To wonder why people have children when they clearly put their career first, by having a 24hr maternity nurse from day one and a full-time nanny from 3 months?

[gogetter]

Call me old fashioned but why bother when you are going to see your child for maybe an hour a day on weekdays?
It's not financially needed for mum to return to work (far from) so why leave your teeny weeny baby with a nanny during the most amazing time of their lifes?

A bit strange I fear!

Totally agree with gogetter. When the child is 7yrs/27yrs and a bit of a weirdo from being passed from stranger to stranger all its life, it will be our nice well-adjusted kids that get have to avoid them. Shame on all counts. Am surprised/disappointed most people think its ok to have someone else bring up their kids....

Oh shit. DD is 4. Is she behind in the workplace. Must get her a job. She can throw a Paddy second to none. Does that pay well?

Then there are fightin' words, Boopa.

so BoopaDoopa - when your kids go to school you will consider that you are not bringing them up anymore because they're not with you 24/7?

Come back, Xenia. Come back. We need you.

actually I laughed when I read BoopDoopa's post. thats about 50% of kids in teh Uk fucked then...

I think she's just winding us up

Ok, sounds harsh but I was talking about those that leave their kids with other people every day from birth. I don't understand...

You have made a sweeping assumption that children of working parents are going to grow up to be weirdos and children of SAHPs are going to be some lovely well adjust role model for the weirdos.

Plain and simple, you are mistaken.

OMG, Kew, you swore again. I'm going to have to tell CountessDracula she has competition for the potty mouth title.

some of the comments posted here are so self righteous - as if being a good mother can only be done a certain way. I always find self righteous people tend to be the ones who would like to justify what they do (or not), or tend to be jealous of the choices other people have made. we try to make the best choices for our children in our circumstances.

I don't know of any working mother who thinks they leave their children with "strangers", who think material possessions (please define) are more important than their children (though i hope you still want to feed, clothe, and house your children, rather than assume an eternal wellspring of love will keep them alive and well), or who actually sit and spend a lot of time thinking about what the priorities of other mothers are.

all this negativity must be exhausting for some people. reminds me of a comment somebody made about a couple who were trying for a baby through IVF - she said to me, "they're both high profile solicitors, i bet God hasn't given them any children because he knows they won't spend any time with it anyway". I would be ashamed if any of my children ever heard me say something so judgemental. I don't think the OP was too far off this remark.

At The moment it sounds like a great idea

it isn't legal to go back to work for at least 2 weeks after birth and most (ie the vast majority of) people actually only have childcare 5 days a week.

So how many families have SAHDad's?? Seeing as I have been accused of being sexist etc. I'm not wrong in assuming that mum's are more often than not the ones to stay at home?
I think thats great and don't really give a fudger which parent stays home.
I have not once commented that I think its def mum that shld stay home - I just think the tenny 7lb baby should be bonding with his parents - not the nanny.
Call me weird (go on!) but I think m&d should know how to settle their baby, their cries etc. I understand that not all families can stay home etc because of personal reasons but this example they could - at least take 6 months paternity/maternity leave when yr raking in 100k a yr between u!! Or go back part-time!!
Go-getter sits in her old fashioned rocking chair with horlicks talking about the day when.......

I stay at home.It's a choice we made that one of us would.Unfortunately neiher of us earns enough to be ale to support the family without alot of financial worry but if i went to work my salary would prob pay the minder with 100 quid left.People make their own choices,based on necessity and what they think is important to them.I think lots of couples both work because one salary isn't enough...which is deliberate[big business/governments etc]

anniemac- maternity nanny does 6 out of 7 nights till the baby sleeps thru, leaving parents 24hrs sole charge. nanny does 8-8 5 days leaving parents with 48hrs weekend and fleeting awake phases on workdays.
Of course they will know their child but the nanny is going to be spending a hell of a lot more time with it.

BoopaDoopa - your kids will never be well adjusted growing up in a family where they hear prejudice like yours. Pity for them.

anniemac - you never get to meet them because you are stuck in a horrible office somewhere chained to your computer and not swanning around the med / having manicures

hard to resist posting on these threads, isn't it?

Perhaps someone could enlighten us as to the minimum hours of presence needed by a mum & dad before they should be allowed to have children. Come on, someone must have worked out the figures, how many hours to qualify?

OK this post is getting way old - I'm old fashioned along with about 15 other posters - the rest of you think my thoughts are sexist/judgemental/rude etc - thanks for thoughts, great debate - I'm outy!!! ;o

(go-getter hobbles away)

Farewell and think before you judge & post next time.

christina - not at all regretful - I stand by my OP.

Really going now!!