to think that old people should mind their own business

[katybump]

My dd is 3months old and has a strawberry birthmark on her forehead{between her eyes}It is very obvious but doesn't affect her in anyway.While at the doctors with her today {for an unrelated matter}an old man in the waiting room decided to engage us in conversation and then asked me what i was going to do about her birthmark. I told him nothing as it would eventually go away.To this he replied "You should get it removed,nobody wants to grow up with a thing like on their face"

I was gobsmacked and at first thought i may have misheard him but his wife told him to shut up.I asked him not to speak about my daughter like that but he just shrugged his shoulders.

I had to leave the waiting room as i was shaking so much and close to tears.When he left he tried to say goodbye to meand i asked him to leave me alone .His wife then decided to have ago and told me she'd get worse than that and she probably desrved it .ffs how can a 3mth old baby deserve anything.

My dh decided to follow them outside and speak to them.After more words were spoken my dh came back inside and then the man came back and tried to say he hadn't meant it.Talk about red rag to a bull,i swear if he hadn't left i think my dh would have gotten violent.

Sorry for the long post but i needed to get this off my chest before i explode

Oh that made me wince! No way could I have done that to my one - far too sensitive. But she is a beauty. Love her silky hair and queenly expression!

That's the sort of photo that needs to be in the family album, so that she can see it as she grows up. It affirms to her that the strawberry mark doesn't matter, dooesn't need to be hidden, is nothing to be ashamed off and that she is beautiful.

Oh yeah she's definately full of life especially at 4 in the morning I think her eyes give her character so as soon as you meet her you don't notice her mark just the twinkle .

expat

Sorry if I've got it wrong but I thought your mum and a couple of aunts(??) were still alive and well.

I feel old(ish) already at nearly 44 and I do worry about how my children will cope when I'm really old and probably in ill health (ds is only 3). My father was only 50 when he died but I was 21 then.

I've added another pic [sorry it's sideways] just to show how much it's grown.She's wearing a headband that drew the comment "Oh isn't she beautiful,she looks like a little easter egg" pmsl

Your daughter is just beautiful.

Her birthmark!I wasn't calling her it

Thank-you

Can only see the first one, Katy

Can you see both pics?

I seem to have taken alot of pics of her in relation to the ones i took of my boys.I hope that as she grows she can be proud of who she is and i can show her how her mark used to look.How old is your dd Kamikayzed?

Sorry, I was confused - looking for a second pic of Kami's dd, not katy's dd.

Easter egg LOL. Deffo delicious!

comments like that can be upsetting, and some people speak without thinking. In the past a facial blemish would have been seen as a terrible thing. but...

telling them to leave you alone and your dh then going after them to have a word just fueled the nastyness I'm afraid to say. So the man was insensitive, lots of people are. But you made it worse by insisting on pursuing it. The wife told him to shut up didn't she? so why couldn't you have left it then? Why did you have to insist on keeping it going?

I don't think it is 'old people' and quite frankly hate and loathe ageist generalisations, ...it's just some people (of varying age, class, gender and crisp eating habits) who are like this.

And I agree, they behaved very insensitively and rudely towards you and your baby.

katybump in answer to the op.
How awfull for you. i can understand how angry your dh must have been. dd has cp and somedays we could just strangle yet another staring person.
sadly though it is not just old people.

The wife told him to shut up but he didn't.He insisted on arguing his case to her saying it was horrible and needed removing . I'd never met this man in my life.He continued to pass comment as he left and then his wife added her opinion to a situation that we had walked away from.My dh felt so angry by this he had to say something and was applauded by the other patients in the waiting room for refusihg to allow his daughter to be spoken about in such a way by a couple of small minded,ignorant people.

Awful experience Katybump

katybump please tell your dh that I think he is fab

will do 2shoes

kamikayzed - I'm pleased you posted on this thread and shared your dd's pic with us.It has made me even more proud of my daughter and has proved to my dh and I that she will be able to have a normal life and we just have to be confident when dealing with other peoples reactions