Not allowed to see new niece

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I might be U - I dont know.

Got a new niece, very excited about it, as I have been with all my nieces and nephews.

Mum (SIL) and baby are going to be in hospital for at least a week due to complications, but both are ok.

Family were allowed to visit yesterday (grandparents) and we were told to wait to be invited (uncles and aunts) and that no children would be allowed at all (they have a lot of nieces and nephews on our DB's side of the family and one set on SIL's side).

I thought this was very sensible as so many kids. And it was heirarchical sort of (Grandparents day 1, uncles and aunts day 2, cousins when they get home)

But I got a call today to say that actually the baby wasnt well (she has jaundice) and could I (and my brother wait - which is no problem, I can see her whenever I.E home at the weekend or later.) Obviously disappointed but baby and mum are paramount.

Then My mum has called (a bit annoyed) to say that her visit was interrupted by SIL's sister and her kids and she felt pressured to leave because they were over the visiting allowance and the midwife popped in to say so. She then said SIL's sister has already visited 4 (!) times in the two days and brought her kids twice.

So I just feel a little pushed out really, that I haven't been invited to see her and yet other people have including children.

I know I'm being U. I'm just a little disappointed.

Just to be clear. I'm not having a go at OP personally, I can see from reading the thread that she's offered to help etc. its the whole idea in general of people insisting that they have to visit, when the mother/baby is still unwell.

OP Keep in mind a lot of posters here have very poor reading comprehension and are projecting. They believe you want to do what they have done in the past (and probably got told off for) - showing up uninvited and grabbing the baby. And they can't comprehend what you have clearly written.

I was in hospital for a week as my son had jaundice and I had an emergency section. I have to say the visits got all too much for me. I was shattered. My parents just wouldn't go home and in the end I just wanted to go home to get away from everyone! There will be plenty of time to visit once your SIL is back home and settled.

its the whole idea in general of people insisting that they have to visit, when the mother/baby is still unwell.

completely agree with you
Not sure why some posters can't understand that someone has an opinion. I have RFT, have replied much earlier, I still agree with your point.

its the whole idea in general of people insisting that they have to visit, when the mother/baby is still unwell.

I agree, but that's not the OP.
She just wondered why she was told to keep away when someone else had visited pepeatedly. It was clarified and she's fine with it.