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To ask you to share your unexpected menopause symptoms

271 replies

GraceMarks · 15/06/2019 10:46

I've been perimenopausal for about a year now, and I thought I was pretty well-read about what it would involve. But some of the things I've experienced have come as a particularly unpleasant surprise and I was wondering if others had found the same! Perhaps if we share some of the things we've been through it will help other women to be prepared when they reach that time in their lives too.

So, aside from the usual hot flushes and night sweats and irregular periods, I've had:

Ovulation flu! I don't have a better term for it really, but every time I ovulate now, I get weird flu-like symptoms such as aching muscles, swollen neck glands, and suddenly feeling cold and tired all the time. It took me a while to make the connection with the time of the month, and I thought I was just getting a bit of a cold, but it only ever lasts for a couple of days and then goes away completely.

The fatigue. Even after getting what seems to be enough sleep.

Weirdly, the lower back pain I've suffered with for more than a decade has more or less gone, but now I get joint pain in my knees and elbows instead. It's much worse a couple of days before a period.

Anyone else had any symptoms they didn't expect, and did they go away once you were completely through the menopause?

OP posts:
Goawayquickly · 15/06/2019 10:50

Breast pain, which is a hot, burning sensation that arrived with my last few periods, headaches too which I’ve never really had before.

InfiniteSheldon · 15/06/2019 10:59

I actually started a thread a few weeks ago entitled "Menopause stole my eyebrows" and it did Grin

DingDongDenny · 15/06/2019 11:00

I get weird symptoms at ovulation too, worse than when I have my period. Cramps, headaches, grumpy, sore legs the munchies and tiredness.

Also rapid heart rate and skipping beats, irrational anger and brain fog

It's a joy

MyOpinionIsValid · 15/06/2019 11:01

No one tells you your pubes start to fall out - and they stop being curly

*I think I might name change Grin

TheVandalsTookTheHandles · 15/06/2019 11:06

I've got excruciating neck and upper back pain. Have been to the physio who seemed to make it worse. I've had bloods taken but I'm pretty sure it's perimenopause. I'm going back to the dr next week to see what else can be done apart from taking naproxen by the bucketload 🤔

TheVandalsTookTheHandles · 15/06/2019 11:10

And my eyelashes are falling out so that's nice

CadburysTastesVileNow · 15/06/2019 11:11

I thought I was the only one to get ovulation flu!

QueenOfWinterfell · 15/06/2019 11:14

Sleepless nights, hair loss, brain fog, aching everywhere

myidentitymycrisis · 15/06/2019 11:16

Menopausal acne - yes, it’s a thing

WhiteRedRose · 15/06/2019 11:35

OP the ovulation flu thing is probably thyroid related. You need to go and get your tsh levels checked and make sure they're 'ideal' not just within NHS acceptable ranges.

Also look at selenium as menopausal women suddenly have massive dips.

QueenRefusenik · 15/06/2019 11:38

Ovulation flu! Oh my God, epiphany! Yes, every fucking month around the same time, how did I not see it before!

ghostyslovesheets · 15/06/2019 11:42

yes Ovulation flu - great name for it!

also - having run and done a range of exercise classes for years I now get hip ache - not unmanageable but definitely much more joint pain in the last year.

also raging sex drive - which is a pain as I'm single!

ghostyslovesheets · 15/06/2019 11:43

oh and I am on levothyroxine and my thyroid is fine with it - so it's not thyroid related in my case

ContinuityError · 15/06/2019 11:45

Anxiety (which I’ve never really had before, and isn’t helped by family thinking it’s funny and saying stuff like “did you remember to lock the back door?” when we’re an hour down the road) and stiffening up after exercise.

Jeffter · 15/06/2019 11:45

Stiff ankles and feet for the first half hour or so in the morning

Aching everywhere

Breast pain in the week running up to my period

Nausea in the run up to my period

I'm actually a bit of a crusader about this stuff, I have a biological sciences degree and teach science and I had no idea that this was going to happen. I mean, what the actual fuck? I've made a real effort to discuss with my own DD and friends generally as no one ever bothered to discuss it with me Hmm

GraceMarks · 15/06/2019 12:06

I did think that the flu stuff might be to do with my thyroid at first, but why would I only get it for two days around the same time every month? I am planning to go and get a hormone test, however, so I might ask them to check that as well while they're at it.

Oh yes, the brain fog. I'm finding that I have to be careful about when I undertake important admin these days, as I'm perfectly capable of forgetting the word for "spreadsheet", never mind actually being able to create one.

OP posts:
whatisforteamum · 15/06/2019 12:16

Anxiety a.couple of years back now anger but tbh I do have reason sometimes.😀😀

LakieLady · 15/06/2019 12:17

No one tells you your pubes start to fall out - and they stop being curly

This! I was worried that I had some sort of mysterious aplopecia of the foof, and eventually mentioned it to a friend who used to be a nurse in obs and gynae. She'd seen a lot of menopausal and old lady fannies and assured me that it was normal (but not until she'd had a good laugh, the cow).

She didn't tell me that they spread downwards though. If it wasn't for my Phillips Lumea, my bikini line would now be round my knees.

The onset of my arthritis coincided with my perimenopause, and has got steadily worse, but that may be conicidence, and my hypothroidism started then too.

haverhill · 15/06/2019 12:20

Chin and neck acne.
Achey, so achey.
BO worse.

CaptainButtock · 15/06/2019 12:27

‘Alopecia of the foof’ 😆

Yes to most of the above. Up to including anxiety caused (took me 30 seconds to think of ‘caused’) by brain fog and constantly second guessing everything I do in case I’ve forgotten something/otherwise screwed something up.

I think I am becoming depressed. I have form for it.
You ladies help tho x

Thingsdogetbetter · 15/06/2019 12:32

Omg the breast pain! Couldn't even stand to take a shower.. ouch!!!

And exacerbated my 'ADHD' tendencies so much the doctor suggested I get an ADHD diagnosis. Seemingly this is when lots of women get diagnosed because it gets so exaggerated due to hormones we can no longer mask or just struggle through. Doctor (female) was so understanding I burst into tears with relief walking from surgery to work. Although being quick to tears is probably part of the bloody menopause too Grin

QueenRefusenik · 15/06/2019 12:41

I need to ask... How did you all get diagnosed? I have all these symptoms as well as the usual textbook ones with two (major?!) exceptions - I still have super-regular periods, and no hot flushes. The second I admit that no GP at my current practice wants to know and I just get offered antidepressants. Just to add, I'm not opposed to ADs per se, I just don't think they'll help, I'm about 90% sure I'm 'just' perimenopausal. But then I'm not a doctor!

ContinuityError · 15/06/2019 12:51

QueenRefusenik I don't get hot flushes but I do get night sweats - especially if I have drunk alcohol.

ImFreeToDoWhatIWant · 15/06/2019 12:53

Vertigo. Oestrogen linked vertigo is a very real thing during peri and full menopause. Oestrogen plays small but significant parts in the vestibular system, heart beat regulation and blood sugar regulation, and fluctuations and falling levels lead to dizziness and balance issues.

MrsBush · 15/06/2019 12:53

Growing a beard!!

I had a blood test that showed low oestrogen levels