Very large lady next to me at theatre

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Went to theatre today and the lady next to me was so large I was left with no space at all. My legs were aching by the end as they were pushed together and I couldn't move at all. She kept repeatedly elbowing and jostling me without an apology.

AIBU to be irritated?

Theatres, cinemas, airlines etc should have oversized seating that can be booked at an extra cost and make it very clear that the expectation if you're morbidly obese that you will book one of these seats or you will not be admitted
Leaving aside anything else about this, have you not read posters at size 16 who struggle to fit theatre seats? It’s not about morbid obesity.

Tea my clinic is always in chat. It's an anti anti fat campaign.

As well as the extra large seats how about theatres having extra slim seats for people under size 10. They could charge extra and it would be a money maker for them as skinny bitches would want to go in them and gloat.

@IvanaPee I'm a size 22-24 and 20st

It's quite annoying people actually can't have discussion about obesity without it descending into nasty mess🤷‍♀️ Funnily, not by people saying YANBU....

Btw if you have a Showcase cinema nearby, try it. The seats are massive recliners! Heaven! I had so much extra space in it. It was so comfy I didn't want to leave. And it's cheaper than Odeon 😁

@spaniorita I really, really, really can’t imagine that you’ve ever made someone uncomfortable or squished then!

I’m imagining someone from that 600lb life programme in OP’s tale.

If anyone is carrying on like that about sitting next to someone who’s a size 22 then they’re being precious and ridiculous!

You have nothing to apologize for. Even if you were 30 stone you’d have nothing to apologize for!

@spaniorita you are the opposite extreme to people who don't care and that's not right either!
Especially with size 22-24.
You can go out, you can go to cinema. You can do anything you physically can. But, and I say that as size 20 so not far off at all, you just make sure to book certain seats where possible. It's not just for others, obviously, but for your own comfort too.
You don't hvae to and absolutely shouldn't stop doing things and going out.

mrs.a you are smoking too much it is bad for your health, cuts your life short and costs the nhs lots of money you must stop."ok doc ,feel bad."Mrs.B you are drinking too much its bad for your health cuts your life short and costs the nhs lots of money,feel ashamed,must stop. Mrs.c you are eating too much high fat foods,and too much of it,it's bad for your health and costs the nhs money. "Fat Shaming!"

@cpl24805254 I couldn't agree more. There is a balance people shouldn't be rude to one another but at the same time I do worry about not acknowledging how unhealthy being over weight is.
The theatre scenario - I would have asked to be moved. Surely it's like politely smoking outside you don't let your personal issues harm or get in the way of other people.

Losing weight is hard I've struggled!

like smoking outside?
I only smoke outside because the law makes me, otherwise I would happily be spreading my carcinogens, in the warm, with half a Shandy.

Are you suggesting there should be a weight related law?
If so, I would like an empathy law that forbids unkind people from free association.
I think it would work but haven't worked out the details yet.

I notice that people don't really want to have to sit next to me on the bus. The seat next to me is nearly always the last one taken.

@spaniorita tbh I would take that as a bonus... I do actually...

No YANBU. You paid for your seat you are entitled to your space. I’d be fuming

Ffs it's not often i get annoyed on MN but this is fucking not right, all go back to high school and act as mean girls then! Dontcha feel great!

She didn't pay. Her Granny did.
Are you allowed to fume in public spaces?
If so, I want Boris to stop that ASAP.

Ffs it's not often i get annoyed on MN but this is fucking not right, all go back to high school and act as mean girls then! Dontcha feel great!

100% this

YANBU.

Their needs will trump yours as otherwise you will be accused of fat shaming. Fat isn't beautiful, it is unhealthy and in the case of seating, impinges on the needs of others.

I work in a school and the growing numbers of overweight children getting breathless running round makes me want to cry.

As a society, we need to stop normalising a condition which shortens life and impacts all of society.

I think, historically, intolerant people have tended to shorten lives and impact society.
Next time you want to cry, try giving yourself a kick up the arse.
You'll fall over and it will give all the bairns a good laugh at playtime.
Job done.
World's a happier place.

Lad intriguing. We need data on whether more dictators / serial killers were fat or thin through history.

Hitler - tiny bit tubby but could fit in one seat
Ted Bundy - slim
John Wayne Gacy - fat a two seater

Yikes, just yikes. How very sad, that to some people, food is so important. More important than their own health, their quality of life, as well as, well, society. FOOD is everything to those people. Worth dying for. Worth losing limbs for. Worth causing discomfort to themselves and to others for. It's almost like nothing else matters to them.

I think we should treat food addiction the same way we treat drug/nicotine/alcohol/gambling addiction - not as something to be celebrated and tolerated, but as something socially unacceptable. And provide effective treatment and therapy, of course.

thigh thanks for bringing some gravitas to this discussion.

@thighofrelief101 Kim Jong Un comes to mind...