Yesterday I saw my school bully

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At a funeral, he was a nasty little arsehole at school. I took an overdose over the constant shit he gave me. I always imagined meeting him and being as cool as a cucumber and pretend i didn’t even know who he was.

I was a nervous wreck, I was sweating, shaking I felt sick. I’m 43 years old this happened when I was 15.

Now I’m out of there there are a thousand things I wish I had said. I feel like a fucking idiot.

I really envy all those brave enough to stand up and say something thankfully I never saw mine again after school and doubt I ever will but no doubt I would not say a thing to them. But while I was at school we lost our family home when my parents divorced one of my bullies parents bought it I hated the thought of him living in our beautiful home. I did however leave cheese in one of the cupboards

@beansontoasttwiceover, I agree with @hooferdoofer37, if your BIL is working at a children's charity that is worrying.

Hooferdoofer37

It’s already been discussed on here before, but people report it as trolling so MN keeps deleting the thread. I don’t know why. Perhaps like my family, MN thinks it’s fine to normalise the issue [insert shruggy emote].

A friend of mine once ended up in the position of having to interview one of her former school bullies for a job.

She turned the bully down for the job and said it felt good to be able to do that.

I was bullied at school, and again years later at work (not by the same person). It casts a long shadow. The only one I ever saw again was the work bully. We worked for different companies by then, though in the same building. She got into the lift at the same time as me and I took great delight in giving her a massive death stare, and watching her squirm.

When I hadn't been working very long I was bullied by my manager, he made my life hell, I reported him to higher management who took his side because he was a manager. He was an alcoholic, had a cup of black coffee on his desk all day that never ended, he was topping it up with vodka out of his drawer, until eventually when he was off sick & higher management had to break in to his desk to get some work keys found bottles of booze & a stash of very heavy porn that could only be bought through specialist mail order, he never came back to work. When it was announced that he had died, a member of staff who knew how badly the bullying had affected me very kindly took a photo of his coffin at the funeral, had it framed for me & gave it me in a gift box with a label giving me full permission to do what I wanted with it. I took it home, set fire to it & banished his bullying ways from my head.

My bully is overweight, tall, redhead. Married to some fat, ugly guy and works in real estate as a property manager.

She has absolutely no self awareness and appears content with her lot in life.

The bullying stopped when I publicly called out the behaviour of her and her friend and stated it was probably due to abuse in her home. She stopped after that and left me alone.

She used to walk around unkempt with large boils on her legs. I suspected she was neglected but there was no way I was going to be the victim. I gave it back in the only way I knew how - psychological manipulation.

My worst bully sent me a friend request on FB. I ignored it. A year later she did it again and I called her on it. She was absolutely mortified, very apologetic, said she'd been physically and sexually abused at home and was lashing out at everyone. We stayed FB friends for a while until I decided that rehashing the past isn't helpful and had a FB cull. But it definitely gave me closure on it.

@Parky04 that’s disgusting he was a child who died. Bullying is horrible and I’m not taking that away. But to be glad a child died that’s terrible.

I had a violent childhood bully for many years

I haven't met her again (and hope I never do) but through the power of the internet I have found out that she has set up an organisation to help teenage victims of rape, after being raped herself.

No women should ever have to go through what she's been through, but I have found myself thinking she deserved it (and I'm not proud of thinking this), but if her website is anything to go by it has bought out a positive side of her, hopefully she is a changed person now.

Bloody hell I was horribly bullied at school but what does it say about you if you're glad your bully was raped or killed? Nobody deserves to be raped for god's sake!

Like I said, I'm not proud of thinking that, but just being honest about the first thought that went through my head when I read about it.

Given that my lasting memory of her is with her hand around my throat pinning me down throttling me, I think that my reaction was a very normal human reaction.

I saw mine when I was out running. I was running 10k and feeling fab, she had put in a lot of weight (so have I to be fair but it still made me feel better as she was always one of the skinny cool girls) and she was hugging and puffing and being encouraged by someone from the local running club.

After I went past I did an actual fist pump.

They all grow up to be people with the same problems as the rest of us

Several people bullied me both inside and outside of school.

One came up to me in a pub rather drunk one evening and apologised for what she'd done and said she worked with vulnerable kids now and was appalled by her past behaviour. And then she drunkenly tried to get me to punch her! I declined!

Another I bumped into in a pub when I was in my 20s and she hadn't changed. Despite not seeing me for years she screamed abuse at me.
Sadly she died from drug abuse several years later. It did make me sad because she obviously had problems and I was friends with his brother and having lost a sibling myself knew how awful it is.

Most of the others seem to have pretty normal lives - I've seen the occasional stuff through mutual friends on FB.

@ChocChocButtons No remorse here at all. 5 years of utter misery at his hands. How many innocent people could he have killed with his reckless behavior? The world is a much safer place without him.

Meccacos you sound very unpleasent yourself. What on earth is wrong with being a redhead? Many of us, including me, were badly bullied for this trait alone by ignorant cunts.

@Parky04 often teenagers grow up and become decent humans. Not sure I agree I’m afraid. My friends son is being bullied really badly but she wouldn’t rejoice over the bullies death.

I was bullied throughout school, I bumped into one of my many bullies, she was off her face, looked like a junkie and is apparently a prostitute. I was happy for a few minutes then felt kinda sad at what kind of life she must have had to end up like that. The others, I don't know whats come of them, I hope they are leading miserable lives too.
I wanted to kill myself too at the time, but luckily I was too much of a wuss to do it especially after once incident where I was pinned down by 5 of them in class and beaten up infront of a teacher who 'didnt see' he refused to walk me to the heads office even though he could see the girls waiting outside for me, so I legged it the other way and went home, I got in trouble for leaving too!
My daughter started getting bullied early on at school. I had her out of that school so fast and have home educated since. I refuse to let my children feel the way I did. I'm 31 but still have confidence issues, social anxiety and I've never ever felt good enough. People don't realise how much and how long it affects people.

I met my school bully - felt sorry for her and befriended her and twenty years on (and what I thought was a good, close friendship) she has done it again.

This time I know I am loved and loveable but I am still knocked sideways.

I realise that she has never had integrity and never will - I am still mourning her (or the effort I put into the relationship I thought was a friendship)

Ooh from reading posts I remembered I git a apology from a school bully. He didn't specifically pick on me but was never very pleasant and completely vile to a few geeky kids. He was basically apologising to anyone he ever went to school with if he happened to see them. It was much appreciated by me but sad that it happened in the first place. We have some mutual friends now who didn't know him at school and he is one of their favourite people.

Looking back I wonder wtf was going on in his life. Easier to think that way now I work with kids!

I'm just waiting for someone to come on here and admit they were the school bully. As someone who went to 11 schools (army child) I can tell you there were a lot of them about.

I worked with a boss from hell as few years ago, so many people left the job because of her. She was writing on Facebook about World Mental Health day a few months ago 😳

I'm just waiting for someone to come on here and admit they were the school bully

Most abusive people are in complete denial about what they are

A girl that bullied me at school (bullied everyone) appeared recently in an episode of Judge Rinder, she was a carer and was covertly filmed stealing cash from a vulnerable and elderly person. She went to Jail. Perhaps what goes around comes around in the end.

A friend of mine once ended up in the position of having to interview one of her former school bullies for a job

Oh my god I’d love to do that 😂 I would be absolutely vile.

This is why I didn't want to settle down in the town where I grew up. Can't think of anything worse than having to mix with school bullies as an adult