Yesterday I saw my school bully

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At a funeral, he was a nasty little arsehole at school. I took an overdose over the constant shit he gave me. I always imagined meeting him and being as cool as a cucumber and pretend i didn’t even know who he was.

I was a nervous wreck, I was sweating, shaking I felt sick. I’m 43 years old this happened when I was 15.

Now I’m out of there there are a thousand things I wish I had said. I feel like a fucking idiot.

This girl who had been physically violent to me on two occasions, was to my horror sat in our front room drinking tea, with my mum and brother, one night after I’d arrived home.My brother, totally unaware of how nasty this bitch was to me had fallen for her and brought her home to meet my mum. I’ll never forget the shock of seeing her sat on our settee.

I have zero sympathy for bullies, don't care what's going on, to make people that miserable that they want to end their life (and some have) is disgusting and I hope they live their lives with regret and shame.
A girl in my high school was nasty to everyone, stabbed a girl in the hand with a pencil and went to set my hair on fire, but apparently I turned my head at the the last minute so did it to my friend instead.
She still lives local and I do see her now and then, but I've heard she's had her children taken off her and she was on a CCTV Facebook post stealing a charity money box, everyone knew it was her and she was named on nearly every comment.

I was bullied in my teenage years by a girl whose parents were friends with mine. I never said anything to my parents as she terrified me so verbally and physically.
She contacted me recently via parents old friends as her father is gravely ill and she wanted to facilitate a meet up one last time for him with my DF. I thought for several days about responding as she had been so vile to me - and now wanted my help! - and there was no apology forthcoming in the request about her behaviour. I've since found out that she is also very unwell and so i guess karma has caught up with her.
The meeting between our two DFs was arranged, as their ability to say farewell shouldnt be tainted by her past behaviour, but I didnt met her F2F as she doesnt deserve the headspace

I wasn’t bullied but DD was.

I’ve seen them around since and they look incredibly sheepish.

Little bitches - I don’t care ‘if they were children’ their parents weren’t and did nothing but aid then.

Glad to say the main two fell out and haven’t had any friends to hang round with since. Late teens and sat in every Saturday night because they can’t be nice to other people.

@dreamyspires what happened?? Did you tell your brother?

I blocked the school bully on Facebook, but the last thing I knew/saw was she had 2 sons to 2 different dads, was single, unemployed, and had posted a fair few miserable statuses. I can’t say this surprised me, she was never going to do anything successful with her life. I think both she & I knew that, even at school. I think a lot of school bullies behave the way they do because they know, once they’ve left school, they’ll never have any “power” ever again. It’s the only time they’ll ever feel important / powerful / special. And if that isn’t monumentally sad, I don’t know what is. So I don’t feel anything but pity for her. She wasn’t happy then and isn’t happy now.

I was bullied at school until I was twelve and my parents moved to another town and I didn't have to see the bully ever again.

But I did see her, when I was thirty-five or so. I was walking along the road in a village on the Thames, looking for the shop where I could buy bread and eggs and things for the boat, when I was hailed by name from the other pavement and she bounced up and was all over me, wanting to talk about how lovely it had been when we were at school together and talking as if we'd been best friends.

I didn't know what to say. In the end I was just polite, more or less, and made my escape, and didn't tell her that one of the best moments of the time we were at school together was about two minutes before I walked out of the place forever, when I'd tipped an inkwell over her head and she was standing there with ink dripping down the front of her face and her white school blouse onto the floor.

Our school had once girl who was horrendous. Used to beat people up for fun and was just a horrible cow. Thought she was amazing but everyone hated her.

She left school and had 2 children, broke up with their dad and became a drug addict. I saw her in town one day and she had gone from a slim, blonde pretty girl to a bloated mess and her teeth were all black and her skin was awful from the drugs. She went on Jeremy Kyle to dispute the paternity of her DC1 (and turned out the bloke she brought on WASNT the dad). Her parents took custody of the 2 kids and she was in and out of court for domestic violence (both her and her boyfriends). Everything she does is played out on facebook. Constant "my mum wont let me see my children" rants and then her mum or family members replying that she needs to get clean and not show up at 4am wanting to see them etc. She then got a new boyfriend, pregnant with number 3 and he took the baby with him when he left.

She eventually got clean, had baby number 4 and now does eyelashes from her house. Her lash company is named after her DC4. Looks like shes got her life together. All that packed in by age 32! One thing that confuses me though is in her bio it says "DC1, DC2 & DC4 are my world". no mention of the little boy that lives with her ex. I often wonder about him.

im a believer of karma!

I always daydream about how I would get back at my bullies. I’m going with the ‘living my best life’ option.

