he shaves his entire body, aibu to find i feminine?

[lagar]

i recently started seeing someone who shaves his entire body , there is not even a strand of hair on his body, i find it feminine, aibu?

I wouldn't find it feminine but the idea of the stubble...ugh. Legs is one thing but a stubbly chest? No thanks.

We are all free to like what we like and if you don't like this, just end it.

It’s his body to do with what he wants.

Unless you would expect a woman to be shaven from top to toe then when would it be feminine?

On the one hand it’s his body, but on the other I do prefer hairy or at least natural non hairy.

It’s not ‘feminine’ to remove body hair, it’s a choice of an individual person. Though I suspect you already know that. Welcome to MN by the way.

YANBU to not find it attractive, and decide not to continue the relationship, but YWBU to expect him to stop shaving for you.

I had an ex like this. He was pathologically obsessed with wrestling, and thought it made himself look more like a wrestler.

There was something a bit grim about it, I admit.

should i ask him to atleast leave his legs not shaven?

Is he a swimmer?

An i agree with kipper its not femine, its the choice of the indevidal. Although our patrical society has conditioned people to beleive women having body hair is unattractive.

Nothing "grim" about it btw ambush

In germany men shave their legs

Would you be happy with shaving how he wants you to as well?

You have no more right to ask him not to shave any part of his body than a man would have to ask a woman to shave a certain part of their body.

If you can’t cope with the choices they make about their own body then it’s up to you to deal with it or walk a way

is he a swimmer? NO

it just puts me off

You’d be out of order to ask him not to shave anything.
That’s his choice.

I’m in Germany and none of the men I know shave their legs...

Would you be happy with shaving how he wants you to as well? i wouldnt mind

I wouldn’t consider it feminine, more like being with a teenager (which isn’t a good thing) the last time I had a not-very-hairy boyfriend it was because we were both 14

I wouldnt fid it attractive.
It is perfectly normal for younger men to shave their body these days, my nieces boyfriend's are high maintenance body waxing, tanning, eyebrow shaping.
I am late 30's my bloke is super furry.

My ex hated his body hair - he was bald on top and decided one day that he’d shave his chest and legs etc too. I’m the type of person who finds hairy men attractive - even hairy backs and shoulders etc - always have, so I told him it would make him less attractive to me. He said we don’t have sex often enough for that to be relevant, which was kind of the beginning of the end (especially as we’d just had sex at the point he was pondering this!)

YANBU to not find it attractive, just as he might not find it attractive if you stop shaving your pits or legs etc. There’s nothing wrong with making your views on it known, but YWBU to expect him to change it for you against his wishes.

You can not like it, and you can make it a deal breaker, but you can't tell him to change. Just imagine if he told you to wax everything/ not shave (delete as appropriate). It's a personal thing, but you don't have to like it. I wouldn't like it!

Yuk. YANBU.

Do women shave themselves from head to foot?

If you find it off putting then move along and find someone else.

If you don't like it, fair enough. But I wouldn't consider asking him to change his habits

Move on. Plenty of fish and all that.

Of course he is entitled to shave if he prefers, but I do see your point of view OP. My boyfriend is a big hairy bastard and I LOVE it

I can't help wondering if this is one of those threads, that's like a reverse...

Seeing if we all think it's OK for MAN to shave his body/pubes, because lots of women on here says a MAN should be OK with a woman doing what she wants.

Then again, I am a bit cynical.

Btw, I wouldn't care if a man I was with/am with shaves his body or not...

That OK @lagar ???