To lie to a family member that my sons Ill so he can look after the dog?

[teenmum18]

So we have a family wedding this Saturday but I totally forgot about the dog 🤦🏻‍♀️ can't get anyone last minute to look after her and definitely not putting her in kennels. Ds is 16 and isn't interested one bit in going but hasn't moaned and just excepted that his going. Would it be out of order if I tell the bride and groom that he's got a sickness bug and can't attend the wedding? He can stay with the dog and will happily have the house and food to himself so wouldn't feel left out about not going. I know he'd be fine with it but do you think it's a shitty thing to do to the couple?

@floraloctopus yes I suffered a head injury 5 years ago and suffer with memory loss ☹️

In which case I apologise for my comment, I thought you were making a joke rather than being serious.

@caughtinanet read the thread

@teenmum18 I think @caughtinanet means if in your culture people just don't show up, why are you worried about your son not turning up? Why do you need an excuse for him?

Can you not take the puppy, leave it in the car for the actual ceremony and then take turns to trot it round the block while the reception is going on? Or is it a puppy pitbull or something really stinky that no one else will appreciate?

@Ginger1982 the invite was given to us in January. It's a hell of a long time to know what's going to be going on in July.

Please don’t take ReanimatedSGB’s stupid advice - even half an hour in a car on a warm day is too long.

Please ignore PP and don't leave pup in the car!

Yes, @ginger1982 that's exactly what I meant, I thought I had posted clearly but obviously not, thank you for explainling

Can you not take the puppy, leave it in the car for the actual ceremony and then take turns to trot it round the block while the reception is going on? Or is it a puppy pitbull or something really stinky that no one else will appreciate?

Stupid advice. OP ignore it please.

If it's routine for people not to turn up, is it even necessary to say anything to anyone?

"Can you not take the puppy, leave it in the car for the actual ceremony and then take turns to trot it round the block while the reception is going on?"

Omg!

Perhaps another guest has a baby who might cry during the ceremony. Maybe OP could get them to put it in the car to keep the puppy company?

The point of sending wedding invitations well ahead of the ceremony is to allow people to plan surely, if you know you can't commit that far in advance (and that's totally understandable imo) then you don't accept, you dont say, sorry I'm doing something else now you asked me too long ago, I'veA never heard of that.

Dont lie about illness. Those things have a habit of biting us on the arse! Tell bride and groom DS had a meltdown and simply can't face a day with adults and in formal clothes, sociallyawkward etc. Definitely let him stay home with the dog. I wouldn't put mine in kennels, infact they've been to 5 weddings with us!!!

Just tell the truth. Say it was a massive oversight.
Lies always come back to bite you. I wouldn't have minded if someone did this at my wedding, and I most definitely wouldn't expect them to pay for the meal, there's always people with big appetites in or family and group of friends, it definitely wouldn't go to waste.

@caughtinanet because plans change? I accepted it because she's close family. We don't do holidays ect so knew we'd be around. Now it's got to this because mother can't have the dog?

@Bourbonbiccy exactly. Dh will have it if no one else wants it lol

I would let her know ASAP though now, she won't want it dropping on her any closer to the wedding than necessary, she will have enough to deal with. She may have Someone to slot in that didn't make the cut

Dont lie about illness. Those things have a habit of biting us on the arse! Tell bride and groom DS had a meltdown and simply can't face a day with adults and in formal clothes, sociallyawkward etc.
so dont lie about him being ill come up with a different lie unbelievable

I would probably leave him at home with the dog but I’d be inclined to explain to them that you haven’t been able to find a dog sitter and he’s your only option. I’m sure they’d rather you go without your son than not at all.

@Ginger1982 because I feel guilty for not being organised and getting the dog looked after. I'm not rude either so wouldn't except an invitation if I had no intentions of going.

I cannot believe the suggestion of leaving the pup in a car :( temperatures are hitting record levels right now and a hot car can kill very easily, even in the shade.

I've messaged her 🙈 and told her the truth! God I hope she understands. Is 5 days before too soon? Would they have paid for it all?

If you’re going to leave DS with the dog, phone the bride now and explain the situation and apologise profusely. Hopefully she will understand.

X post, that’s good OP.