... to ask about three things you think about every day?

[onmydoorstep]

I've NCed for this. For some context I'm in early 50s, nice DH & kids, good position financially (but big mortgage), jobs, health OK, etc. Lots of pluses, and the usual stresses of work, some family stuff, and so on.

I find there are things that I think about almost everyday.

• Parents: passed away over a year ago after long illnesses. I miss them so much, and think about them every day.

• DS: has friends, popular socially but struggles in school, not very motivated at all. He also has some manageable health issues. I worry about him.

• Sex (life passing me by?). My DH is great on so many levels, but his interested has decreased hugely in recent years. I just sense it feels like a chore for him, even when he makes the effort. I daydream a lot ...

My weight (and what shall I eat next...)

Money (have reduced my hours and trying to budget better)

Sorting out my spare room (and getting the junk in there sold/donated)

I do also think about death quite a lot, depending on how my MH is, but not every day

My weight - health has forced a drastic change on diet and exercise. I go between ‘it’s too slow’ and ‘wow, it’s working, I can do this ‘

My heart - 25 July for my 3rd heart procedure. Hoping it’s the last

My family - thinking about all their worries and problems and wanting things to be good for them

Slightly disgusted we’re all so hung up on our weight. A sad statement on modern life, either in how we got there or why we’re so immersed in body image

Weight

Money

How my social anxiety impedes me A LOT.

My Parents- We have a LC relationship and I know that when they pass I will be the one left hurting unless I change things now.

Youngest DD- Starting school in September, feel anxious and constant worry in what class will she be, who will she make friends with, Will the other mums ignore me or talk to me.

Planning- always thinking about what to plan, where to holiday next, where to take DC for lovely day out, where to go, what to do and how much money to put aside for it

Money - the lack of it on a daily/monthly basis and future planning for mortgage and dd’s education

Holidays - I would love to have a proper holiday and I’m always browsing for bargains that I can’t afford! But maybe one day.

Am I doing enough with my dd? As a lone parent I’m aware that I need to make sure I don’t spend all my time doing house stuff and also do quality stuff with her. On the flip side my house looks like a tip and it depresses me.

Food/diet

Kids/husband/dogs

Housework

My kids....DS is off to France this week so planning all that in my head. DD is off to South africa in 2 weeks, so panicking about whether shes got everything she needs and whether she will be ok being away.

My parents....worrying about my Dad as he was diagnosed with stage 2 melanoma last week

Money...always worrying about money

Money

The fact that my husband refuses to give up smoking

How fat I am

Aside from the huge to do list constantly rattling around...

1. When my next Cake opportunity might be (addicted!!)

1. Currently whether I should be worried about the excessive pains I seem to have in my back and hips (mri booked for August!)

1. My step daughter who I haven't seen for 10 years but still think about on a daily basis.

My weight.

Horses, especially the beautiful one I loan.

My business idea and how I wish I had the courage to hand my notice in at work and go for it.

@CharityConundrum

I think we are twins separated at birth

@bluebeck

Weirdly I never worry about weight, although I am and have always been fat!

1. My parents who both died in Jan 2013.
2. My family and whether they are happy and healthy.
3. How my "guts" are feeling because I have ulcerative colitis that really affects my life.
4. That I need to motivate myself to get fit.

Sex (all the time )

Racism/war/state of the planet/consumerism/mainstream media brainwashing

Holidays

1. Dying/cardiac arrest - I have a heart problem and I'm convinced I'm just going to drop down dead!

1. My children - They make me laugh so much

1. How frustrated I am with my life right now

How I can live as simply as possible.

Working out calories in vs calories out.

What I'm going to do with my future child, or what DH and I will do if we can't have them (travel the world as a digital nomad).

A bloke I used to work with.
A bloke I currently work with.
My kids

Ds1 who is a teenager and difficult. I worry about his state of anxiety, his approach to school and whether he has enough friends.

My weight and what I plan on eating.

My job. It is full on and stressful. I enjoy it but cannot get away from it.

Why I still can’t lose weight when I’m really trying

When I will get some of my life back from my 4 yr old who doesn’t go to bed. I think this would help with number one as I could exercise.

Money and how to manage it.

Marriage and wanting DH to not be so fed up / grumpy so easily. He doesn't think he is and it's making me wither away.

Parish vicar

DC's: are they happy?

Money

1. DC - how to keep them safe and happy and what will they need to grow up to be good, capable, self sufficient, strong, kind people.

1. Am I good enough- in so many different ways but mostly as a wife, mother, inhabitants of planet earth, friend, daughter, professional etc

1. My In laws who are emotionally abusive. How to manage them, how to protect DC, how to protect myself, and all angry things I would love to say to them but never will.

I've just realised I ponder quite a lot on things I read on MN

Turquoisetamborine

Why I still can’t lose weight when I’m really trying

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Off thread but if you start a thread in Weightloss we'll be happy to advise!

1. Am I doing a good enough job? I have just become a foster parent, something I have wanted to do for all of my life since being in care myself and I really don't want to stuff it up.

1. Can we really afford for me to foster? The pay's not great.

1. DP. I think about him often through the day.

@reith. Be very careful with that. I totally bought into it too and ended up a lot heavier/fatter 😕 I do still think there are very valid points about yo yo dieting & crash dieting bring bad fir you and making the problem worse, but I think finding a way of eating that works for you long term is important.