To cancel the surgery tomorrow? I'm scared

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I've had lots of dodgy symptoms for a while(over 10 years) and they are getting worse.
My gynaecologist thinks I have endometriosis.
I'm booked in for a diagnostic laparoscopy tomorrow.
I'm terrified and I feel sick already.
I don't want to have it incase I don't wake up.
I've had my pre op and they say I'm perfectly healthy to have it.
I'm having bowel and bladder symptoms and bleeding after sex.
My smear was normal and swabs etc
It's a day surgery so I can come home same day.
My gf says if it won't kill me don't have the lap.
What do I do ?

Good luck. It's pretty fine really. I'm not sure I can even remember much about the aesthetic. Must be a memory that's faded with time. You go under very quickly. You don't have time to count to 10.

YWBU to cancel at such short notice when you’ve been given a slot, and they probably wouldn’t rebook you, so I’m glad you decided to go ahead!

I had this exact surgery in 2011, and February 2019. In 2011 I was back at work within two days, bloated but fine. This year it took me a few more days to recover as I had a lot of endo lasered away and developed an infection afterwards but it was still well worth having it done. You’ll be fine, thousands of women have this surgery, it’s very minor. I enjoyed having a few days off work to lounge around and be waited on 😂

I normally do fine with general anaesthrtics, but this time when I woke up I felt briefly confused as i had a sense the operation had been cancelled, then looked down and lifted my gown and saw the dressings and burst into tears 😂 I felt like such an idiot haha and calmed down pretty quickly. Don’t be afraid to ask them for strong painkillers to take home. I found out I had only one working Fallopian tube sadly as the other was irreparably blocked which wasn’t nice news to wake up to, but the lasering of the endo must have been helpful as I conceived four weeks later as soon as I was feeling ready for sex again so I think it helped my insides :)

Also I realised that when you come round they only give you pain relief if you request it, which really annoyed me as I was assuming they’d already given me what they could and that I was just being a wuss and held out for ages before asking for some, only to find out they expect you to ask and don’t bother telling you that’s how it works.

I just wanted to say how 'lucky' you are. Sometimes it can take women 8+ years to get diagnosed with endo and most don't get diagnosed at all.

I got diagnosed almost my accident after I had the surgery (they originally thought it was a hernia) and I'm so grateful. You are definitely doing the right thing by going through it.

(also as a side note I got pregnant first time trying so it doesn't always cause an issue with that regard).

I just wanted to say how 'lucky' you are. Sometimes it can take women 8+ years to get diagnosed with endo and most don't get diagnosed at all.

I got diagnosed almost my accident after I had the surgery (they originally thought it was a hernia) and I'm so grateful. You are definitely doing the right thing by going through it.

(also as a side note I got pregnant first time trying so it doesn't always cause an issue with that regard).

Also your girlfriend gives terrible advice, and I’d encourage you listen to your doctors over her, you’re lucky to be getting diagnostic surgery so soon into having symptoms, can take so many years for a lot of women, and she’s encouraging you not to bother? She sounds daft haha.

I'm last on the list at 12.
Typical
I guess someone has to be last
I'm all sat in my gown,did my wee sample,temp taken and bloods.
Just a waiting game now.

How are you doing? I find daytime tv is quite good in these situations because I can’t concentrate to much when I am waiting.

They've stuck 6 of us women in our dressing gowns in a waiting room.
There's no privacy what so ever but never mind.
I wish it was just over

This is honestly the worst bit. I hate waiting when there isn’t much to do and you can’t really concentrate much. By the time it is your turn you will be so bored you will be half glad it is happening.

If you are stuck go on to MN classics and have a read. The Fatball thread and the Elderly Korean Lady in the Garden are good.

@ChazsBrilliantAttitude Thankyou Mumsnet is keeping me company today.
I've read the same magazine 5 times and I couldn't tell you what I've even read ha

Good luck today!! I've had a few procedures done recently which I wasn't anaesthetised for and I was so so scared about pain I may feel. I spent most of the time leading up to the procedures wishing they would GA me.

I have about 4 anaesthetics in the past and I'm still here to tell the tale. It's a reallly lovely, calm and dreamy sensation as you fall asleep and then the next thing you know you're awake again and it's all over.

I just got caught up in this thread if you need a distraction
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/3253840-Its-Royal-Wedding-day-for-the-Playmobil-people-in-our-house?pg=3

Good luck trytrytry it'll be over before you know it. I'm a total wimp, I went private because I couldn't stand the thought of going to the same hospital where I had my c section. I cried all the way down to theatre but deep breathing and closing my eyes helped - otherwise with previous operations I've panicked and fought it which only makes your heart right go sky high. Listen to some calming music/meditation if you can. Best of luck.

Heart rate not heart right!

I'm not sure I'm going to be able to go through with this.
I can't see myself ever being able to do it.
I'm so scared now I've just been crying

You can do this. It really is worth it. I promise you that my experience is that the idea is worse than the reality.

Speak to the staff if you are really anxious. They may be able to give you something to take the edge off your anxiety.

Tell the staff you're anxious.

Honestly you don't need to 'do' anything. Let them help you.

Has the first appointment been done yet? If they can do it, you can!

I've seen a few people being wheeled back with oxygen masks on and I think that's what's scared me.
I'm going to tell the nurse I'm scared when she comes back.
I really just want to go home

Have you read the other replies you’ve had on here OP?

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I find this helps me if I am anxious. It slows and deepens your breathing down which helps you relax

OP, you’ve done the worst bit - the waiting and worrying, imagining everything will go wrong.
You’re almost at the easy bit - having a lovely sleep while a trained professional monitors every beat of your heart, your blood pressure and oxygen level, and keeps you utterly safe and under control.
I’m a retired anaesthetist, and I can assure you that you’ll be deeply anaesthetised, you won’t be aware of the surgery or even the passage of time - you’ll wake up in what seems like a few minutes later, in the recovery room.
We inject painkillers during the op, so you shouldn’t be sore on waking, but if you need a top up just ask and the recovery nurse will give you it.
IF you’re getting anxious waiting, ask the ward staff to contact the anaesthetist and ask for a premed prescription. It’s usually a tablet of a short acting benzo, and takes 30 minutes or so to work, so ask far enough ahead of your planned theatre time.
You will be fine. Nobody wants to do all the paperwork if anything goes wrong! Joking aside, I know it’s a big deal for you, but it’s a routine day at the office, doing a minor day case, for the theatre team.
Have a hand hold from me. And I promise to eat a paper theatre hat if you’re not sitting up in recovery wondering what the heck your were so worried about, by early afternoon!

Honestly OP you'll be fine. I had the same thing done last August, exactly the same experience of waiting room and last on the list!

I'm so squemish and a huge hospital phobic. And you know what? It was a breeze!

Didn't even notice them putting me to sleep! On minute they were chatting to me and the next minute I was waking up! Spent about an hour just coming too, eating some toast etc, then got dressed and collected to go home. Was back in my own bed by about 4pm.

I have read all the reply's Thankyou so much everyone.
I'm being a idiot.
Just over a hour and il be getting started.
It's going to be okay