To think the Mumsnet forum is a bit broken?

[Fibbke]

I started a thread in Parenting about dd and her pmt. Not one single reply. You'd think the combination of periods, teenage girls and parenting would be one that would guarantee a reply or advice.

And yet AIBU is full of responses over the most trivial and daily mail type threads, lots of lovely posters but also a huge proportion of goady fuckers, drama llamas and over reaction.

Is this forum actually fit for purpose, or has it morphed into something more populist and Daily Mail comments section?

And, by the way, if anyone knows anything that might help 13 year old dd with her terrible pmt, I'd be very grateful.

spider you are missing the point- i am sure you got fab advice on the baby boards without me. Unless you too started lots of unanswered threads.

And yes i have advice, great advice, but if you'd read my posts you would see that i have already thanked people but pointed out that i only got the advice because it was in aibu. That to me suggests there is something wrong with the forum itself, not individuals. Apart from individuals who haunt AIBU, picking fights and wading in with bitchy comments, like the daily mail comments section.

All that means is that the structuring of the topics needs adjusting. The problem is not with the posters, (even those that you think read the Daily Mail comments section - which, as I don't, I have no idea whether your comparison is accurate or not).

You could have started it in AIBU without the need to criticize a particular group of people. You would have still got your answers.

Anyway I am glad you got some advice that was useful to you. And I think the point that the boards are too numerous to allow a good cross section of replies is a good one - and one that MN are looking into - so success all round!

Spider: All that means is that the structuring of the topics needs adjusting. The problem is not with the posters

Fibbke: which to me suggests there is something wrong with the forum itself, not individuals.

Spider read what ive said!!

TBF there are a LOT of people using this site with zero manners. Or empathy for that matter.

But there it is.

Sigh.

Starflower oil really really helped me OP, was a total game changer. Give it a google and see what you think

Starflower def helped me with breast pain too Abe

Anyone tried Starflower for perimenopausal mood swings?

Agnus castus has helped a bit but it's still a rollercoaster sometimes

You could try this link for some help. draxe.com/pms-symptoms/

Oil of evening primrose. B vitamins.

Had to dash earlier so sending the link to the book again as a better link:

Period Repair Manual by Lara Briden

fotheringhay i am on HRT for those!

Evening primrose oil (500ml daily - cheapest pills going!) and magnesium (full daily allowance via multivits)helped me. I hope for both your sakes that your daughter gets it sorted soon.

They might as well shut the rest of the boards down and just leave AIBU

Agreed. I cant remember last time i read a decent parking thread or CF neighbour.

Seriosuly though, i agree with a comment in regards to too.many topics. A lot of threads just get lost.

There are a lot of miserable / aggressive posters. If I see one of their posts I know to not even bother reading!

A lot of the “advice” is plain wrong. Years ago I posted about my then boyfriend - now DH. I was told repeatedly that “he wasn’t that into me” and I should “‘move on.” We are happily married now with a DC! Just turns out he is bad at messaging back but his communication has improved!

I take MN with a massive pinch of salt...

add one combined Home, Garden & Pets section

No. They are quite separate concerns. Lots of people have neither pets nor gardens.

OTOH, have never seen why Property/DIY is separate from Home Decoration.

There are other subforums??

Mumsnet is aibu. Aibu is mumsnet

If they really want people to use or see the other forums they need to be more proactive in moving threads from aibu to their proper place

Aibu to ask you where i should go for holiday? should be instamoved to holidays/travel forum

It is a bit messy and hard to navigate. I've never understood 30 day chat.

I saw your post OP (I'm on parenting a fair bit) but I've got a toddler and don't get PMT so not qualified to answer.

I've got a toddler and don't get PMT so not qualified to answer that's fine! I've had loads of good advice now anyway.

mumsnet is AIBU clearly!

We used to have a 'thing' on mumsnet where we spent time answering unanswered threads might be worth a rethink.

Also its weird that there are so many specific sub forums yet AIBU and chat are one huge amorphous blob

"Aibu to ask you where i should go for holiday? should be instamoved to holidays/travel forum"

Totally agree! MNHQ are quick enough moving Brexit threads from chat and AIBU sections into the Brexit one but very rarely move anything else which should be in other sections - Brexit affects everyone whereas where Sharon goes on holiday affects no one apart from Sharon.
If MNHQ was more proactive moving threads then people wouldn't post in AIBU or chat for traffic

We used to have a 'thing' on mumsnet where we spent time answering unanswered threads might be worth a rethink.

I can see that's public spirited. I used to post on a message board where, if a thread was languishing, posters who had nothing to say on the subject would post "Bump!" in a kindly fashion. Could get a bit tedious though.
Presumably people could "bump" their own threads at what might be a better time to attract people who might have knowledge of a subject. I think examples have been given above.

I posted a light-hearted thread once which disappeared without trace. It might just have been deadly dull or stupid but I did post at a silly time, in retrospect.

Before they changed it, you could see how many Unanswered Threads there were and when there were over 120 or so, posters (me included) used to start threads saying how many there were no asking people to see if they could help anyone.

No point now, we all know there's normally over a hundred, but we can't see how many.

It's been bad for the topics too. The cull will make that worse.

And would you really expect to get good advice in teenagers and periods in AIBU? When there is a persistent period troll?

Why don’t you just put her on the pill?

Something like Yaz with a synthetic estrogen. If she doesn’t take the sugar pills she won’t even get a period. It will even out her hormones, won’t interfere with sports.

It could be something worse, like endometriosis. Just put her on the pill.

Totally agree OP. I didn't take long for the kind of response you were meaning. The people saying Google it or go to the GP - this is where you would expect to be able to chat with people going through the same thing. Hope your daughter finds something that works OP. Mine is too young for me to be able to help I'm afraid.