Should I complain about my grocery delivery?

[Sultanainasalad]

I had my groceries delivered this morning. The driver (1st time this driver delivered to me) brought it into the kitchen for me. We were chatting about having young kids and how hard it is.

He was friendly and was chatting longer than usual, maybe 10 mins. By the end I was trying to get a natural break in the conversation to move him along. I sensed he was getting a bit flirty, even though I was in shattered Sunday morning mode.

I found the flirty bit annoying as I don't want weird men in my house, I just wanted my groceries but then an hour later he whatsapped me, saying 'it was nice to talk to you this morning' (I'm not going to reply to the creep).

AIBU to be annoyed by that and want to complain about it?

Am I also AIBU to be wary of complaining as he knows my address and phone number?

Were you 'a bit flirty' back? What'sapping you later is crossing a line but before you complain about him is it possible he thought you were flirting too?

What were you wearing, OP? Are you sure you didn't encourage him just a bit? You didn't stop him when he cae into your house at first though, did you? So it's possible he thought you wanted to chat to him?

FFS.

For the avoidance of doubt I'm being sarcastic because I am SO SICK of men being excused from behaviour that is 100% wrong and inappropriate because everyone turns and asks what the 'victim' did to 'deserve' or provoke it!!!

You are absolutely definitely not being unreasonable AT ALL.

You MUST complain. He has not only completely overstepped the mark, he has also broken GDPR rules and committed gross misconduct.

Even if you were being friendly, or flirty, or god damn it blatantly sexual towards him, it does not, in anyway whatsoever, mean he steal your personal details to contact you. It is a massive breach of data protection laws, and I am sure the supermarket in question will act quickly and reprimand him, as it brings their reputation into disrepute.

You sound like a lovely, intelligent and thoughtful person. Please don't let your good nature allow him to get away with this - if he's capable of this goodness knows what else he may do to others in the future if he's not stood up to.

Good luck, and get on that phone to complain!

I would definitely complain. That is a massive breach of GDPR.

Perfectly put, @Goingonagondola

I'm surprised he had an hour to spare they normally are tomed closely on deliveries. I'd think talking to someone for an hour might suggest you were slightly interested in them but absolutely he shouldn't use data from his job to contact you.

Hmm there are often posts on here where the op fancies the post man, delivery driver, plumber etc and they are always being egged on to find a way to contact him, this is just the same thing really, he misread the signals, I’m not saying to not complain but I don’t think he is some sexual predator like some pp are making out.

It wasn't an hour. It was ten minutes.

By the sound of it, nine minutes too long.

well someone will be getting their p45 today!

Hmm there are often posts on here where the op fancies the post man, delivery driver, plumber etc and they are always being egged on to find a way to contact him, this is just the same thing really.

Even though it's a clear breach of his employment? Even though it's a clear breach of GDPR?

BigRed It's not the same at all. A woman has a right to order something for delivery and expect an employee of the company to not misuse her contact details.

RedHelenB where did you get an hour from? The OP says 10 mins

it's against the law to use someones personal data the way he did, definitely complain to his work, this guy is a creep, he will be going in to vulnerable peoples homes, it is your duty to tell someone x

Please complain so he can’t do this to other people

Hmm there are often posts on here where the op fancies the post man, delivery driver, plumber etc and they are always being egged on to find a way to contact him, this is just the same thing really, he misread the signals, I’m not saying to not complain but I don’t think he is some sexual predator like some pp are making out

I see where you are coming from but unfortunately I think this is a case of risking a mans replaceable job which he doesn’t seem well trained for vs risking other women who might face this unknown man (could be predator) accessing their information and addresss and having zero professional boundaries and hence making them vulnerable to all sorts.

It’s difficult but that’s why he is in the wrong job if he didn’t understand his training and his life won’t end if he lost his delivery job.

I’m not saying what he done was right just that some of the comments are ott and being “scared” he knows where the op lives over one WhatsApp message is unnecessary.

Sorry if I am repeating but I would complain and make it clear that you do not want this man to make deliveries in the future. It would be very awkward...

‘and being “scared” he knows where the op lives over one WhatsApp message is part of being a woman’

There. Fixed that for you.

He fancied you, got a nice vibe so took an opportunity to initiate further contact. You can ignore this and forget it happened no harm done. If he continues to pursue you then you report him and complain.

Do you think it was the mention of her husband upstairs that set the mood?

Fatasfooook using confidential customer data without permission isn’t an opportunity to initiate contact, it’s hugely inappropriate and unprofessional.

yep, he liked you,
chanced his arm.
ignore
dont let drivers into your house.
perhaps he was not the full ticket?

Please don't complain. He has young kids and needs the money. If you want to let him know he upset you then text him and tell him so and then tell him other women might report him - so he's better knock it off.

Or perhaps it was because her mother was in the sitting room with the kids?

Jesus wept.

Big we SHOUlD worry about his access to people’s address and information when he displays little understanding of professional boundaries. He COULD be a predator/rapist/theif just like how he could be innocently gullible with little social awareness. He displayed poor understanding of boundaries and so it should be examined whether he is in the right job that gives him such access to people’s homes and data. Plenty other jobs which could suit him best.

Sorry, not aimed at you, Breathlessness. You and I are on the same page. My comment was meant to be an ironic follow-on to yours.