Would you be a bit hurt?

[Sunmersunshine88]

Family member is getting married...

There are six of us siblings and they have asked one child from each of the siblings to be on the wedding except any from mine.

I can’t help being very hurt we are a close family and this has just made me feel again like the odd one out AIBU to feel a bit snubbed?

Your are really not BU. Fair enough if ther was only one sibling, nut to pick a child from each sibling not yours is deliberate and thought about, the fact that your mum told them to do it says everything.

Do not book her bloody hairdresser appointment! If she’s capable of getting her haircut she can book herself. Today will be a bad day as now you’ve had the wool lifted you will slowly look back over oak the interactions you’ve had the past decade and see them in a different light. Do not organise them anymore and sorry they don’t include you when you don’t, that is the same way with me. I’m presented and they won’t be flexible but if I plan I plan around everyone.

You are a good person, they are not.

Hopefully the person getting married will see this is cruel, but they might be so under your mothers thumb that they don’t. You are your own person and you don’t have to do as your mother says.

This is the problem with being a pleasant, accommodating person - people who treat others like shit get danced around because nobody can be arsed with their drama, but people who put themselves out for others get forgotten or it is assumed that 'they won't mind' because they always try and make things easier for others.

The only way to break the cycle is to kick back. Say 'no' and mean it. Tell the others that they are being 'over-sensitive' when they make a fuss. Let them sort things out for themselves until they realise how much you have been facilitating their happiness. And spend time with people who appreciate you and value your kindness and good nature instead.

I'm generally the one that does everything for everyone but generally no one gives a shit about. I was also excluded from a wedding recently.

Like hell would I be going to this wedding though, especially if they can't even see what they're doing wrong. And your mother can stick her hair appointment up her arse. Having had it happen to me so much I really hate to see it happening to others. This is your chance to pull back control, if you don't they'll treat you like this forevermore.

Its not you being over sensitive OP. Your family sound quite horrible. Take a step back from them.

It sounds weird and spiteful.

Is your DC a boy and the rest are girls (or visa versa)

Has your DC said they don't want to be involved?

Is your DC clingy to you or really shy?

All rubbish reasons but I cant think what their logic is.

Just ask why rather than assuming / guessing

Op I'm sorry but I think you're the scapegoat of the family. I really hope that you won't go to the wedding and start to pave your own way without them. You aren't their slave.

I’d be cancelling your mother’s hair appointment & when she phones to say how upset she is tell her to stop being over sensitive.