Very large lady next to me at theatre

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Went to theatre today and the lady next to me was so large I was left with no space at all. My legs were aching by the end as they were pushed together and I couldn't move at all. She kept repeatedly elbowing and jostling me without an apology.

AIBU to be irritated?

coffee I think from an evolutionary standpoint its quite likely that the people who didn't think food was pretty near the top of the priority list didn't live long enough to reproduce....

coffee put a sign saying No Junkies on the theatre door.

Mao was a bit tubby but a one seater. BIG theatre goer, only to see his wife's plays though.

Driving a fossil fuelled car is ruining children's lungs and destroying the planet.

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

Well, if you're sitting in your car in the theatre, Naked, i think you would be blocking the view and taking up more than one seat.

Of course she CAN help her size! And I'm fat. But not so that I cause discomfort to people! If I do at the very least I'd apologize!

Yeah all that brummmming is quite noisey and those steep steps can play havoc with the undercarriage, but, at least you brought your own seat.

No, not unreasonable to be irritated. No need to be rude about it, but perfectly fine to be annoyed.

I was at the theatre last night and noticed as we were going back in after the interval a lady who had that unfortunate body shape of being reasonably large but carrying all her weight across her hips so she was pretty much as wide there as she was tall. I did momentarily think thank god I wasn't sitting next to her, as there is no way she wouldn't have taken up half the seats on either side of her.

From an evolutionary standpoint....people who are unable to control their compulsive and counterproductive behaviour are less likely to pass on their genes

Who to quote another poster, an interesting opinion, but completely wrong.

The fact is that evolution has favoured genes which are involved in thrifty energy use and other associated traits and behaviours. If it had not, we would not be having this conversation.

Evolution favours genes which are the best fit for the environment

@Whosorrynow Have you ever seen this?

The confusion lies in the misinterpretation of the phrase 'survival of the fittest'
'fittest' in this context refers to the best fit for the environment, the best adapted for the prevailing conditions

This has happened to me on the bus before and it was really unpleasant. A large man sat next to me and was half on my seat squashing me into the window, I felt really trapped and uncomfortable.

I don't know what the solution to this is though?

I think it is all about tolerance actually. After a couple of years in South America I got on a plane home and there was an English couple on there who were moaning about having booked a window seat and not got it or something. I had not heard anyone moaning about stuff in so long I instantly sighed and thought 'oh back to bloody moaning English people.' Nobody tuts at other people's kids and what have you in most countries. Tolerance is what is needed.

I think it is all about tolerance actually. After a couple of years in South America I got on a plane home and there was an English couple on there who were moaning about having booked a window seat and not got it or something. I had not heard anyone moaning about stuff in so long I instantly sighed and thought 'oh back to bloody moaning English people.' Nobody tuts at other people's kids and what have you in most countries. Tolerance is what is needed.
I'm not sure why English are quite moany as a nation.

@M3lon considering that obesity is closely linked to reduced fertility, I think you're incorrect. ;)

who evolution only works up to the point of reproduction, once you've had your children you can be as fat as you want and evolution will not have selected against your genome.

@nakedscientist you have a rather reductive view of things imo (but I'm too lazy to go into it in any further detail)

who that's a shame as the devil is found in the detail if only you weren't, by your own admission, too lazy.

And I will have no truck with the devil
get thee behind me Satan

coffee the thing is obesity is not one condition. There is childhood obesity, obesity and diabetes (diabesity), middle age onset obesity (middle age spread), morbid obesity, super morbid obesity. There are different fat distributions that confer different heath problems there is the 'fat on the outside thin on the inside' concept.

Only obesity affecting people at reproductive age will impact fertility and that impact is dependent on many variables. Therefore the vast majority of UK and US obesity, which is that which occurs in middle age, will have no impact on evolution at all.

I am autistic and this happened to me at the theatre once. The person's arm was about a third of the way into my seat, it was a hot day and we were both wearing short sleeves and our skin was touching, which is something I find unbearable. I had to leave. I was careful not to say anything/look/behave as if I was leaving because of the other person.

I think obesity is a complex issue, but it is unfair to shout down anyone who raises the seat issue, because there clearly is a problem. Perhaps if everyone could talk about it sensibly, venues could start to work towards finding solutions that work for everyone.

'fittest' in this context refers to the best fit for the environment, the best adapted for the prevailing conditions
Yes, Who, and for most of our evolution the ‘prevailing conditions’ involved shortages of food, therefore those who could get the most out of calories put in, who could eat a lot when it was available, who put calories to fat quickly etc were advantaged and more likely to be able to survive lean times (and even to reproduce in them) n