To be cross about visitors not liking my dog

[calamityJayne1]

I have a Labrador who is the daftest dog you’d ever meet.

Due to my work children and parents visit my house. They know I have a dog who is harmless yet people still make comments like why is he barking and I don’t like dogs and physically wincing if he comes near them.

This is only on arrival and I put the dog in a different room for the duration of their visit, but I am getting really tired of anti dog people making comments and someone even asked me to ensure the dog was locked in a different room on arrival!

Given the fact that new people are informed I have a dog and he’s playful and barks I don’t understand people’s reactions. I understand not everyone likes dogs but why can’t people stop act like snowflakes and move on?

AIBU to feel totally fed up and only invite dog friendly people to my house?

People aren’t snowflakes for not liking dogs.

As pp have said it’s so tiring that people use that term for those who disagree with you. Maybe you’re the ‘snowflake’ for being so sensitive about people liking your dog?

Ah OP there is nothing more I love than a dog and understand how much you love your lab as I have had the privilege of loving wonderful beasties. You and all other dog parents know that they have big claws and loud barks which are intimidating to some people and that is quite scary if you are not accustomed to a boisterous playful pup. But calling people snowflakes is a bit unfair. No everyone loves dogs as much.

It’s like people, if they’ve no manners really only their family are going to like them. I’m perfectly fine with dogs who don’t get up in my face.

This is mumsnet of course YABU when it comes to lething your dog go where it wants in its own house
The same people moaning about the dog are probably the ones letting their cats shit all over your flowerbeds. Come on now OP 😂

People aren’t taught how to behave around animals these days is half the problem.

Difference is we don’t let or approve of our cats shitting in your flowerbeds. In fact we try to pretend they’re not even our cat.

I bloody love dogs but it seems like a highly unprofessional set up to me. Yes it’s your home but it’s also your business, and a slobbering, barking dog doesn’t really give a great impression. Warning them that you have a dog is fine, but why put him in a different room after the clients have arrived, why not before? I suspect you’re highly minimising his behaviour too if as many people as you make out have made negative comments. Would be interesting to know what service you offer as some things this may be more of a sticking point than others.

Well you’re wrong there op because I love dogs, just can’t stand owners who don’t train them to behave around people

Burglars do ring sometimes, to check if a house if empty !
Or who answers the door

Basically a dog should bark if anyone approaches the door, whether they ring or not

When I last had a dog, in England, mine did - and I was both the only person in the entire close who wasn't burgled at least once.... and the only one with a dog

However, once she checks it is a client, the OP should put her dog in another room before opening the front door

I have two dogs whom I love very much. I get that not everyone likes dogs. Mine have an outdoor kennel and run. I put them out when visitors are due and let them in if it's appropriate. It's actually better for dogs to meet strangers after they've arrived if you want to manage the exuberant greeting.

My friend has two dogs. A stocky Staffy who isn’t scary but smells, barks, jumps up, climbs on you and licks you to death and a huge crossbreed who growls and barks at you from afar and is bloody terrifying. Apparently it’s my fault this dog is scary as he’s actually scared of me because I’m showing him hostility. She gets HUGELY offended if people don’t love her dogs (unsurprisingly most don’t) and has no self-awareness about it being her fault.

Aibu? I have a regular appointment that I have to bring my child to, it's in someone's home. I don't like dogs and my DC is terrified of them. The person I visit is aware of this, but every time we go there the dog is allowed to greet us and it barks at us until it's put in another room. The owner says the dog is harmless but it is very big and loud and my DC is terrified of it. Couldn't the owner just put the dog in another room before/as we arrive, or aibu?

YABU. But I think you know that and don't give a fuck. You just posted this to be goady. You must be having a boring Friday night! 🙄

But there are people I know and I wouldn't visit them because their kids are vile....bad mannered, spolit, thier houses are untidy, toys everywhere ,

I'm guessing the people you warn that you have a dog assume you'll be professional and do what anyone else would do and shut the dog away before they arrive. I'm guessing they don't anticipate being ambushed by it.

couldn’t agree more. I’ve just dropped a couple of families who moan constantly-

But I’m sure you have will have way more families drop you. As a lab owner who has a dog that only barks on the initial door knock and who immediately goes to bed on command, I’m sure the people that go to your house are shocked to be greeted by a dog that is barking and constantly goes up to them.

As ever it’s always the owner, never the dog that is the problem.

Are these people your friends? Or are these clients? Because if you are having clients complain about your unprofessionalism and then dropping them because they don’t like dogs, you probably won’t have much business soon.

'I suspect a lot of people commenting on this thread maybe just want to have a go at dog owners because they don’t like dogs'!

No, just the unreasonable dog owner.

I love dogs, but surely if you put DDog in another room for the duration of their visit ... why not just pop him in there BEFORE you answer the door? 🙄

I don't like dogs - especially if they bound and bark. Mostly I don't like the smell of them. Get over it and stop being a precious snowflake about your unruly dog

I have 5 dogs and I get what you are saying. When people come and they moan about my dogs I wonder why are you even visiting when you know I have dogs. Personally for me if they are not happy with it which many of my family are not I will visit them instead and works out better for everyone. People saying we'll trained dogs shouldn't bark is bollox. All dogs bark. It's how they communicate. I think most people on here just like to constantly go against posters opinions.maybe try to find a compromise or you could put your dog in another room before your visitors come. My five bundles of joy bark and get excited when we have visitors also but honestly if people were that bothered I wouldn't bring them to my home.

Love dogs and have one and if it was just me coming to your house I’d be fine. A big dog barking and jumping up at my kids when I’d paid you for a service? Not a chance. I’d walk back out straight away

I wouldn't take my kids to a house with a barking playful dog they wouldn't cope I as an adult would be fine

When visiting others, imagine if you could expect people to lock their noisy, ill-bred dc out onto the porch 🤣.