A message on flowers for baby passing

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A friends son and wife have very sadly lost their DS aged only five hours.

I want to send flowers , in a vase so nothing for them to do.

What message should I write?

I thought

"We are so sad that you couldn't hold XXXX for longer"

Any thoughts please?

I know this may be too late but I lost twin babies last year aged a few hours old, and I actually didn't like all the flowers as they all died as well. Plants were easier to deal with.

In terms of message, lots of good suggestions above, but just "thinking of you, baby X and sending you all our love" is the kind of thing I appreciated.

And if you have already ordered flowers, don't panic! I didn't take offence at them, just wanted to mention that plants/trees were a bit easier for me personally to deal with.

Thank you x

Completely agree with PurpleDaisies- you arent close enough to make a bigger gesture without it looking odd.
Send flowers "thinking of you"-or another simple message.

I think a card with a few words would be sufficient in the circumstances. We kept all the cards we got when our baby died and I go through them at times. However, I wouldn't remember everyone who sent flowers, so years later it's nice to read the cards and think of the person who sent it - many have now passed on.

The one card that stands out for me is the only one that the person wrote 'Congratulations on the birth of your baby xxx. We are so sorry that he did not get to stay with you'. Nobody else congratulated us