To think I shouldn’t have to justify my house?

[Carpark1]

So I went on a night out with work the other night (first one since I started there) and a girl i work with offered to collect me and drop me home as I was only just off her route. So I gave her directions and she turned up on time. When I got in the car she said
“Is this actually YOUR house or are you renting?? I answered yes it’s mine we built it 3yrs ago (we live rurally)
Then she said “what does you dh actually do?? He manages a men’s store in the nearest city.
She then proceeded to tell me all night, including all the others at the night out how it was impossible that we could have afforded it ,based on the fact that I only work part time and we have dc. Did I have an inheritance? Did I win the lotto?? Tbh she ruined my night! Aibu to think I shouldn’t have to justify it or answer her questions!!?? What should I say?

She's jealous.

Tell her she’s being weird as it’s not unusual to own a house in this country and you can't understand why she keeps going on about it.

Jealous and rude. Ignore.

Rude and over stepping boundaries of normal conversation massively!

I’m gonna be honest I’m raging as I was so looking forward to a good night out!! I haven’t had one for a long time!! She completely ruined it!! 😫

If she starts up again I would look her in the face and say "do you realise how rude you are being? How I afford my house is absolutely none of your business and I have no intention of having another conversation with you about it".

You don't have to justify anything to her, but you can justify it to us!

Is your house unusually large? Did you have a large inheritance? Are you a lottery winner? If so, how much!?

I'd love to build my own house. Was it a pain in the arse?

So people really need a filter. Its flatrerinf that she was so impressed with your home but she was way too personal. You should have shut it down. Why would you let her go on all night? 'Uh please, can we talk about something else now - its getting awkward' usually works. My personal favourite to damper pompous property pricers is 'Let's change the subject, property prices are so vulgar and parochial'

Yes, she is jealous. Don't let it upset you, be glad that you aren't in her position of being jealous about others possessions

She's a nosy CF and it's none of her business. Tell her it's private and not up for discussion.

@OneThreadOnly0101 😂 only on mn.

I'm really sorry she ruined your night out op, she was incredibly rude!

What did your other colleagues say? Didn't anyone tell her they weren't interested and just wanted to enjoy the night?

Perhaps she's just not bright off to work out that you afforded it via the financial choices you made...

I know my colleagues are jealous that we've almost paid our mortgage/have a chunk of equity more than them BUT they completely overlook all the amazing holidays they've had (Bali, Hawaii, Safari, Florida, States and do on). We have had 2 x 1 week UK holidays off season in 20 years together 2nd hand clothes, furniture cheap cars compared to their BMW...

@OneThreadOnly0101 😂 not HUGE it’s approx 2500sqft, and no we just lived at home and saved our socks off!! The land was fairly cheap if being honest. And yes it was tough at the time it took a year from start to finish, I’m glad it’s over 😂

Isn't self building usually a cheaper option than buying ready built?

Because I have a warped sense of humour I’d probably have told her with a deadly serious face, that I’d paid the builders in sexual favours, then carry on with the evening.

I don’t know what’s wrong with people that they feel it’s ok not only to ask- but persist in asking!!

@WhiteLightTrainWreck they were a bit

Im with the pp. how did you afford to build a house on the country on a pt and retail wage??

I’d have just said ‘because I’m rich as fuck. Now drop it!’ .....even if it wasn’t true and I’d worked extremely hard to have all that I had I’d say something like that to someone who didn’t need to know my story! Then I’d just get on with having a good night :)

Oh cross post. I was hoping for something like drug lord

I'm always in awe of self builders. I'd be full of questions too, mainly about the process though. Cost wise. Mind your own.

Yes, she was rude, but some people desperately want to get on the property ladder but can't afford it. She might be genuinely interested, so she can get some ideas on how to do it herself.

Try not to get worked up about it. Take it as a compliment. You're financially savvy and you've got a beautiful house. Yes she is jealous, but anyone in her position would be without knowing the facts, of course.

She was rude, but I guess she was just astonished to encounter something that was outside the box of what she thought was possible. In a way, it's good that people in that position feel motivated to expand their understanding of the universe.

She is rude and jealous. When this happens my Scorpio side comes out. I would say ' you're being really rude. It's none of your business anyway'

If she asks again if just reply "ok, you've found me out, we're squatting. Please don't tell anyone.'

@Ffsnosexallowed 🙌😂😂