To think some parents are far too over protective.

[ScottishJo31]

Hi all, I am fully prepared to get flamed for this I have 3 children aged 9, 5 and 1 ( all boys) my middle son is in reception and every week without fail there is a message on the class WhatsApp group which usually contains a photo regarding a child who has the odd scrape or bruise caused by general play or sometimes rough play, with accompanying statements such as I am heartbroken that my baby has got hurt by another child .. I trusted my baby in the schools care.. etc etc
The majority of these injuries are minor scuffs and the odd tiny bruise potentially "caused" by a child no older than 5 years old.
My sons class has a lot of children who do need to supervised carefully and monitored because they play fight and run around a lot at lunchtimes as most 5 years old do in my opinion!
My sons have always had the odd scratch and scrape and I never think to give them the third degree about it... yet some
Of the boys who have been a bit rough with my middle son are the very ones who have every minor bruise listed on these groups.
I appreciate parents do not want to see their children get hurt but to document every tiny mark seems excessive. I appreciate I may be in the minority about this but it seems a bit much- it's something I'm seeing more and more...!

Agree. I was in a playground with dd and her friend. They ar 4.5yrs. Dd climbing and having a great time. Friend also 4.5yrs old looked and said " she shouldn't be climbing it's dangerous....." I just kept cheering on dd ..... not sure what it teaches children to be that way.

Last summer DS was 2 and had permanently skinned knees. DH and I admitted we kind of liked it. Not because we want him hurt, obviously, but because it showed he'd been running around and exploring and taking a few falls in his stride.

DS aged 3 often looks grubby because his shins have so many fading bruises. I don’t know how he causes them but I hope it was worthwhile. These whingers should home educate.

We recently had a Duke of Edinburgh training weekend and some of the messages on the parents group were something else! Drama that they wanted an update and didn't like being out of touch (as the 14 year olds had only an emergency phone to find their own way on the weekend). Astonishing- at 14!

There’s always a few super precious parents. Just smile to yourself and ignore.

I got the dreaded phone call at work - your DC has hit his head, please come and collect him (as per school policy)
I got to the school, and could see the poor teachers/TAs/medical room staff looking ridiculously nervous about my potential reaction. After greeting DS and having a cuddle, they told me what happened, what they'd done 1st aid wise, I thanked them for looking after him, signed the form to say I was aware it was a knock to the head, thanked them again, and wandered off with DS. I really wondered what reactions they got usually, as you'd think I was coming in to tear strips off them! (he was fine)
So no, YANBU! Kids are a constant bruise some weeks! Just means they've been busy!

We may also have the policy of 'never start a fight, but feel free to finish it.' I won't (and don't) condone starting any violence, but frankly if little Johnny hits my DS, I have no problem with him hitting him back. Telling an adult is all very well, but I'm also aware the TAs have a huge playground to supervise - they can't physically be everywhere. One child in particular was bothering DS, and one day he'd had enough, so he hit back (just once) and they've never bothered him since.

School WhatsApp groups are awful - parents whipping themselves and each other up into a frenzy over utter nonsense. It's a shame as it's a useful communication tool but rapidly turns into an AIBU style bearpit

thank god my dc finished primary / middle school before all this shit started up, 'broken hearted my baby has been hurt by another child' wtf. for christs sake you are pathetic who ever writes this sort of shit.

Class WhatsApp groups are the work of the devil.

^ This.

Surely this affects negatively children's physical development of co-ordination and similar?

@Gindrinker43 I actually love scouting because they are more relaxed about this sort of thing. My kids are allowed to run around the camp site, climb trees, they learn how to do things safely - as scouts they are taught to use knives. I got a call from camp last year as DS1 had a golf ball on his head. I went up to see him. Gave him paracetamol. His only worry was that I might take him home. They let him manage his own hayfever medicine - compared to school who won't even let him manage a locket! No complaints from this parent.

Kids need the rough and tumble.They wont learn their bounderies otherwise.
My boys always had scrapped knees,bruises,never anything broken thankfully.

And why do they keep falling on the same knee constantly.

It gets worse as they get older. I have colleagues with children in their late teens and early twenties who can't cook, iron, manage their own money or sort out things like car insurance or rent arrears. Because they haven't been allowed to learn. Mine are 18 and 20. They're doing ok but I need to teach the younger one how to clean a bathroom before he goes to university in the autumn.

I’ve never understood it - we’re still at the nursery phase but some parents get so dramatic about bumps, bruise and even, dare I say it, the odd bite. Mines fortunately never been a biter but she’s been bitten a couple of times and I just shrug... their 2, basically feral and still learning the very basics of interaction... stuff happens. There are also a few parents who complain about the kids coming home dirty. I like it when I pick her crusted in mud, means she’s had a good day scrabbling in the dirt which is what she loves best.

I work in a school and do lunchtime supervision. The number of kids who behave as though a limb has detached when they fall over is absolutely astounding. The same kids tend to be the ones who also have a shit fit when they don't win at football or tig, it really is very very wearing. There is a whole generation who just have no idea how to shake off the small stuff.

@rednsparkley I put a lot of it down to "everyones a winner" shite.Kids just dont know how to lose.

As someone who has worked in a university for a long time and seen the change in students (for the worse) over the years.....YADNBU. There is so little resilience from young adults today. Not solely caused by over protective parents, but it's definitely a contributing factor. Same with the level of parental interference - it's increased substantially over the years. I had to tell a man in his mid 20s last week that no, I didn't want to speak to his mam about his illness

@GoldenEvilHoor what has that got to do with the op

YANBU. My work colleague runs around after her daughter and won’t let her catch a bus on her own. She’s 15!!!

I am a child protection professional and I suspect most of DD's friends parents consider she is at best being parented in a constant state of 'benign neglect'. Her friend was at ours the other day and I checked if they could head to the local park by themselves. Apparently not because there are men in white vans on every corner trying to abduct them. Firstly they are 13 and really should know stranger danger, secondly it is nearer than their walk to school and is full of dog walkers and parent's with toddlers, lastly anyone who abducted these two would return them pretty sharpish!