To want to give this woman a Look and a Word?

[DisgraceToTheYChromosome]

Yesterday, DW, DD and DGS (22mo) were in the supermarket when DGS wandered off. They began searching in a mad panic, and DD asked another shopper if she'd seen a little boy dressed in xxxx. This woman looked her up and down, sniffed and said "Young mothers! Huh!" DD, frightened and on the verge of tears told her to fuck off if she wasn't going to help. Now, judging DD is not the question. The question is: would I have been justified in asking this...person what her problem was, and would she like a bigger one?

He was found a minute later. Luckily someone who wasn't up their own arse had realised he'd bolted, and was chatting to him.

Thoughts?

No I think you're very odd in the extreme that you think people should be robots and not show their emotions when they're very scared. The woman deserved to be told to eff off. I'm absolutely sure that OP is not going to harm the woman but you carry on being dramatic.

I am not talking about the dd or the woman

I am talking about the odd op, who wasnt even there but wants to talk about how he would have saved the day and handled it, been seen as a hero for intimidating the woman.

The woman didnt need intimidating his dd, dealt with it herself. As an adult should.

@BoreOfWhabylon I didnt say you were new.

I said that it appears you both ahvent posted on these names for quite a while.

I reported it. They will confirm. Dont panic.

I remember your linked thread op, glad your gs was found. Women sounds like a bitch, I’d have liked to have said something to her as well if it was my dd and gc

Bore being accused of being disgraced sock puppet 😂

OP, you know nothing about the woman in the shop, she could have mental health problems, brain injury or some other condition. You shouldn't be so judgemental.

You wouldn't be scared if you couldn't find your two year old child? That's strange.

Your reading comprehension is too poor for me to continue conversing with you.

The question is: would I have been justified in asking this...person what her problem was, and would she like a bigger one?

What would be the bigger problem you were going to give her Disgrace? That sounds sinister and akin to a threat of violence to me.

Could you or your fan club perhaps explain why you get a pass on this when any other poster male or female would have their arse handed to them?

LilyMumsnet - perhaps you should direct your peace and love comment to Disgrace.

I've been around for years and years with various names.

I confirm that bith Bore and Disgrace are old timers.

This thread is ridiculous. Disgrace I'd ask for it to be taken down. I might actually ask for the pics on your other thread to be deleted in view of this one. Lovely though they are.

What is wrong with the place.

Yes mn is a hive mind and any other poster would have their arse handed to them

And if you agree with a man on mn you become his fan club 🙄

I don't think any parent who has experienced that hideous awfulness of thinking they've lost their child is responsible for what they say to someone who is judging rather than helping, at the one time they most need help. And the woman's reaction makes you lose your faith in humanity - of course the DD reacted. That's not the issue. The fact there are people out there who will judge and not help is the issue.

Could you or your fan club perhaps explain why you get a pass on this when any other poster male or female would have their arse handed to them?

And why the need to link another thread, where everyone is swooning over the poster.

If the OP was the grandmother and posted years ago about how excited they were to be a gran, no one would have linked it for everyone to read.

It's really odd behaviour.

What's this "been here years" business? I too have been here years, I will still respond to a thread as I read it.

And if you agree with a man on mn you become his fan club

Swooning over the fact that he was excited to be a grandparent and squealing at remembering the baby being born
And ignoring the fact that he wanted to be there to give the woman a bigger problem, makes it a fan club.

What is really odd behaviour is reporting posters because they haven’t posted under their names in a while

I think your AS must be broken

They've had their arse handed to them for a helluva lot less than a threat of violence Every and yet those pulling Disgrace up are the ones who are being berated and he is being fawned over so yes it does seem he has some vaunted status not afforded to others.

Do you need loads of others to agree with you, to back your opinion up? 😅🤣😂.

Ah it's becoming clear now. My reply was because you insinuated(actually, you flat out lied.) that my opinion was a lone opinion. You're one of those people like the nasty lady in the supermarket and no-one will DARE disagree with you.

Whereas I think sneering, carping, nitpicking and flinging thinly-veiled accusations is really odd behaviour.

Here's an Advanced Search of my posts over the last 3 months

www.mumsnet.com/SearchArch?mustmatch=&dontmatch=&nickname=BoreOfWhabylon&src_displ_option=s_m_d_m&fromDate=01%2F04%2F19&toDate=01%2F07%2F19&topicmode=All&availtops=-1

Top Tip: AS only shows 500 posts. When people have years of posting history, AS displays early ones. You need to limit searches if more than 500 are returned

You're welcome

Ah it's becoming clear now. My reply was because you insinuated(actually, you flat out lied.) that my opinion was a lone opinion. You're one of those people like the nasty lady in the supermarket and no-one will DARE disagree with you.

No, you clearly are struggling with reading the posts.

You said 'loads of people agree with me' as though that adds something extra to tour post. It doesnt. Your opinion (that people here are berating her for being a young mum) is your opinion. I cant see it. No matter how many people agree with you, I still dont.

You were the one that started bringing up how many people agree with you.

Seems fair to me

No one on here has berated the mother for being young
HTH

@BoreOfWhabylon it wasnt thinly veiled at all. There was no veil.

I will report to mn that theres an issue with my search. It showed far less than 500 posts in the last few years. As I said before, because you obviously need it. I apologise

I still think linking a previous thread where the OP is oh so amazing for looking forward to being a grandad, odd behaviour. As is slagging off everyone else who has an issue with a man wanting to give a woman a bigger problem.

The woman was wrong for what she did. The dd handled it. She didnt need a man wading and sorting the issue while intimidating a woman.

One of mine was considerably older when they wandered off in a supermarket... Honestly, walk up to the conveyer, look down at trolley pick up two items.. gone.

The fear the concrete stomach...

They were escorted back by a shop worker. I aged about 20 years.

Thanks for your sincere and heartfelt apology Protein

Rainonmyguitar I have read through the whole thread and I cannot see one post berating the mother for being young nor one post condoning the woman's comment.

Posters have taken issue with Disgrace's attitude, implied threat to the woman and the posters fawning over him and excusing him for doing so.

Ooh, the air would have been blue, if that nasty bitch had said that to me.

Your daughter was clearly in some distress, bless her; and all parents have been in that position.

Your daughter was well in order to tell her to fuck off.

RedDogsBeg Exactly. I can’t see a single post berating the mother for being young or defending the older woman. Rainonmyguitar obviously can’t either.

(On the other hand quite a number of people think the OP is a knob )