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... to ask about three things you think about every day?

338 replies

onmydoorstep · 06/07/2019 09:45

I've NCed for this. For some context I'm in early 50s, nice DH & kids, good position financially (but big mortgage), jobs, health OK, etc. Lots of pluses, and the usual stresses of work, some family stuff, and so on.

I find there are things that I think about almost everyday.

  • Parents: passed away over a year ago after long illnesses. I miss them so much, and think about them every day.
  • DS: has friends, popular socially but struggles in school, not very motivated at all. He also has some manageable health issues. I worry about him.
  • Sex (life passing me by?). My DH is great on so many levels, but his interested has decreased hugely in recent years. I just sense it feels like a chore for him, even when he makes the effort. I daydream a lot ...
OP posts:
bluebeck · 07/07/2019 15:14

My weight and alcohol consumption Blush

Whether my adult DC are OK and how the fuck they will live happy lives in this messed up country/world

Holidays!!

keiratwiceknightly · 07/07/2019 15:17

The size of my enormous tits
My job (mostly good,this)
My weight that day and how far I am from where I want to be

ChihuahuaMummy1 · 07/07/2019 15:27

That I wish I was still on holiday in Crete

That I need to stop eating shit

That I need to exercise

netflixlove · 07/07/2019 15:28

Money- don't have a lot of it as I'm a student at college (20 years old) so rely on my parents and DP (who I live with). Thankfully I'll be eligible for a maintenance loan when I'm at uni next September so should get easier then.

My relationship- I worry that we won't last/he'll get sick of me etc (I'm really insecure due to MH problems and they do put a strain on our relationship) even though most days we're really happy!

Food- I have an eating disorder so I'm always thinking about my next meal/food I need to buy/ if I'm going to binge etc. Sad

Pinkstars2501 · 07/07/2019 15:29

Babies: if we'll ever get to have one. I have stage 3 endo, we've been trying for over two years. Got fertility consultant soon.

Food/weight: mostly how I wish I could eat my body weight in most things and also lose around 2stone....

Work: recent promotion (nothing high flying) so lots of training course to go on.

BillywigSting · 07/07/2019 15:32

How much weight I need to loose (bloody loads)

Money, or my lack thereof

Ds, how he is doing in school, with friends etc.

There's other stuff I think of daily but those are the first three that popped into my head

netflixlove · 07/07/2019 15:33

@Pinkstars2501 Good luck with treatmentThanks

KaleidoscopeEyes · 07/07/2019 15:36

My children, one adult and one teen.

Money.

Death.

I'm really surprised that more people haven't said death. I'm almost 49 and I think about it loads! Mine, DP's, my parents.... Everyone I know around my age is the same.

Fstar · 07/07/2019 15:37

My weigt as a result of illness
My daily health struggles and tiredness
My partners illnessss and daily struggles

Magellan50 · 07/07/2019 15:53

My children, they're absolutely epic.

My ex. If the justice system in this country can't deal with him then my bearing s grudge will have to do.

My writing, I'm starting to make a little money out of it and would like it to take off further.

recklessruby · 07/07/2019 15:53

My cat. These warm summer evenings mean i have to wait up until she s in. I read Company of Liars (600 pages) in 5 evenings waiting for her.
My parents who are 500 miles away in my hometown and in their late 70s. I m off to see them soon.
My dream of getting an RV chucking in my job and house and travelling around with ds and cat. He is 31 and lives with me. He would love to do this too. We would ideally have a lottery win to fund it and buy dd a nice flat before we go. (She s not really a travelling on the road type person).
It gets me through work days.

bluebeck · 07/07/2019 16:05

Interesting kaleidoscope

I am a few years older than you and never think about death. Doesn't bother me at all really as it's inevitable and I feel I have limited control over it. I shall ask my friends if they think about it but you are correct, it hasn't cropped up here much....

Also, I live in a seaside town and bloody love it. Those of you who want to take the plunge, it's so worth it!

Time40 · 07/07/2019 16:28

*Time40 I have a bit of a thing about seaside towns too. I like slightly run down ones, with lots of little ice cream shops. I have a favourite one in particular you may or may not have been to, and I feel it's a real jewel in the genre. It even has a whirly outdoor sea pool.

I think about money a lot too, and car accidents. I am very worried about car accidents happening to people I love.

At the minute though, I'm consumed with indecision over whether or not to get two rescue battery hens*

@UpcycleMyArse - I think we have got things in common! I'm very worried about car accidents happening to people I love, too. I worry about that a lot more than I worry about having a car accident when I'm driving. And I have always wanted to get some rescue battery hens (can't do it, for practical reasons, but I really want some). The seaside town with the sea pool .... Bude? I've been there; it's lovely.

plominoagain · 07/07/2019 16:34

Money . It just seems that at every point we get to start putting savings away , something happens to have to use them.

Work . Always work because I’m always there . Always calculating how long before I can retire .

DD . She’s not a happy girl right now .

MaidenMotherCrone · 07/07/2019 16:36

Cake

Tea

Sex

In no particular order!

Xenadog · 07/07/2019 16:42

Weight
Job
Child

Not in many particular order. Bloody depressing because most of it is worry.

BikeRunSki · 07/07/2019 16:46
  • childcare
  • my weight
  • my getting-older mum who lives alone 250 miles away
  • my friend who died 18 months ago
flirtygirl · 07/07/2019 16:49

My dds, are they happy? Can if do more, do I do enough? What will my older dd do now college has ended. She has autism so what is out there for her?

My mum's health, she had an operation last week and spent 7 days in hospital, will she get worse as she ages? I'm nearly 100 miles away so currently staying with her to do all housework, appts etc.

My ex, he remarried and still playing mind games with me. So controlling. Also he's a bigamist as he remarried after decree nisi but before decree absolute in another country. Our divorce finally went to court a few weeks after he had remarried. He lied for months about all this.

6utter6ean · 07/07/2019 16:52

How I've failed my DS1.
Work
Whether my DP will leave me.

FannyAnne64 · 07/07/2019 16:56

My gorgeous DP.
Where we'll end up moored this winter (live on a narrowboat).
My youngest brother - miss him every day since falling out shortly after loosing my mom 2 years ago.

handmedownqueen · 07/07/2019 20:00

Work - in a good way nowadays as have cut hours and now think about it positively and enjoy my job so much more

handmedownqueen · 07/07/2019 20:01

Oh and my kids and DH
And Brexit. Always Brexit

lljkk · 07/07/2019 20:06

Politics, Work, Exercise.

mineofuselessinformation · 07/07/2019 20:08

Pain
My job
My children

2cats2many · 07/07/2019 20:09
  • Sex. General or specific thoughts.
  • My weight and whether I'm eating too much.
  • what time I'll go to bed. I love going to bed at night.