To think DH is a bastard about this (Miscarriage related)

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Started with a very early miscarriage last Thursday afternoon. Spend most of the rest of the day and the Friday bleeding, in pain and upset. DH was kind of supportive but I went all day without him offering to make me so much as a drink.
Yesterday I pulled myself together and DH and I did a lot of work in the garden. DH never once asked how I was. Last night I worked a 12 hour shift which finished at 9 this morning.

I was exhausted and passed some clots so I got in and said I wanted to to go to bed. DH obviously not happy as he wanted to to do more in the garden and wanted my help in that and keeping DS entertained.

At 12.30 he sent DS to come and wake me, I asked if I could have a bit longer as I just passed a clot the size of my fist. DH not happy but agrees.

I came down at 3 and since then DH has just curled up on the sofa snoozing. He has done nothing with DS just sat him in front of the I pad all day while he watched sport.

Not given me a hug or asked how I was I have just got attitude.

He works 20 hours a week so not a huge amount. I have done 42 hours this week.

AIBU to think he should have let me rest for most of the day and done something with DS.

I used to do night shifts occasionally before DS as a second job, I'd get home DH would make me tea, breakfast if I wanted it and I'd stagger off to bed, he wouldn't dream of waking me, even watched TV etc with wireless headphones if he was home for the day, then he'd run me a bath when I got up if I wanted one, and a big mug of coffee. To treat you like that is unacceptable, to treat you like that while you're suffering a miscarriage is unforgivable.

Stop trying to breed with this idiot

Some men are such fucking twats. If they went through what you just did they would need to be coddled 24/7. My god I am sorry for what you have gone through. I hope things turn around for you xx

All of this without the miscarriage is pretty grim. Add the miscarriage in and it’s just vile! I know my partner was a bit confused when I thought I was miscarrying (don’t know what it was but felt exactly like the miscarriage I had at 18) he didn’t understand what was happening and didn’t understand that I was passing loads of blood and crazy pain until I laid it all out and his face was like whattttttt.

6 miscarriages in though, I’m pretty certain he should know what it entails and be a bit less of a fucking cunt!

I'm sorry for your loss.

If you're passing fist- sized clots, you should probably seek medical advice, and get signed off from work. It sounds as though the pregnancy may have been more advanced than you realised.

Your husband is a horrible man. Waking you after a nightshift would be nasty even with out the MC to consider.