I'm having the worst holiday aibu ?

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Me and my boyfriend of 5 months have came on holiday on Wednesday.
We are in Tunisia.
We got a cheap deal £286 each all inclusive,I thought amazing.
It's grim
The bar is open 10am to midnight and every day/night he has been drinking,to a point he keeps falling over.
He starts drinking after breakfast.
We haven't left the hotel.
He says why pay for all inclusive to leave the hotel.
Aibu to think this is the Pitts ?
Weather is hot

No excursions at all from hotel.
No spa /sauna
It's more like apartments than a hotel if that makes sense.
There is 2 different restaurants to choose from.
There's a outdoor bar that opens at 10
We have night time entertainment but it's literally karaoke or a mime artist last night.
I feel like I'm at butlins

I love a few drinks on holiday, but this sounds like something completely different. It’s alcoholic behaviour. Does he drink like this at home?

I think you’re just going to have to read, swim, sunbathe and suck it up until you’re home. Then reassess whether this is the right relationship for you.

Oh well yeah now I can agree for that price it's no surprise is it?

Also I didn't even think about the salad being dangerous.
Thank you
What do you think is the best to eat?

Rest and enjoy the sunshine ... but definitely get rid of him ...
Not a healthy relationship with alcohol ...
You don’t need that in a partner ...

What does he say when to you ask him to go out of the hotel with you and ask him to cut down on the drinking. Are you suffering in silence or is this causing rows?

@ForeignBodies on nights out he suffers from memory blanks after every night out

Many of the big hotels have excursions and Tunisia is a gorgeous country to explore, lots of famous sites.

^^ Look into this.

I’d be wary of the salads as well – worst food poisoning of my life was from salad.

If you can't find excursions and it continues to be grim - I'd then try looking into getting home early.

@katewhinesalot yeah he has just refused to leave hotel as everything we need is here.

Welcome to all inclusive! Clearly you both have diff ideas as to what a relaxing holiday is... he enjoys letting go and drinking, you want to explore. You need to come to some sort of compromise otherwise your relationship is never ever going to work.

Can you afford a flight home?

Is there anyone else staying who you think looks like they might be friendly? I’d feel lonely if I was you! I’d try and strike up a few conversations.

MsVestibule it can take a change in normal routine to flag these things up. I once dated a man id known years previously. I liked to go on walks out during the days, local nature reserves etc, and never go to pubs. He just adapted my lifestyle and it was fine. Outdoor theatre etc.

Then he invited me out with his friends to the pub. About threw months in. They were nobs. He was drinking. Turned out he was a
Nob too. The drinking, because we hadnt really had much alcohol before, certainly
Not enough to get tipsy, showed who he really was. Then it was obvious how controlling he was. The early months it is easy to fall into a bubble and problems arent as easy to see until the bubble gets bigger.

Sounds like he has a drinking problem. We go All inclusive a lot and me and DH we only have a couple of beers or so through out the day.

Ditch the boyfriend when back OP.

Meat/eggs etc that you can see is well cooked is better than salad, tbh

Have you looked up what is around the hotel? Find something thta will tempt him out!

What possessed you to agree to go to Tunisia, it is high risk for terrorist attacks. Did you not do your research before you went, this is why your holiday is so cheap.
Keep safe.

I assumed this was a post about Tunisia which is a hovel but unfortunately it sounds like you'd have a similar experience if you went all inclusive with your Bf anywhere. Sounds horrendous.

Firstly salads & unpeeled fruit are the worst things to eat if you are worried about food hygiene or poisoning. You need to be eating things that are well cooked - meat & fish.

The attitude of 'I've paid for all inclusive so why should I leave the hotel' is very common. We went AI last year and it was something I heard bandied around alot. Or maybe he just doesn't have the extra money to go out?

The drinking. Again alot of people take full advantage but drinking vodka from 10am onwards sounds extreme. Have you actually tried to talk to him about it? Sounds like you're finding out the hard way that you don't know him well enough to go on holiday

Book an excursion.

Find a friendly couple of your parents' age to go on an excursion with.

Be carfulwith salad,if the water isn't drinkable do you want salad cooked in it? Fried food is often the safest as the frying kills lots of nasties.

It's not the holiday that is grim, it's your boyfriend.

Do book yourself on a trip, or try to chat to other guests. I would also ask the hotel to book you another room, and try to enjoy the holiday on your own.

But presumably you tell him you disagree with him? Presumably you tell him you are having a shit holiday and that if he cares for you then he'll want to make you happy too? What is his response to that?

You poor thing, OP.

I’m not sure what to suggest you eat but I’d be avoiding salad, fruit, fish and seafood.

Does he seem to be enjoying himself? Is he concerned at all about the fact you don’t want to join him in drinking all day?

You would not be a drama queen if you went home. he is wasting your holiday.
Everything HE needs is in the hotel. He's not thinking about you at all.
Leave him in the bar, take your book and your cocktail out by the pool and simply relax.
Dump him when you get home.

see if there are any excursions you could go on with a rep or try to get an early flight home whilst he is sleeping it off.