To lie to a family member that my sons Ill so he can look after the dog?

[teenmum18]

So we have a family wedding this Saturday but I totally forgot about the dog 🤦🏻‍♀️ can't get anyone last minute to look after her and definitely not putting her in kennels. Ds is 16 and isn't interested one bit in going but hasn't moaned and just excepted that his going. Would it be out of order if I tell the bride and groom that he's got a sickness bug and can't attend the wedding? He can stay with the dog and will happily have the house and food to himself so wouldn't feel left out about not going. I know he'd be fine with it but do you think it's a shitty thing to do to the couple?

@Ginger1982 the invite was given to us in January. It's a hell of a long time to know what's going to be going on in July.

But you knew exactly what was happening in July - a wedding. A wedding to which you accepted invitations, for you and your family. How much more notice did you need?

Well I think you Abu. With the cost of weddings these days to cancel at the last minute for a dog is not acceptable. It’s not as if it is a suddenly emergency which meant you had no choice. If your son was really not keen to go you could have said months ago and the couple could have invited someone else instead so him now not going because he has to mind the dog like seems a poor excuse. As is your poor memory.

I think making a dog suffer separation it is not used to for the sake of a few quid and a humans feelings is not at all acceptable!

Teenager doesn't want to go, OP is happy to bung the bride a few quid for his meal, no ones losing out, wheres the problem?

She's messaged back. She's absolutely fine with it 😄 and said she will absolutely not take the money. Don't know what I was worried about 😅

Telling her the truth was def the right thing to do. It’s not your fault your parents changed their plans. Fingers crossed she thinks so too!

Cross post! Phew!

Best of both worlds OP, you can go to the wedding guilt free, pup gets looked after, and DS gets to stay at home instead of being dragged to a family wedding

Good stuff OP.

I hate to ask OP (in case you bite my head off ) but have you heard back yet?

Oops another cross post.

Yes OP updated. All is well.

Actually that’s weird - honest OP, your last post wasn’t showing up when I refreshed but you obviously posted ages before me.

Just tell them that you had noone to watch the dog, so ds had to stay behind. Theyre not going to argue with you, theyll be busy with their wedding

Yes OP updated. All is well.

Is it though? The bride probably felt obliged to turn down the offer of the money. It all sounds rather rude and flaky to me.

teenmum18: I’m not rude

LOL

@teenmum18 fair enough - tell them the truth - your mum who wasn't supposed to be going was supposed to have her, and now she can't. And you forgot to re-arrange cover, so son won't come.

And for gods sake - please ignore the person who actually thought (advised) you to leave the puppy in the car during the ceremony. What an absolute idiotic stupid thing to advise.

X posted. Well done OP. Have a lovely day!