Have you ever ghosted a friend?

[Nessathewelsh]

So cut them off, stopped contacting them or replying to them.

Why did you do it? What was going through your head? Do you regret it?

Had it done to me a couple of times, never really understood why so just curious!

Thanks!

I’ve ghosted two previously good friends. One of them I felt it was a bit mutual. Once we lived in different locations, she would text me every few months saying she missed me, I would text back, and she would ignore my response. If I ever tried to initiate contact, she would ignore that (as she was MUCH too busy). Finally, I just gave up and ignored a single text from her and as a result, haven’t heard from her in a year.

The second was a friend who has a similar medical condition to mine, and kept intentionally doing things to make themselves worse. For my mental health, I just couldn’t stay in the friendship and watch it happen.

Not ghosted but avoided until I had to front it out and tell her I no longer saw our friendship in the way I used to. I don't regret it or miss her, and I'd known her for 43 years

I haven't. I have been ghosted though and still have no idea why.

I have done it to two people the first one i had known for many years who took me to the point she bled me dry she took everything i could give her in a friendship , disrespecting my boundaries , bullying me , undermining me , sitting in my house til all hours drinking until all hours (whilst i supped a brew as i had a young baby ) to escape her miserable marriage and the second one again the same as the first one. I was too nice to them and afraid of hurting feelings wanting to be the good guy etc what ive learned from these toxic vampires is my own happiness comes first f&*k them if a friendship is making you miserable and affecting you mentally get out !!!! Just limit contact , ignore texts if they care they'l notice and if they dont = result but these people never notice quality over quantity every time !!!!

But what's the alternative- confrontational convos cause more drama imo

I've done it to a false friend yes

Yes. I had 3 friends i saw for ovrr 10yrs, i always rang them. If i didnt they would go out without me as they presumed i was at college/WORK. I mentioned it a few times and they apologised but nothing changed.
Any how i realised i had missed a birthday and was moftified but her birthday fell on the weekend so they would have met up and went out. Pissed off at this point i gavevup ringing them to see if they would ever ring me, never heard back.
I did hear however that they would often complain that i didnt ring them any more and they never saw me and yet it never occured to then they could make the effort. Never really got over it, havent got as close to anyone to class as friends since.
They seemed to want me round but couldnt be arsed and it hurt.

Yes this year.
A friend I met at my last job who at first was a fantastic friend. We ended up meeting regularly for coffee and lunch and she supported me through a very difficult time with an ex partner.
After some time she called me late at night whilst I was still in the relationship and although it was a tough time I am a very loyal and faithful person. She knew I was I was in the relationship still yet she ended up confessing that she liked me as more than a friend before hanging up the phone on me.
I felt terrible for my partner and panicked that I’d done something to make her feel this way but to this day I don’t think I did. The next day she text and apologised if she’d said anything awkward the night before, she’d been drunk and couldn’t remember at all so I decided to keep it to myself and I’d said to her that she’d just said some silly drunken things which she asked no more about. We both knew what she’d said but it was incredibly awkward and I didn’t want to embarrass her or loose the friendship we’d built up.
We didn’t see each other for a while after that as I felt it would be betraying my partner at the time. I’d stopped working where we worked together too, but after about 6 weeks we met for lunch again and all seemed ok.
After a couple of meet ups I realised that all she wanted to talk about was the relationship I was in and even started most meet ups with “so, what’s the gossip?” Which I felt highly uncomfortable about. She wanted it to be going badly and if I said anything positive I was met with raised brows and negativity.
I spoke to her on the phone when I’d broken up with my then partner (probably not the best support in hindsight) and I remember her laughing at me for my interests because I was going for a walk and didn’t want to have a drink with her to “make myself feel better”. It was such a small thing but it made me feel bad about myself at an already rubbish time.
After the next few meet ups I again had 2 occasions where she called late at night. First time around 10 times in a row which I ignored as I worried it would be similar to the last time. Second time again around 10 calls and then a voice message where she shouted “ooooooiiiiii, pick up the phoneeeee!” In an annoyed drunken voice.
I realised then that she was not a good friend and didn’t respect me or my boundaries and that we didn’t really have all that much in common after all.
I’ve met her one time since, I don’t really know why. I suppose I felt bad. She wanted to know “all the gossip” then too. I really didn’t like that I was a source of entertainment almost for her (at least that’s how I felt). She also tried to persuade me into going out drinking with her again but I made my excuses and I haven’t spoken to her again since. That was about 3 months ago.
I do feel bad as I thought we’d built a good friendship at first and I don’t know if she realises any of this as I was a coward and didn’t speak to her about any of these things.
I just know that I wasn’t in a good headspace when we formed the friendship and I think that I was choosing to let people into my life who were toxic for me in both romantic and friendship relationships.