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Next doors pissing parcels WIBU

226 replies

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 20:40

Moved almost 3 months ago, waiting to go back to uni so I’m in maybe 60% of daytime hours. Next door is also a single mum and doesn’t work. I hear her in most of the time I’m in.

In the 3 months I’ve lived here, I’ve had delivery people knock for her packages to be left here between 1-3 times a week. Every week. She never introduced herself, I have seen her a few times over the garden fence and said Hi, tried to initiate chit chat when seeing her on the front but she doesn’t seem to want to talk (completely understand that).

Out of all these parcels she has never come to pick them up, the delivery people always say they will put a note through her door so she knows they’re here. I’ve always waited a day or two then taken them round, usually when there’s a few.

On Thursday I accepted a package for her then another man appeared, they brought a huge really heavy box with a picture of a chest of drawers on! He said he was pretty sure he heard someone in the house but no answer so I took it anyway. It’s far too heavy for me to even move slightly. So it’s been here since thursday and she still hasn’t come round. I put a note through her door this morning asking her to come get it and she put one back through mine (?!) saying she can’t because it will be too heavy and she’s a single mum. I knocked for her again knowing she was in but she didn’t answer. It’s definitely too big and heavy even if I suggested we both try to move it to hers we probably couldn’t. WIBU to call the couriers back and tell them I want to return it?! Would they even do that? I can’t open my front door properly because its so huge, cant move it elsewhere!

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Dodie66 · 26/06/2019 09:10

Why on earth is she ordering stuff then. It doesn’t seem like she ally needs it. I would get somebody to help move it outside her door and refuse to take more parcels

Dodie66 · 26/06/2019 09:10

really

RhiWrites · 26/06/2019 09:23

Leave her a note saying that you will move it to hers tomorrow between say 5-7 pm and leave it in her garden if she’s not in. Take a photo of the note, then take a photo of the parcel when delivered and that’s all.

Do this but also leave her a note.

Dear neighbour,
I am also a single mum. I have been taking in parcels for you three times a week for months and delivering them. You have ignored my attempts to contact you and have been entirely ungrateful. This is the last time I will accept a parcel for you. Do not expect any further favours.
Yours sincerely,
You.

Eliza9919 · 26/06/2019 09:25

@Lovelost01 What does she say when she does answer the door to you to take her parcels from you?

ChoccyJules · 26/06/2019 09:31

I can’t understand why you have continually dropped the other parcels round for her, especially given she blanks you when outside.

After the first one I would have assumed they were gifts and kept or sold them. She clearly didn’t want them and can’t prove you had them (whatever a delivery note says).

As for the chest of drawers, I’d be tempted to offer it to a local charity who has a van to collect. However in the interest of neighbourly harmony I would put a note through her door saying she has 24 hours to collect it or it’s going to charity. Then never take in anything else.

sackrifice · 26/06/2019 09:34

I'd have put that on freecycle the minute she wrote that note.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 26/06/2019 09:57

*I said yeah and signed it

Stop doing this! Problem solved. Well, for the future. I'd return the chest of drawers and tell her to answer her front door.

BookwormMe2 · 26/06/2019 10:01

What's the latest, OP? You really should make it clear you won't take any more parcels for her. We found out recently our NDN had stuck a note on their front door directing deliveries to ours! We gave them short shrift for being such CF – one delivery came late at night and woke our DC – and now refuse all packages.

Orangeballon · 26/06/2019 10:07

Stop taking in parcels.

Happyspud · 26/06/2019 10:10

Unpack it, build it, use it. And thank her kindly for the gift. Or maybe it’s payment for all the parcel motelling you’ve done for here this last 3 months.

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SlothMama · 26/06/2019 10:46

She's a CF what has being a single parent got to do with being incapable of opening her front door to couriers and collecting her parcels? I would refuse parcels for her in future and call the courier to collect the drawers. Or just leave them in her garden.

