I have always accepted my workload as part of doing the job I love and I don't moan about it.
My ex, though, would get really, really annoyed. He works in a high stress industry and works extremely hard. He would always answer work emails on holiday and seemed to be constantly working.
But he looked at what I had to juggle and would get angry. He'd say the expectations are so unreasonable and the pressures so many that, in his industry, they would take on more staff, people would say 'no' far more often than teachers do.
He got angry about my 'it's just the way it is' comments.
I actually started not telling him when an extra job landed on me (organising sports day, the Christmas play, the school council, a trip for STEM club...) because he'd invariably say 'just say no' or 'I assume you're being paid more for this extra job?'
And something that hasn't been mentioned when talking about going up the pay scale is that you don't get monetary reward for being good at your job, you get it for the extra responsibilities your seniority 'wins' you.
Things like (and I'm primary so this might be different for secondary)
Mentoring student teachers
Leading multiple subject areas
Leading a team or key stage.
Leading on a new school-wide initiative
Re-writing policies
Leading staff training
... it goes on...
We are managers of staff as well as teachers. I am on the upper pay spine and have a TLR, but I manage a large team and am responsible for monitoring, managing and supporting a quite large team of teachers and TAs as well as monitoring and supporting the whole school in my subject area.
When a teacher in my team is off, who arranges cover? I do. We don't have HR to organise it. The Head delegates it.
If a teacher isn't performing, who supports, mentors and monitors? I do.
When the end of Key Stage SATs, time's tables tests, phonics screening...times come round, who administers, assesses and data inputs? I do.
This is becoming more of an issue now with the new Ofsted Framework, which puts the pressure on subject leads to talk about how they are leading their own areas - and relies far less on what the Head says or what the progress data looks like.
I'm not more tired than anyone else. Or more overworked than anyone else.
I'm only saying this because it irritates me that people assume they know what my job is and what it entails because they went to school, or send their children to one.