For getting red rage when changing toddlers nappy?

[Mummoomoocow]

He used to be such a happy little baby when having his nappy changed but recently he’s been rolling and refusing to lay still.

I’ve noticed two finger bruises on his thighs and I’m certain it was me from trying to stop him rolling shit all over the place! I feel mixed emotions - rage for something that used to be so easy, horror for the bruising I’m obviously inflicting on my little boy and disappointment with confusion; how am I meant to do this differently? I don’t want to finding bruises regardless of why.

Does anyone have this problem? How do you stop them getting up too quickly/rolling it around?

No 2 decided she'd stop nappies at that age. Clean immediately night and day. He might be ready.

My son's the same age. I do it on the floor and pin him with my leg.

My 9 month old is a nightmare. I’m yet to work out the correct technique. Nothing distracts him from his desperate desire not to have his nappy changed!

We distracted with nursery rhymes on our phones.

I listened to baby shark so many times to distract ds. I played it on my phone for him to see. I dont know what's more annoying: wiggly poo covered toddler or quiet, still toddler and baby shark on repeat.

I'm in the club too. He rolled dead on 4 months and it's got increasingly worse every since. I also swear he works out in his sleep because he's really strong!

It depends how they are standing. If they have their legs tense and are clenching bum cheeks with the effort then no you can't get in there very easily, especially if they have quite a big bum. DS1 was slimmer and I don't remember it being such an issue. If you can trick them into crouching or relaxing their thighs a bit (easier once they can stand more easily, I assume a 17mo can, a 9mo maybe not) then you get the same position effectively as legs up so you can get in there quick.

I used to stick DS1 in the bath, take the nappy off and hose him down!

Been reminded above that with one child stickers on his hand really did help.

I know what you mean I was changing 8 months old the other day and the changing mat ended up on his head.

I used to put some toys or the ipad on the sofa and change dd whilst she stood up playing.
Soooooo much easier

Putting Cbeebies on used to work for me. And swapping to pull ups when they were old enough

Feel the pain here too! 9 month old is a wriggly screamy nightmare sometimes being changed ! Really over the top chatter sometimes helps as does holding forbidden items but not always!!

I learnt to change mine standing up. I’d also give them a mildly interesting toy/book/keys to play with and I’d be as quick as possible. Definitely make sure everything is ready to go before changing. You just have to be quick really and remember potty training is around the corner.

I had this and was also filled with the rage.

You might think 17m is way too young for potty training but what massively helped me was spotting that he often pooed at the same time daily, usually after breakfast or dinner or after the bath. So I got him sitting on a potty for 10 mins at those times and within about 3 weeks, probably 80% of number twos were in the potty. He was about 17m. Changing wet nappies was less messy & just required a quick wipe so less of an issue! The potty probably saved my blood pressure.

I get so cross with my 15 month old! A 1/2 minute nappy change takes ages. He rolls, screams and twists. They are so strong! It gets better once they can understand they need to lie still. My daughter learnt to put legs up and down as needed!

I put a YouTube video on my phone of emergency vehicles and he stays still and watches it for a minute. Without this we would be looking at a 10 min wrestling match ending in crying (me)

A little sticker on each hand keeps mine distracted enough to do the change

I think Oh Crap Potty Training reckons you can start at 20 months BTW. Might be worth reading?

Not much help for out and about (as everyone says, just be as fast as you can), but this mat has been a lifesaver at home! It's a mat with straps like a rucksack so they can't roll over or attempt to stand. It's unavailable on amazon at the moment but if you can find it elsewhere it's a complete godsend, seriously.

www.amazon.co.uk/Rabbitts-Safety-Changing-Mat-Cream/dp/B000UEPTMU?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

If you have a bath I'd pop him in that. Any chance the wipes are stinging him? My DS is 11 so I've forgotten a lot, but I do remember switching to the pull-ups, washing him off in the bath and holding his feet/ankles together with one hand while I wiped with the other.

Your feet in their armpits and change the nappy lightning fast. Or hangs them standing up while transfixed by something (not recommended for poops!)

*change them, not hangs

If it makes you feel any better I changed my 2.5 year olds bum the other day while he was basically in a shoulder lock, similar to a headlock but around the entire top half of the child.

Nothing says 'terrible twos' more than the poo covered wriggling bare arse of a toddler attempting to escape and doing flying scissor kicks whilst the top end screams what I can only assume are obscenities.

another vote for standing up, I don't think I've done a lying down change for DS since he could stand up. do it in front of the sofa, put a book or toys on the sofa that he can reach without bending over.

also, if needs be, do it in 2 stages as in get the clean nappy on and if you need to let him go and run around for a few minutes without his trousers then fine. wait till he's calm and pop the bottoms back on.

omg I hated this stage. I used to try to give them something to play with while I was changing them, and on the few occasions that didn't work I'd change them on the bathroom floor so I could hold them down with my leg across their chest. It's awkward AF but at least it doesn't hurt/bruise like holding them tight with your fingers does.

Good luck OP!