he shaves his entire body, aibu to find i feminine?

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i recently started seeing someone who shaves his entire body , there is not even a strand of hair on his body, i find it feminine, aibu?

My husband used to do this for me. I can't stand body hair. But I like longish hair on the head. Hard to please.

Seriously, there's a good chance he's a cross dresser.

I wouldn’t find that feminine tbh. Women still have some hair albeit significantly less than men. I must admit I find it really gross when men shave. I’d never say anything but I don’t thinl I could have a sexual relationship with someone with a stubbly chest or no pubic hair

I was going to say YANBU.

However thinking about a few past fuckbuddies who were hairless ( into bodybuildering), I'd say if the attraction and good sex is happening you'd easily get past it.

You don't have to question yourself when starting out, if something doesn't suit you, you have the right to end things.

I dated an extremely manly professional sportsman who played a very rough sport who did this. He said they all did it as it was just more comfortable for day to day practices and events. I liked it actually.

The whole ‘feminine’ thing doesn’t register with me. Hair removal doesn’t make someone more like a woman, just as hairy legs don’t make a woman ‘masculine.’

It does sound like a total faff, a bit obsessive and way too time consuming. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who had prickly stubble in personal areas or who hogged the bathroom every morning because there’s nothing quite like a shorn scrotum.

how hairy is he without shaving??

However I am finding the comments of smooth men very insulting towards those with alopecia. Some people just cant help it, and some will shave the rest of their hair if it starts to fall out and goes patchy

this thread is clear that we are talking about shaving\waxing, right?

how hairy is he without shaving??

ive never seen him with hair, ever

Why did you start up s relationship then? This is obviously s deal breaker for you.

Seriously, there's a good chance he's a cross dresser.

he has not given me more reasons to believe he is

Why did you start up s relationship then? This is obviously s deal breaker for you.

because he is a decent guy and also i wasn't awarr that he shaves to this extent

You can't help what you're attracted to or not, but yabu to think of it as "feminine".

Daily? How long does that take?

Daily? How long does that take?

this is a new relationship and only meet on wknds because of distance. i cant say if uts daily

It’s not really the look so much as the significance of going to the effort of removing it. There’s not the pressure on men to not have hair so it would indicate someone being insecure at best and utterly narcissistic at worse.

Alopecia or specialist sports are different because theres a reason for not having hair DH is losing his leg age with age. Not sure I like that look but there’s nothing he can do about it. Was not keen on the pube shaving but he stopped pretty quick when he saw the er lack of appreciation (horror) on my face.

he has not given me more reasons to believe he is

Just be aware. It was the first sign in my case.

A man shaving isn’t feminine, just as a woman not shaving isn’t masculine.

you only need to have your hairy back shaved.

And sorry OP, I should have said, YANBU to fine it feminine. That's exactly how it made me feel. (And he absolutely intended it to feel feminine too, that was the whole point of him doing it).

I hated it, and for that reason I probably should have left the first time he did it, rather than spending years hoping he would stop.

I'd find it feminine because most people who shave their bodies are women. I'd also find it 'bleurgh'.

it's just hair!
i can't believe people think a man shaving indicates insecurity or even narcissism? that's nuts! you can shave in minutes, doesn't have to be a big deal. maybe he just likes doing that - so he does - good for him.

it would not bother me if a partner did this.

What skybluee is saying is what I tried to tell myself. I desperately wanted not to mind but I felt an instinctive revulsion that never went away.