Very large lady next to me at theatre

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Went to theatre today and the lady next to me was so large I was left with no space at all. My legs were aching by the end as they were pushed together and I couldn't move at all. She kept repeatedly elbowing and jostling me without an apology.

AIBU to be irritated?

@MrsGrindah I think the people who are saying they would have said something are talking about the elbowing etc. I don't think they'd have necessarily said "hey can you scoop your belly out of my seat" but if you're already being squished, then you don't expect all that as well.

YANBU - you wanted to enjoy the show as much as anyone. Comfort is important to allow you to focus on the show. Larger people (I'm no skinny minny myself) are also allowed to go to a show but they must know they're making someone else uncomfortable if it's an older theatre with smaller seats. There's no way she could not know. Especially if she kept elbowing you. I have sympathy for larger people when they are seated in a restricted place but holy moly they should be as courteous as anyone else and keep disturbances to neighbours to a minimum.

This is one of those threads which is going to get very defensive!!!

Well then the read is about someone elbowing you, not being fat

See, it's always difficult to tell if this is a genuine OP for a debate, or just an excuse to demonise fat people....

Witchofzog Right back at you.

YANBU there's no reason you should suffer because she's too large for the seats to be honest. She would have known before she left that if someone sat next to her she'd make them uncomfortable. I know it sucks for her too but that's not your fault.

@MrsGrindah No, the thread is about both. The comments about saying something are referring to the elbowing.

Theatre seats are tiny and uncomfortable or restricted viewing seems to be more of an issue. I’m not sure what staff could do on the day though if it was full so there isn’t an obvious solution. I was pissed off when I went a few months ago and was sat behind someone that must have been 6ft7 and was built like a tank. Not a lot anyone can do about it but I did think he didn’t need to be sitting quite so upright knowing how huge he was. Unfortunately it was just bad luck like yours was.

But OP, what’s the thread for?

It’s over and done with. You didn’t say anything. You couldn’t move. She couldn’t move.

What do you want from the thread?

I’m struggling to imagine how big she was, actually. I’m thinking of our main theatre here. If you were really huge I’m not sure you’d actually fit without your knees hitting the seat in front!

But if the elbowing is the annoying bit ( which I completely understand) why mention the person is fat.

The elbowing thing sounds infuriating, l would given her a few free goes and then told her to stop

That was my first thought on reading the OP but I assume the other lady was moving about so much because she was uncomfortable herself.

OP, YANBU, but, as with the regular threads about seats in airplanes, unless larger people buy two seats or an aisle seat, there is no solution to the problem. And what if there are no aisle seats available?

Because it’s also about the fat!

Exactly.. so what did the OP want the lady to do about the fact that she was fat!

I’m not sure.
I’ve asked what the thread is for!

I don't know any theatres with plus size seats though. And it is annoying when someone enormously tall sits in front of me, I can't see a thing and might as well leave. They are occupying my viewing area. No one tall shames though do they?

What do you want from the thread?
What does anyone want from any thread?
Maybe she just wants to rant ..

@MrsGrindah I honestly don't know what's so hard to understand. The OP started the thread to discuss two things- A) the fat and B) the elbowing. Some posters have pointed out that they'd have spoken up regarding the elbowing. Both points are being discussed.

Well I hate it when very tall people sit in front of me and I can't see. There should be a height barrier and only people under 5'2 get in.

Exactly . The OP started a thread to complain about someone else being fat. Lovely.

Yeah, that would annoy me. My DH is 6’3’’ and 18stone and this is why we always book an aisle seat for him. He usually spreads a little to the left (or right) and then a bit on me but I don’t mind as i’m fairly petite so have room to spare. He wouldn’t inflict himself on strangers.

I felt very very irritated and I wanted opinions on whether others would have felt like this too or whether it was indeed unreasonable of me. She was kneeing and elbowing me because every time she moved her limbs were already pushing into me so it was extra jolting. I think I wouldn't have minded so much if she had just apologised or acknowledged it.

Well when that person's fat is ruining a show that she paid for, plus causing her pain and discomfort, she's entitled to moan.

And I’m entitled to say I think she’s unreasonable.

Exactly . The OP started a thread to complain about someone else being fat. Lovely.

That's not fair. I didn't say "there were so many people fat at the theatre, I'm offended looking at them." I said this large lady was pushing into me causing discomfort as she was too large to fit in the seat she purchased. My grandma spent a lot of money on the tickets and it impact my enjoyment as she was pushing into my legs.