To be fed up with DH turning off the hot water?!

[Daffodil2018]

Just that really. I'm on mat leave at the moment so in the house most of the day. Every single time I go to run the hot tap, only cold comes out so I go and check the water tank and - lo and behold - he's turned the hot water completely off AGAIN. He does it all the time.

This is so fucking annoying on many levels. I want to wash my hands in hot water after changing a nappy. I don't want to have to wait half an hour to run DD a warm bath each evening. There is a timer setting, which he could just leave it on, but NO. Off entirely.

I've asked him so many times not to do it and he either LIES (!!!) about it or says "but we don't need it on all the time". He is being a stingy bastard if you ask me. Alright for him going off to his office all day.

I literally do nothing except look after the baby at the moment and I think having hot water to wash my hands/her stuff in is not just hygienically necessary but a basic comfort too. AIBU?!

He's a div. It's more efficient to keep a tank warm than to keep having to heat it up from cold every time.

This is controlling behaviour, OP.

Does he turn off the hot water on days that he is home, like weekends?

Turn it off half an hour before he wants a shower. It might ensure he realises how annoying it is, & hopefully he'll stop doing it. Evidently asking nicely, explaining etc, hasn't worked.

Agree with previous poster, start turning it off when it will affect him, can’t stand stingy people.

Yep that's controlling I agree with the poster who suggested turning it off when you expect he wants to use it

Does he understand that if it's on timer is not on constantly? Ours comes on at 5:30am, 1:30pm and 6pm, I am never without hot water (also on mat leave), my boiler isn't going constantly. It sounds like he is an idiot, and a mean one at that.

He is a div! That is what I suspected re heating the tank up each time but it's good to have it confirmed so thank you.

He is not controlling in any other way and is in fact a model DH in most other ways, he just seems to have this weird thing about the hot water!! I think he's trying to be thrifty but it's infuriating when he doesn't have to experience it himself all day long.

Unfortunately we have a power shower

I think I am going to have to undertake some tedious research about how our hot water tank works so I can explain it to him

It is not more economical to leave it on all the time. Mine is only on for an hour or 2 twice a day and that gives sufficient hot water

I'd switch it back on every single time, except when he wanted to use it. Controlling, stingy bollocks.

www.cse.org.uk/advice/energy-saving-tips/energy-mythbuster

Why do you have to explain how the hot water tank works?

Just tell him you need constant access to hot water so it needs to stay on.

Or make sure it's on the moment he leaves for work?

To be honest I didn't even know this was a thing? We just always have hot water

It doesn't need to be on all the time, that's a myth

That would piss me right off and I'd tell him that my new morning routine is to turn the water right back on again the second he leaves the house. I'd also be tempted to go out for a long walk every Sunday morning just before he wants a shower and turn the water off on my way out (in fact I might even be prepared to go and turn it off in the night so he can't have a warm shower in the morning but I'm petty like that!).

I would not research how hot water works. I’d reach in and turn off the hot tap while he was in the shower. Then tell him never to turn the hot water off on me again.

I don't mind if it's on all the time, if he just leaves it on the timer (6-7am and 6-7pm) shouldn't that give me enough hot water for the day and evening? Or does it need to be on constantly for the water to be hot? It's the fact he turns it fully off which is infuriating because I often don't notice until I am at the point of needing hot water eg to do washing up.

Tell his Mum, she will box his ears.

I don't mind if it's not on all the time that should say!

Turn it on again as soon as he leaves the house.

But whether you should leave it on or off most of the time, depends on how your heating works, how often you need hot water and what kind of boiler you have. But you should always have access to hot water.

I don’t understand this at all. Our hot water is on between 5.30 and 7.30 for showers, then back on at 7pm for an hour or so. We have hot water all day, sufficient for hand washing etc and if I shower mid day after a run.

Just check it every time he leaves the house.
Then do something that's just as inconvient for him.
"Sorry darling lo puked on your work top. If we had access to hot water I could get it right out for you"

As soon as he leaves for work turn it on for the day then turn it off after you’ve ran DD a bath. See how he likes it.

The shower heats itself separately unfortunately. I wish I could give him a cold blast!!

Telling his mum is a great idea except she thinks the sun shines out of his backside so I can't be 100% sure she wouldn't side with him. I think she'd get it though.

The hot water cylinder will store the hot water until it's required and as long as its insulated it will last for hours. The hot water doesn't need to be on all the time to have constant hot water