To think the Mumsnet forum is a bit broken?

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I started a thread in Parenting about dd and her pmt. Not one single reply. You'd think the combination of periods, teenage girls and parenting would be one that would guarantee a reply or advice.

And yet AIBU is full of responses over the most trivial and daily mail type threads, lots of lovely posters but also a huge proportion of goady fuckers, drama llamas and over reaction.

Is this forum actually fit for purpose, or has it morphed into something more populist and Daily Mail comments section?

And, by the way, if anyone knows anything that might help 13 year old dd with her terrible pmt, I'd be very grateful.

AIBU is the only reason half of us are even here OP and the only place some of us can even get a response.

Meh! I posted about a really useful BT service that blocks cold callers. I got a few sarcastic comments, a few bitchy comments and had zero interest in the actual benefits to this free service (and no, I don’t work for BT)

I think it is broken. Not because i personally didnt get what i want, but because it was deemed too boring or too in the wrong place to get any advice whatsoever!

Judging by this thread, the advice is out there! Mn need to look at the sub boards- i should know where to post by now

Just piping up to add that avoiding dairy - and taking agnus castus - helps with the perimenopause as well as pmt

Re: the point about teenage stress making pmt worse - ime it's the other way around. When I had the worst distress/friendship/boy issues it was probably due to pmt. Felt like I was losing my mind sometimes.

Bit like when I was on that awful contraceptive pill - argh I've forgotten its name - the one that sends everyone mad

Meh! I posted about a really useful BT service that blocks cold callers. I got a few sarcastic comments, a few bitchy comments and had zero interest in the actual benefits to this free service (and no, I don’t work for BT) yes this is what i mean, so childish.

I posted a link to a necklace i was thinking of buying my dd for her 18th, most replies just slagged it off, a few questioned my parenting and one reported me to mn as someone who was trying to make money from affiliate links and it got deleted.

Mumsnet did eventually apologise and reinstate it

fotheringay she eats loads of dairy and too much sugar. I'll have a look at her diet. Weve got other kids doing gcses and a levels so lots of emotional support biscuits in the house atm

tbh I'd rather have no replies than some of the replies you get by self-appointed experts on here telling you BS

I think AIBU provides a useful service in the same way that the Jeremy Kyle Show did.

To be fair I always thought mumsnet was a group where you could chat to other people like you would to people say out met at the school gate and find similar interests and share knowledge or ask for advice.
Not everything in life is interesting but we still might need to ask for experiences, advice or opinions. It's not a reason to be slated, got at or told yo f'off. Meanwhile there are some utterly random topics on here and there are posters who are adamant their knowledge is best. They even rudely shout out their knowledge trumps the personal experiences of others. It's not what it's should be about.
I don't think this is what thus site should be for.
You can't make someone answer a post and that's reasonable but the number of posts could be limited slightly to less whacky topics. in my opinion perhaps the idea of mumsnet should be a site for mums.
I also think the excessive vitriol in AIBU. is just a rude way of communicating. Being in the AIBU section may just be a reason to ask an opinion and should NOT be a reason for the full on vicious have a go-ers.

If I can use a Tory leadership race as an analogy. Your question about teenage PMT is the Rory Stewart of questions. Dull, worthy but ultimately has a bit of usefulness about it. However everyone's too busy marvelling at the AIBU equivalent of the lurid details and increasingly moronic other candidates to bother with facts and the like.
I've been off for a bit but it's depressing now I'm back. I still hopethere's good stuff in here you just need to dig deeper to find it now

Going on my personal experience, the dairy thing would be more a priority than sugar, in desperate times

roundturn I answered the pmt question AND I'm a political nerd too! I'm actually ok with being dull, worthy, and mildly useful

I think it has got worse. When I had my twins seven years ago the multiples board would have posts on half a dozen topics a day, now it's like one or two posts. I'm guilty myself though, I post about 90 percent on AIBU.

To be totally honest, I had no idea how many pervs, chancers and scammers were on here until looking at the Reddit forum. It's definitely made me wary.

OP, I think a lot of people have been put off replying to the type of thread you posted because of the perverts who do on occasion post here under the guise of name changed members.

Im sorry its meant you've not had any help with your DD and her PMT.

Your question about teenage PMT is the Rory Stewart of questions

He's the only candidate i can bear so I'm happy with that

But seriously, if the mumsnet forum declares that asking for advice over a teen's mental and physical health is too dull to answer, then it is no longer fit for purpose

Yanbu and some responses on this thread have rather proven your point.

If I were you I'd have just posted in Chat and written the 'posting for traffic' disclaimer. It is what it is tbh.

But OP do you go into the different areas of Mumsnet and look for threads you can give advice on? Most people only venture into other areas when they 'want' something. The only way traffic can be increased in other areas is if people make an active choice to look there. Chat and AIBU are the highest traffic areas with the most active threads. (I think it of it as the soap opera effect)

Be the change you want to see.

@roundturnandtwohalfhitches You win the thread

But OP do you go into the different areas of Mumsnet and look for threads you can give advice on? yes and have done for years.

Although a lot of the time the threads are so old im not sure whether the OP is even around any more

I would be interested in the BT service

have had annoying phone scammers today claiming to be from BT and planning to cut off my internet. Reported the scammers but need to stop the calls if possible.

It can sometimes be a good plan to use the search function to see previous posts about e.g. teenage PMT, before posting.

I don't think the forum is broken. It's just that we have been inundated with trolls lately so posters are wary of certain topics.
Also, lots of posters just go to Active so threads can be missed.
What did work better 'in the old days' was that there'd often be a thread asking posters to engage on threads with no replies. I can't remember the last time I saw that on here.

I haven't RTFT as I'm rushing to get out but saw this just as I was leaving.

I was your daughter. And now in my 40s my PMT has returned with a vengeance (peri menopause??). I have recently bought a book called 'Period Repair Manual' and it's great. Got it in my local bookshop but it's here on Amazon

www.amazon.co.uk/Period-Repair-Manual-Treatment-Hormones/dp/1975926773/ref=sr_1_1?smid=A1G3UP32AZJ14F&s=gateway&crid=2XA6J8DMUL7H&keywords=period+repair+manual+-+by+lara+briden&sprefix=period+repair%2Caps%2C152&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1560257871&sr=8-1

for your daughter. It's bloody awful. But according to this book, totally fixable. XXX