we would have bought one!...he also spends most of his days off sawing and drilling in his garden, but shouts at any neighbouring children playing in their gardens after 7.30 to be quiet as his kids are in bed. Many other things, like telling me not to park in the road outside my house as he likes to park their 2 cars out front and there is not enough room!?!.... I wont be apologising to him as he spent all afternoon in his garden making passive aggressive comments. Hes the type of bloke i wouldnt wish on anyone as a neighbour tbh

It sounds as though you're nobody's dream neighbour yourself to be honest. I think I'd be making comments as well (although I'd say them to you directly) if you'd threatened to call SS on me for no good reason.

He sounds like a nightmare, too.

i never said i was a dream neighbour....but im not a self entitled CF for sure