My husband was bullied too and one day his old bully turned up to clean our house. She arrived late, drunk and was an awful
Cleaner. It made him feel better about where he is in life

@Bunnica15 Yes I told him and he told me she’d said (before I arrived home) that “I don’t think your sister likes me” but she didn’t go into any detail. She never came to the house again, it just kind of fizzled out between them. But how hard faced was that? To actually sit in our living room knowing full well it was the house I lived in.

I met my bully in a pub, I look very different now & he asked my friend who he knows very vaguely who I was as he 'wanted to chat me up' . Then he tried to pretend he'd never made my life misery & be chatty. I blanked him & he was mortified & left. .

Mine sent me a very long and thoughtful message via Facebook apologising for the way they treated me. We are now Facebook friends and don’t see each other because we live on different continents, but if we did bump into each other I’d be happy. If someone had told me 30 years ago that this would happen, I’d never have believed it!

im a believer of karma!

Yet, so many powerful and wealthy horrible people don't know what karma is.

I was bullied/harassed at my old job. This guy was obsessed with trying to get me into trouble...went on for ages but he was pally with management and 50+ I was early 20s and hadn't worked there long. I left instead of dealing with it.

Years down the line some random person I had worked with messaged me with a link...he'd been done for pedophilia. He'd groomed a 15yo girl. I burst into tears. I hope he has a rotten rotten time in prison because he is pure evil.

Springfern hugs and to you. I hope you have found happiness because you truly deserve it.

I met my school bully at a wedding once. I'd had a few drinks which made me braver. She came over and chatted as if nothing had ever happened. I talked to her nicely enough but at the end said, ' you do realise you Made my life hell at school?' And asked her why she had done it. In fairness she did look a bit chastened and admitted her part in it all, said she didn't know why she'd done it and apologised. She minimised it all a bit but at least apologised. She wouldn't have if I hadn't asked her to.
I'm glad I was brave enough to point out her behaviour to her, though I'm not sure her apology was especially sincere.

i often dream about coming across my own bullies - how they would say ive changed - i looked beautiful now, about how they are so so sorry about what they did to me. How they were wrong. I would never though - too nervous.

One of the girls contacted me years ago, i pretended i had forgotten her, she went on and on about how we were best friends - no, we werent, you used to beat me up and burn me - you cow.

My school bully died in a RTA when he was 17. Drove at 70 mph in a 30 mph zone. Wrapped the car around a tree, no one else, thankfully, involved. I did smile to myself. Karma is a wonderful thing.

I met a girl from
School who was generally horrid to everyone who wasn't rich at a party a few years ago. She apologised to me about how awful and stuck up she had been at school. I pretended I didn't remember her. The drunker she got the more she tried to convince me I must. Dreadful

I bumped in to mine a few years ago at the local vets. I took great pleasure in pretending I had no idea who she was when she was trying to say hello . Then smiled and sat down as she battled her way out of the heavy doors with two cat carriers. One of which then popped open and off her cat went in to the world 😁

Revenge is sweet. And furry!

She was (& by all accounts still is) a horrible c*nt, who made my life hell for years.

I also recently found out her Husband is having it off with one of the Mums from the martial arts class he teaches, as my friend's son attends them.

Poor love 😁 karma and all that.

TheHammock being a bully themselves yet promoting anti-bullying campaigns .... it’s their cover to try and deflect any potential questions about their integrity.

My sister started doing this last year.
We had to finally call the police and solicitors on her targeted online hate campaign, her boyfriend raped a 13 year old girl when he was 35,... and then suddenly she’s all about making her own ‘charity’ secondhand jumble sale groups on Facebooks and he’s volunteering at children’s centres.

It might wash with the new ‘friends’ who don’t know about her past, or believe her stories, but we can see what she’s doing. Leopards don’t change their spots and she’s always been crafty.

Everyone gets their comeuppance in the end (insert a shruggy emote).

I saw mine a few years ago, I was in my late 20s/ early 30s - (she is a year older than me).
She shouted "Slag" across the street at me.

She briefly moved into the house next door to my parents too a year or so back .

OP your not an idiot. Anyone who really has been bullied will understand. Being bullied at 14 sent me down a very dark SH and depression route. She was expelled from the school. Time has helped plus lots of therapy. The best revenge is a life well lived, but I still get dreams about school.

The best revenge is always living well. I met mine at a social event with others, and we had a faux-polite conversation about what we had been doing since schooldays. When she said she was bored to tears in a dead-end job with no prospects (as she had been too busy being foul to work for her GCSEs), whereas I was able to say that I was thoroughly enjoying my fulfilling career, I just smiled brightly and turned away. A friend and fellow victim told me that her face was a joy to behold.

@BeansOnToastTwiceOver
Your BIL is a child rapist, but he's working at a children's charity?!?

Is there anything you can do to stop that? It's horrific.