I know on mumsnet spending over £20 on a hen do and £2K on a wedding is often considered very excessive! But I think this takes the cake!
Background I am bridesmaid to a v close friend in Nov. Hen do organised abroad at her request for September. The costs are SPIRALLING. Flight and accommodation came to £300- that was fine because we were staying in a gorgeous villa and I thought we would save money going out by spending time in there.
But the other bridesmaids are organising activities totalling £100+ a day before spends (going thurs/sun or mon depending on when people are back in work). I am the only one with a child (and another on the way) so money is obviously a LOT tighter for me. I keep asking if we can swap X activity for X and either don't hear back or get told 'people wont mind spending the money'. Theres 13 people going.
What can I do? I have committed to it and I don't want to let me friend down- she would be mortified if she knew how much it cost I think (she organised my hen earlier this year which came to £250pp for EVERYTHING- still a lot to some I appreciate but I would be more than happy to pay similar for a close friends hen- we didn't go abroad at my request.
I find confrontation hard and to be honest embarrassing to admit I just cant afford it although I HAVE said that directly. Sorry for long post thanks for advice!