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he shaves his entire body, aibu to find i feminine?

98 replies

lagar · 02/07/2019 10:00

i recently started seeing someone who shaves his entire body , there is not even a strand of hair on his body, i find it feminine, aibu?

OP posts:
AmICrazyorWhat2 · 02/07/2019 13:55

I wouldn’t consider it feminine, more like being with a teenager

Me too, and I wouldn't like it. I do like a bit of hair on a man...plus DH is too chicken to wax or shave his body in case it hurts! Grin

It's just personal preference and if you don't care for the hairless look, he's probably not right for you.

MaMisled · 02/07/2019 13:57

I'd think someone that particular probably wouldn't have enough energy left over for me.

Pinkwink · 02/07/2019 13:58

Gross, I’d hate this.

madcatladyforever · 02/07/2019 14:01

I wish all my partners had shaved, I find men's underarm hair on display repulsive.

IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 02/07/2019 14:02

I find it insane that we're so conditioned as a culture that we would consider any natural part of the human body "repulsive".

Beards aren't my thing. Calling them repulsive is over the line though.

NorthEndGal · 02/07/2019 14:04

It's his body to do with as he wishes, but dang, it's not a look I'd find appealing!

TheCatDidSay · 02/07/2019 14:05

I don’t know really any 20-35 year olds with hairy chests/backs naturally to be honest. They seem to have belly fluffy and slightly hairy legs and pits and that’s about it. Then those that of course shave and wax it all off too.

Suits me and I don’t like the grizzly bear look.

madcatladyforever · 02/07/2019 14:10

I find underarm hair repulsive because it nearly always smells horrible.

Throughthenever · 02/07/2019 14:18

Yabu to find it feminine

God knows what people think of my dh who has alopecia totalis.... are you sure he doesn't suffer from alopecia so shaves to stop patches?

I used to like hairy men until I met my dh... took a while to get used to no eyelashes or pubes but he looks so much cleaner.

He doesn't like hair as he isnt used to it and will make comments come winter and I stop doing my legs but he wouldn't force me to shave.

bluebluezoo · 02/07/2019 14:23

Is he a swimmer?

Swimmers don’t shave as routine. In fact they purposely won’t shave for 99.9% of the time so the difference when they shave before a big race is magnified.

IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 02/07/2019 14:38

madcatlady if people wash it doesn't smell, so just dont go out with smelly soap dodgers, problem solved.

amusedbush · 02/07/2019 15:25

It's a no from me.

he shaves his entire body, aibu to find i feminine?
bringthethunder · 02/07/2019 15:29

I understand your post 100%. My boyfriend does bodybuilding and shaves his whole body so as to show off the muscle definition better. I much prefer him hairy and manly in comparison to the smooth or sometimes prickly during the pesky re-growth period but it is his body and I have no vocal opinion about it other than to tell him he is gorgeous.

Cheeseandwin5 · 02/07/2019 15:36

I would tell him you prefer him with body hair or better still when he does have it tell him how good he looks, but I wouldn't give him some short of order. I can imagine the uproar if my DH told me not to shave / to shave and expect me to do it despite my views. I expect some of those supporting you wouldnt stand for it either!

Ticklingcheese · 02/07/2019 15:39

clockworklime 🤣, I don't even dare to think, what brits imagine we do in Scandinavia.

Op can't blame you, I would find that unattractive, too.

Original poster
lagar · 02/07/2019 17:30

everyone that says im unfair should imagine touching smooth and hairless legs of a manHmm
im going to ask him not o shave his legs if he refuses then im out of the door

OP posts:
FourEyesGood · 02/07/2019 17:31

It’s weird, but it’s not feminine.

Throughthenever · 02/07/2019 17:53

See my post above... my husband has alopecia totalis..... he has no hair anywhere.... I dont find it weird at all...

However I am finding the comments of smooth men very insulting towards those with alopecia. Some people just cant help it, and some will shave the rest of their hair if it starts to fall out and goes patchy.

JustAVoidReally · 02/07/2019 17:55

Yeah, it's feminine, and not attractive in a man. YANBU.

SrSteveOskowski · 02/07/2019 18:02

The 'trying to be politically correct' brigade are out in full force today Hmm
YANBU OP. A hair free man wouldn't do much for me either.

theconstantinoplegardener · 02/07/2019 18:04

Is he a porn star? It's his choice to shave of course, but I would find it very unattractive. Not so much feminine as pre-pubescent. Yuck.

Although I think I'd feel differently if he was hairless for a medical reason, like alopecia. The intent would definitely be a factor in the yuckiness of it, for me.

Oldraver · 02/07/2019 18:05

I used to date a Turkish guy and he fully shaved, it was a first for me but didnt really think much about it

PositiveVibez · 02/07/2019 18:08

Yanbu to find it unattractive.

Yabu to find it 'feminine'.

I have a very hairy au naturel fanny, legs are hairy too.

My husband wouldn't say I was 'manly' though. In fact, I doubt he cares at all. Never been mentioned.

I wouldn't find it attractive tbh as it smacks of vanity and that is not a characteristic I find attractive.

You should dump him though as its not really your call as to whether he shaves or not.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 02/07/2019 18:12

It’s up to him but I wouldn’t like it. I prefer furry blokes and certainly wouldn’t enjoy the cactus like stubble that would set in after a few days.

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 02/07/2019 18:13

Is he an athlete? My DH has been known to shave his legs pre big cycle event so that blood doesn’t matt in hair if he falls off! But not whole body! He does ‘manscaping’ but that’s his choice! But not arms. Chest/back/balls get waxed and legs very occasionally!