To think the Mumsnet forum is a bit broken?

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I started a thread in Parenting about dd and her pmt. Not one single reply. You'd think the combination of periods, teenage girls and parenting would be one that would guarantee a reply or advice.

And yet AIBU is full of responses over the most trivial and daily mail type threads, lots of lovely posters but also a huge proportion of goady fuckers, drama llamas and over reaction.

Is this forum actually fit for purpose, or has it morphed into something more populist and Daily Mail comments section?

And, by the way, if anyone knows anything that might help 13 year old dd with her terrible pmt, I'd be very grateful.

Agreed

YABu, MN is fine. There’s a parenting forum for you to post on then AIBU for you to moan on when you don’t get the responses you want. It’s not MN’s fault its content providers aren’t giving you the answers you’re looking for.

DD, take her to the GP. Otherwise google is your friend.

Yeah the punters love AIBU

My pmt disappeared completely when I gave up dairy for a (different) health condition. Some people might think that's a bit extreme, but worth it imo.

Yes I agree this place has changed dramatically. I could weep at the kindness/ humour/ reasoned debate there used to be. Search for old threads from 2006-2010 ish to see

Its not that i didn't get the responses i wanted. Its that literally noone replied. And yet immediately here i get an aggressive, dismissive response. Rather proving my point.

I think it’s just a bit inevitable that people will find tales of unreasonableness more interesting than a teenagers PMT son I don’t know how it could be resolved.

(I don’t disagree with you tho - it is annoying)

"My dd has pmt" years ago would have had many thoughtful, intelligent responses.

Fast forward and its "whatever, fucking Google it"

I know exactly what you mean, OP. There are too many people just wanting a keyboard scrap rather than being he,foul, even when it's clear the OP needs practical suggestions or support rather than sarcasm.

I don't follow the parenting threads so missed your other post unfortunately. However, I was once a 13 year old with ranging PMT that I had to manage myself (neglectful mother - long story. You sound lovely, wanting to help your daughter). If you wouldn't mind posting the worst of her symptoms again, I would do my best to help.

I never go into specific boards, only what's most active.

I think it's a bit of both overall

Bless you lily!

Oops, "helpful", not "he'foul"!

You'd think the combination of periods, teenage girls and parenting would be one that would guarantee a reply or advice.

Actually (and unfortunately) that combination screams ‘massive fucking pervert’.

I’m not suggesting you are anything
of the kind but troll threads about periods are really common.

I too cured my pmt by drastically reducing dairy.

I think the amount of topics causes this. That's why you get "posting here for traffic" in chat and AIBU.

I am surprised at how dead some topics seem to be though, considering it is largely a parenting forum. Like the pushchair topic, etc.

for me back then it was helpful to:

cut out caffeine (no cola, and no tea etc),
cut out fatty foods (cheese etc),
lots of exercise (high endurance sports such as netball, football, rugby, badminton etc)

but yes, I agree with AIBU- lots of trivial problems and the main solutions seem to be not to have children as it is destroying the planet

hope that your DD doesn't have to endure the pain for much longer.

I think there are too many boards. I did dither over where to post it. I chose Parenting because it was one of the most active boards. Chat didn't seem appropriate and no way was i putting it in AIBU

"Your dd is 13 and you are trying to control how she behaves??"
"You are thinking of giving your dd supplements because you don't like her behaviour?? I've heard it all now"

Are the reposnses i would have had on AIBU

Jonathan, is that you?

OP no one owes you a reply. If you’re that worried take her to the bloody doctor.

A family member had terrible pmt as a teenager. Diet & exercise helps but also I think it's exacerbated by the various stresses of being a teenager - the social drama, worries about appearance, exam stresses & the like. Its like drunken arguments as an adult... the alcohol brings underlying issues to the fore! I think the more you can do to help her manage/minimise those other stresses maybe that will help with the pmt.

Or I'd be accused of being a troll

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There's actually space in the internet for a different kind of parenting forum i think

I don't think you can necessarily just expect anyone to reply to a thread. It's something you put out there to see if someone has anything to contribute. It may not spark their interest (and not just because they don't care. Although some might not) or they may feel they've nothing to offer.

Is this forum actually fit for purpose, or has it morphed into something more populist and Daily Mail comments section?
Given it's a public forum how could that be stopped/changed/made ffp if it is the case?
For what it's worth, I really do hope your daughter gets help, either here or elsewhere.

There might be multiple reasons for this.

I, for once, would not be rushing to reply to a thread about teenage girls and periods because it’s a well known troll fodder. Not suggesting you are one, of course.

Also, its something you can address with a HCP.
And finally, it does seem posters prefer a discussion where they can express their opinions, and that’s fine.
A forum can change and that’s perfectly ok.

Parenting seems to attract parents of younger children who may not have much experience. You may get more replies in the teenage section or women’s health.

If I want advise I put it in chat as more likely to get traffic rather than separate parenting boards