For getting red rage when changing toddlers nappy?

[Mummoomoocow]

He used to be such a happy little baby when having his nappy changed but recently he’s been rolling and refusing to lay still.

I’ve noticed two finger bruises on his thighs and I’m certain it was me from trying to stop him rolling shit all over the place! I feel mixed emotions - rage for something that used to be so easy, horror for the bruising I’m obviously inflicting on my little boy and disappointment with confusion; how am I meant to do this differently? I don’t want to finding bruises regardless of why.

Does anyone have this problem? How do you stop them getting up too quickly/rolling it around?

You cant. Just try and be quick. Maybe try doing on the floor. Or giving them something to play with, something not usually allowed like wipes or your phone or keys.
We used to really struggle too.

As much distraction as you can manage, raspberries, silly faces and obviously swipe the shit away as quickly as you can.
How old is he though? As they get older it’s harder, and more of a case for potty training.

I hated nappy changing with my 2nd - he thought running away covered in shit mid-change was the funniest thing in the world. Made me furious.

I used the nappy pants, minimised the time it took to change the nappy.

Have you tried pull ups. May be easier.

Standing up changes work here - not so easy with nappy pants which we sometimes use!! Or I get big sister to distract if I need him to lie down!

Get everything ready before hand so it's as quick as possible. I second the use of things they aren't usually allowed, I let mine hold the cream or packet of wipes.

If it's just a wet nappy change and you use pull ups I just do it standing up so it's less of a fight.

For out and about, use the safety strap on the changing table. It's meant to stop them rolling off but also stops them rolling away.

For at home, use the leg bridge. Sit in the floor, lie toddler in front of you and put your leg out over their middle with your foot flat on the floor so your toddler is under the arch on your knee. No weight is resting on them and it doesn't hurt but it blocks any rolling, then change the nappy as quick as you can.

I found singing helps with my second when he is being wiggly. I sing the wheels on the bus and it distracts mine enough to get him changed and trousers back on.

Give him your key ring full of keys to play with while you do the biz. If he tries to make a getaway, hoik him back by his ankle. (Gently of course, we used to make it a game, to shrieks of laughter).

I’ve found using nappy pants easier to get on but it’s literally the part where I’m wiping that’s making me crazy.

He’s 17 months, not anywhere near ready for potty training but are there ways to get him prepared for the future to hurry things along?

DD has been like this since she rolled at 4 months, it's awful. I put her in pull ups about 6/7 months when I found they existed - now a wet nappy doesn't mean having to lay her down. Fortunately for me (unfortunately for them!) nursery get the majority of DD's nappies to change.

She screams like I'm torturing her sometimes and often ends up wriggling free and smearing shit everywhere.

I used to do the leg bridge too, works really well, especially if you play peepo over your knee.

I have seen my son get changed at nursery, lies as still as possible for them! Little monkey!

I also hold both ankles in one hand and hold them up so he can't wriggle too much!

Do changes standing up! We reverted to this when our son was a toddler - he HATED lying down & doing it - no matter what distractions or techniques we used! We used to stand him in front of the TV unit or his little table or various other places & let him play with his cars/trains or a book etc while we did the deed - I got it down to a fine art & could even do poo really fast with no mess!!

I used to sometimes lay them in between my legs while I knelt over them. So I wasn't touching them or putting any weight on them. But if they tried to roll off they couldn't escape.

Another option was changing them in the living room in front of the telly. That always distracted them.

Had to change DS1 standing up from 8 months. DS2 is the same but doesn't stand up very consistently yet so that's out as well! I've got the wiping down to a speed and do the usually forbidden item trick. We have several things on rotation and when he gets bored of something I try a new one. Doing up the nappy I find I can do in most positions, you just do it loosely/badly at first and then reposition one tab at a time.

Another one for the standing up nappy change. DS used to give me the rage too.

Try finding an object or toy that he really loves and only ever give it to him to look at when changing his nappy. It passes luckily.

Pull ups and standing up

Sit on the settee and lie him on a mat on the floor Inbetween your feet. Put a foot on each shoulder... Gently but firm.

They can't go anywhere then and it's easier to clean them off.

Feeling your pain with this one. DD2 (almost 2) fights me on EVERYTHING just now. Nappy changing. Tooth brushing. Hair brushing. Screams like she’s being tortured and gets very distressed. I hate it and dread it. The worst is tooth brushing I have tried everything and nothing works so now I wrap her in a towel and force it. It’s horrific but it has to be done.

This is gonna sound so very strange but literally the only way I could clean my youngests bum when he was around 10 months old was with one of those little squirt guns filled with warm water. He found it so funny me squirting water at his bum that he then wound stay still long enough for me to clean up with cotton wool. It was a nightmare in small squealing baby form.

We used to put Small Potatoes on the TV , 3 minutes long, hopefully the length of the nappy change!

Would a "clean hands changing mat" be any good? Some also have clips to attach toys to so they're kept busy.