To tell bride to be her fiancé is a bisexual cheat.

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Ex friends.

Would you tell the bride that her fiancé is bisexual and not only that, he cheats on her at any given opportunity. Is a sex pest. Constantly messages other women and men. From friendly chat to pictures of his penis.

He has done this to numerous people including myself, and had bragged about sleeping with another woman. He's also messed around with men.

Do I tell the bride before she marries him? I've always thought I wouldn't get involved especially after our friendship fell apart. But now it's closer to the wedding I feel like she should know.

Also @P1nkHeartLovesCake when she became an ex friend I had no intention of telling her. Like I explained in the thread, I was just glad to have him out of my life. But now as the wedding is nearing I just feel... well... guilty NOT telling her. I don't want to. Really I don't. But if it was me I know I would want to know.

i think-if youre going to do-do it soon.dont put it onto one of her friends.if you have supporting evidence,are they involved enought to make a stand at your side. its a horrible position to be in.id rather be the bitch who told than the bitch who kenw and didnt

I think I would. I would provide all the proof I have at the same time though and do it so only she knows (I.e. obviously no public humiliation). I would explain why I’m doing it but wouldn’t expect her to believe me. Good luck, it’s so tricky.

Please, please tell her op, her sexual health is at stake.

I know her sexual health is not your responsibility but honestly I would tell her. You never know what he's up to and with who!

She should know yet. I’m not sure on the best way to tell her though! Maybe if you aren’t friends with her anymore, just do it. Not like you have anything to lose if you aren’t planning to become friends again. She might be angry at first but thank you in the long run.

Years ago, I joined a dating site. Whilst browsing I spotted my friends then fiance. The profile had been recently active and very recent photos of him (that she bloody took as well), he was looking for ‘love’. I first I assumed they had split but seemed to be still together according to her social media. I wasn’t sure whether to tell her or not. I didn’t, I’m not sure if she ever knew or not but they are now married. I feel guilty that she never knew but it’s been a few years now!

Having been married to a secret gay man for many years yes please tell your ex-friend as well as the fiance of the gay man who is open about it (except to her)!

Hopefully, you've kept messages and texts as proof? As an ex-friend already at least you needn't worry about the messenger being shot!

These 'men' are the absolute worst bastards. I wish someone had told me.

I would want to know if I was her, could you get some evidence together for her ? Women always need evidence, no idea why, our gut instinct is usually screaming at us & being ignored 🤷🏻‍♀️

Are you Male or female op? She dismisses you as being jealous if your a girl getting the gay friend might be more effective especially if she believes he is straight

I'm female and in a relationship. I'm not sure why or how that she would get that I'm jealous. Also I think. If anyone else he had been inappropriate to or cheated on wanted to tell her I think they would have told her by now. It's so confusing.

I would want to know.....would you if the answer is yes then tell her he is a wander and she needs to know you have nothing to loose she will thank you in the future

If you still have the messages I would forward them on and let her make up her mind as to what she wanted to do with the knowledge ..

You have distanced yourself already so if she decided not to want to engage further with you it wont be a catastrophe ..

I think if anyone knows someone is cheating and can prove it they should let the significant other know.

Cheating has become the norm of late ( SO many posts!)

If you have proof then yes I’d tell her. Then it’s up to her what she wants to do.

How did it come about that your friendship with her ended because of what he did? Were you more his friend? What does she think happened? I think that all may influence how you approach this.

I think she should know, but you are coming from a tricky position now if you haven't kept any communication with her.

More his friend. He was a friend from uni and we have the same hobby. She is just a friend through him. I have absolutely no idea why she thinks the friendship ended. She's never asked.

If he told her anything, it will have been that you pursued him and he rejected you. He will have got in there first.

I'd tell a closer friend and say you're worried about her.

I would tell her. She deserves to have the information before she goes ahead and marries him.

I would start by saying 'You may already be aware of this and if so please just ignore this. I just want to give you the information in case you don't know so that you can make a decision on what you want to do. You don't need to contact me if you don't want to but I am happy to provide more information if you want it...' and then go on to briefly outline the details. If you don't hear from her then take it she's ok with it and leave it there.

Don’t tell her. @Youthecat has it.

If you have evidence I don’t understand any possible reason not to tell her!

Tell her. It’s up to her what she does but she should know.

I’d be utterly heartbroken if people knew my partner was cheating and didn’t tell me.

I would tell her. Divorce is expensive and a hassle. Better for her to know now.

By all means do it anonymously.

What sort of evidence do you have that he's cheating? If it's texts or photos etc print them out and post them to her, then it's anonymous but she knows

Don't tell her. You will not be thanked. She will already have been told a whole bunch of lies about you and you won't have any credibility.

If anything you could ask a mutual friend to tell her if she ever wants to know the real reason you are no longer friends to contact you as you are more than willing to talk to her. But don't approach her.

Would you tell the bride that her fiancé is bisexual and not only that, he cheats on her

This phrasing is awful. ‘Not only that?!’ You’ve made out that the bisexuality is worse than the cheating, and that the two are linked. Bisexuals aren’t more likely to cheat. The problem is the cheating and the number of times he’s cheated, the sexuality is not part of that.

This happily married bisexual would be grateful if you’d take these thoughts on board.

Could you tell her anonymously?

Sorry I didn't mean to insinuate being bisexual was wrong. I do think it's wrong to hide it from your fiancé though especially if your going to actively seek the same sex to fulfil his sexual needs. Of course being bisexual alone is no issue.