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To think I shouldn’t have to justify my house?

96 replies

Carpark1 · 23/06/2019 09:55

So I went on a night out with work the other night (first one since I started there) and a girl i work with offered to collect me and drop me home as I was only just off her route. So I gave her directions and she turned up on time. When I got in the car she said
“Is this actually YOUR house or are you renting?? I answered yes it’s mine we built it 3yrs ago (we live rurally)
Then she said “what does you dh actually do?? He manages a men’s store in the nearest city.
She then proceeded to tell me all night, including all the others at the night out how it was impossible that we could have afforded it ,based on the fact that I only work part time and we have dc. Did I have an inheritance? Did I win the lotto?? Tbh she ruined my night! Aibu to think I shouldn’t have to justify it or answer her questions!!?? What should I say?

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tempester28 · 23/06/2019 10:34

You should have told her you were a part time diamond thief but not to tell anyone.

Dungeondragon15 · 23/06/2019 10:34

How incredibly rude. Other people will think that too though so I wouldn't let it ruin your night if it happens again.

Isatis · 23/06/2019 10:38

If she carries on about this, ask her loudly why she's obsessing about it and why it's any of her business.

And make a note to steer well clear of her in future.

MrHaroldFry · 23/06/2019 10:39

She was beyond nosey. If she brings it up again totally ignore her, and if she presses on say you have no desire to continue speaking about your house. It is your sanctuary and a safe place for your children and you won't be going into details with a stranger.

EnglishRose13 · 23/06/2019 10:41

Come on. We need details.

How many bedrooms? How many bathrooms? How many reception rooms?

HolesinTheSoles · 23/06/2019 10:41

YANBU she sounds rude and very obviously jealous. I guess I might be curious if someone was living in a mansion but didn't have jobs that would obviously be very highly paid. I wouldn't dream of asking though as it's absolutely none of my business. I'd say "wow what a lovely home" and that would be it. She sounds oddly obsessed to be honest.

ivykaty44 · 23/06/2019 10:44

I’d tell her that you completely ruin my evening with your rude attitude and questioning of my financial choices and it’s got to stop. People like this need to be told there actions are rude

Original poster
Carpark1 · 23/06/2019 10:45

@EnglishRose13 4 bedrooms (1 en-suite) and we have one big open plan dining, kitchen and living and then another sitting room. The hallway is wider than the norm too as I wanted it bright and spacious.

I’m dreading work on Tuesday 😫

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TowelNumber42 · 23/06/2019 10:48

Turn it back round on her "Are you interested in doing the same thing?" "Want me to recommend a budgetting app?" "What do you waste your money on?"

OhioOhioOhio · 23/06/2019 10:51

I totally understand. I had a similar situation recently. It pissed me off for weeks.

EnglishRose13 · 23/06/2019 11:00

@Carpark1

I love that you answered. It sounds lovely and I've with you with regards to a large hallway. Is it big enough for a Christmas tree? I want a hallway that I can put a Christmas tree in!

She's jealous and being weird. If she brings it up again, turn it into a joke. If your other colleagues are judging anyone, it'll be her and not you. Don't worry about work tomorrow!

EnglishRose13 · 23/06/2019 11:00

I mean Tuesday! Even better, it'll all be forgotten.

Original poster
Carpark1 · 23/06/2019 11:03

@EnglishRose13 yes 👍 but I haven’t had the ££ to but the big tree I would like her hopefully next year!!

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RosaWaiting · 23/06/2019 11:04

that's massively rude and she is a complete bellend.

RosaWaiting · 23/06/2019 11:06

is anyone else thinking of this?

Mummyshark2019 · 23/06/2019 11:11

I wish I could build from scratch. She's so rude OP. Tell her on Tuesday she spoilt your night what a twit.

ChippingInLowCarbing · 23/06/2019 11:12

Is she English? Most people here would think that she’s was rude, but in other countries that’s far fairly normal conversation.

Could you not have just said, what you posted at 10:14?

krustykittens · 23/06/2019 11:13

I am in awe of self builders, after watching Grand Designs, I don't think I would ever be brave enough to do it myself! People like this bug the crap out of me, you should have just told her to fuck right off and stop being so rude! You need to be very, very blunt when there is no filter.

Original poster
Carpark1 · 23/06/2019 11:14

@RosaWaiting 😂😂

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InTheHeatofLisbon · 23/06/2019 11:14

I don't blame you for being pissed off! She sounds very rude and invasive, and also a bit thick tbh.

We have comments about our house, bluntly met with "my Mum's dead, she left us money for the children to have a bigger house." Which is the truth, but also tends to shut them up a bit too.

It's not her business how or why you have the home you do.

PristineCondition · 23/06/2019 11:14

Stare at her dead on and say “drug dealing but don't tell anyone, ill know it was you.....”

The a cut through motion

Then offer her a tea and jaffa cake like none of the above happened

PristineCondition · 23/06/2019 11:15

Throat

InTheHeatofLisbon · 23/06/2019 11:16

PristineCondition ahahahaha yes OP please do this!

Illberidingshotgun · 23/06/2019 11:18

Your house sounds lovely, OP.

Just tell her that you've been through a few husbands, but that you're keeping the current one for a little while as the sex is great, and you need to make sure that the life insurance company don't get suspicious.

Yabbers · 23/06/2019 11:19

She completely ruined it!! 😫

Or, you did by not being straight with her and telling her to STFU