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I'm having the worst holiday aibu ?

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seaandsandy · 23/06/2019 10:01

Me and my boyfriend of 5 months have came on holiday on Wednesday.
We are in Tunisia.
We got a cheap deal £286 each all inclusive,I thought amazing.
It's grim
The bar is open 10am to midnight and every day/night he has been drinking,to a point he keeps falling over.
He starts drinking after breakfast.
We haven't left the hotel.
He says why pay for all inclusive to leave the hotel.
Aibu to think this is the Pitts ?
Weather is hot

OP posts:
growlingbear · 23/06/2019 10:32

That's my idea of hell. I'd leave him to it, find a quiet sunny spot by the pool and just read and swim then split up with him as soon as you are home.

BearPear · 23/06/2019 10:32

We went to Tunisia on honeymoon (1989). It was an awful experience, the food in the hotel was so bad I lived on chicken sandwiches for 2 weeks and lost half a stone.
I wouldn’t like to be there with someone who was almost permanently drunk - the boredom alone would be a deal-breaker.
I’m going on my first AI holiday this year, people who drink all day are my worst fear. I hope you manage to salvage something from your trip, even if it’s only a great tan!

speakout · 23/06/2019 10:32

Not everyone who books all inclusive drinks all day.

I have been on lots of budget all inclusive holidays, it's a great option with kids.
Most people are sensible with their alcohol consumption, a beer or two at lunchtime, or wine with their evening meal.
Most people stick to coffee and soft drinks during the day.

candycane222 · 23/06/2019 10:33

Sounds like one to chalk up for experience OP. Whether or not he's an alcoholic, he is putting the vodka before you, and that's all you need to know.

user1497997754 · 23/06/2019 10:34

Enjoy your time by the pool reading and sunbathing......dump him when you get home....tell him that on Wednesday he must not drink as he might not be allowed to board the flight......you will have a nice suntan when you get home x

Whisky2014 · 23/06/2019 10:34

Why spend 4 more days in the company of this idiot in a place you aren't enjoying. Life is too short.

Get on a plane!

Or go all out spend money on a nice hotel and just go there yourself.

Do you really want to be with someone who isn't interested in the world, what surrounds him, sightseeing? Oh no, as long as he has his food and booze he is fine. Yawn

miaCara · 23/06/2019 10:34

Sounds like you are now single OP !
I think the best thing you can do is enjoy your solo holiday. Make bus-stop conversation with other women and ignore the drunk who sleeps in your room.
I know nothing about Tunisia but its a shame you cant get out and about. Maybe ask some of the female staff if they speak english- or see if other guests have arranged something you can book too? Sometimes you just have to (safely) put yourself out there.

pinkyredrose · 23/06/2019 10:35

He blanks out after rvey every night out?! Shock

This one's not a keeper.

user1497997754 · 23/06/2019 10:35

You could always speak to the rep or hotel explain the situation see if you can have another room x

GertrudeCB · 23/06/2019 10:35

Grit your teeth until you fly home then part from him would be my advice.
And to keep you amused have a trawl through Mumsnet Classics 😉

thenightsky · 23/06/2019 10:35

Another vote for avoiding the salad.

Can you stick to chips? at least they've been deep fried at a zillion degrees so any bugs should be dead.

kateandme · 23/06/2019 10:35

well is it showing you arent compatible.
ive seen people do this on holidays.each to their own but it would be my worst nightmare and ive always felt sick to think of ever having to do one. and i dont know how id be with someone who did this either.

kateandme · 23/06/2019 10:37

could you buy a good book.or download some movies or audiobooks.
be a kid,explore the hotel every floor pretending your on an adventure haha.

Blumtre231 · 23/06/2019 10:39

Well at least you’ve found out before too long together that he's not worth staying with.

IvanaPee · 23/06/2019 10:39

I went on an AI for the first time as it was the most suitable deal where where and when we wanted to go.

I was shitting it, but it was fab!

Lovely food, freshly made in front of you etc.

The bar was open from 10am to 12pm. Not one of us got blind drunk to the point of falling over.

Because here’s the thing - it’s not a competition to see who can consume the most cheap alcohol!

@seaandsandy he’s more than likely NOT an alcoholic, but he’s still a dick.

Read your books.

Swim.

Sunbathe.

Enjoy your cocktails.

Go home and dump his selfish arse.

Do NOT go outside to “explore” alone. The posters suggesting that obviously don’t know what they’re talking about.

SoupDragon · 23/06/2019 10:40

Pretend he's not there. Sunbathe, read, swim and plan how you are going to dump him when he is sober enough to listen.

This. Absolutely.

Sundancer77 · 23/06/2019 10:40

I’d just make the most of being on holiday-lie by the pool with a cocktail, read, swim, get a tan-then break up with him when back home and chalk it down to experience.

TheCrowFromBelow · 23/06/2019 10:41

We are going AI later in the year but the hotel has lots on - pools, sports activities, mountain biking. Your hotel was cheap for a reason and might be a great base to explore from but the drinking all day is just loutish really, he sounds really dull and shit company.

Sorry you are having crap holiday. Don’t know what to suggest if there are no organised excursions as I really wouldn’t recommend going to the beach or Medina on your own, I found Tunisia really intimidating and didn’t enjoy it.

The hotel pizza was lovely though!
I think a book, sun lounger, and re-eavaluate your relationship when you are back - chalk it up to experience and move on.
Hope you at least get a tan!

Isatis · 23/06/2019 10:41

Oh dear. Maybe a little reminder to your boyfriend about the realities of alcohol poisoning?

But I fear you can only sit this out and fill the time by planning how to break up with him the moment you return.

TowelNumber42 · 23/06/2019 10:41

Not normal at all. Has he even asked what you want to do?

Well, you know you'll be dumping him as soon as you get home so no bother to go off and do your own thing leaving him drinking. Get on your phone, find the reputable excursions, book yourself onto as many of them as you can afford. Leave him with his vodka and free food being a bore.

Aprillygirl · 23/06/2019 10:41

Your boyfriend is a selfish little boy with no self control. And if he didn't have a drink problem before, he probably will do by the end of the holiday. If he ignored my requests to cut out the day drinking at least, I would leave him to it and go and do my own thing and then dump his sorry arse when I got home.

SoupDragon · 23/06/2019 10:42

I went to Tunisia when I was 12. 2 men grabbed me in a market when my parents were a few feet ahead and tried to kiss me and drag me into a shop. At the time I wasn't scared (too innocent!) but looking back with adult eyes it could have been horrific. I certainly wouldn't go out alone (or take DD there)

JustDanceAddict · 23/06/2019 10:42

Ditch the Boyf.
Find an excursion or two to go on
Don’t leave hotel on your own

I went on hol w my dh 6 weeks into the rel in our 20s and it was great. We had some drinks but did not drink all day! I don’t think that’s normal.

TigerJoy · 23/06/2019 10:42

It's one thing to drink cocktails in the afternoon and maintain a mild buzz and another to get so drunk that he falls over.

This isn't normal drinking and even if it were it's boring for you. Ask him if he can spend one day with you and go on a trip. One day out of seven! If he won't then just spend the time reading nice books and relaxing and chalk it up to experience.

But he's essentially putting vodka before you on this holiday, which must be very hurtful.

FamilyOfAliens · 23/06/2019 10:42

The bar was open from 10am to 12pm. Not one of us got blind drunk to the point of falling over.

But that’s irrelevant because the boyfriend is getting blind drunk and falling over.

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