Itssosunny · 26/06/2019 10:52

OP, you've knocked on her door and you've also left a notice for her. Couriers have also left a delivery note for her. What I'd is to contact the company and tell them that the neighbour doesn't want to collect it.
CF may have gotten a refund for the parcel already as it's been undelivered. Do call the sender and no more parcels.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 26/06/2019 10:54

Put a note through her door (if she is refusing to answer her own door) stating that you have X number of parcels for her to collect from your house and you will no longer accept ANY parcels/packages for her under any circumstances as she has never collected ANY of the ones been delivered so far, you have brought them around to her.

Then on your front door, get a sign made up and pop it in a clear plastic pocket (or laminate it), stating that only deliveries for your address will be accepted. NO deliveries for any other address will be accepted. Then, if a delivery guy shows up with another package for her, you point them in the direction of this sign and refuse to accept it.

She is getting away with it because you're not standing up to the delivery guys and saying "No, that's not for me so I'm not taking it in". They just want to mark that the items were delivered. They really don't care to whom they have delivered it.

rosemarysalted · 26/06/2019 11:04

What difference does it make if she's a single parent? I'm confused???
Why is that her excuse?

TantricTwist · 26/06/2019 11:09

Stop accepting the parcels

My new neighbour was having all her parcels delivered to me. I asked the delivery people if she had put me down as someone to have them delivered to and they said yes.

I knocked on her door and asked her to remove my name and refused to accept any more parcels. (esp as she was never in to accept mine which I had to traipse to the post office to get each time or they were left in a secret spot)

timeisnotaline · 26/06/2019 11:13

She won’t have got a refund, even if they do agree one it will take them longer than that.
Do people seriously think it sounds like his woman will somehow bring legal charges against the op for damaging her chest of drawers if she delivered it piece by piece? Company will day we delivered , op would say best i could do,

Aren’t you a single mum too op? If so I’d put a post it on each piece saying I’m a single mum, not taking any more parcels for neighbours.

StrangeLookingParasite · 26/06/2019 11:13

She then turned up expecting me to carry it while she watched (I was 2 weeks post ceserian - it wasn’t happening).

Where do these people come from? Shock

PlinkPlink · 26/06/2019 11:19

In the run up to DS arriving, we had loads of parcels arrive but we were rarely there because we both worked.

My neighbour (who told it like it was, a spade is a spade kind of thing) took in a few of our parcels but it did get a bit ridiculous so she started to refuse our parcels.

We never named her or anything s someone to leave a parcel withbut the post woman would always knock on her door asking if she would take them in.

The postlady (poor woman) eventually got shouted at by my neighbour when she also asked her to take in other peoples parcels too.

It seemed a bit harsh at the time but we spoke to her and she firmly told us she wont be taking parcels all the time. Every now and then she said would be okay but not all the time.

Fair enough. We totally got that.

What you've got there is a CF. Expecting you to take parcels around because she's a single mum? Um... no. I suggest you quite calmly tell the next delivery person 'no'.

NaturalBornWoman · 26/06/2019 11:20

Where do these people come from?

They only exist on MN, as do the victims of the appalling behaviour who cannot function normally to deal with it.

PepsiLola · 26/06/2019 11:44

You really need to speak to her, whether in your garden over the fence or whatever.

Ask her why she never answers her door and that you're not here to take her deliveries.

I'd put the drawers next to the bins on bin day, but post a message telling her you're doing so

Itssosunny · 26/06/2019 11:56

Actually I am not sure you can put the drawers next to the bins. Nowadays those who are wrong get legal protection. I'd call CAB and ask.

JacquesHammer · 26/06/2019 11:56

Don't open it or list it on FB.

Enlist your dad/brother to help you move it to her doorstep. Send her a note saying "it will be on your doorstep at x time. I am no longer able to take in deliveries for you".

Job done.

CookPassBabtridge · 26/06/2019 12:19

She's weird. Socially awkward enough to not make chitchat or open her door to delivery people, but is fine to have you coming round to her door every week. Why would someone not want their deliveries straight away!

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