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Leaving baby in hotel room

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AvadaKedavra92 · 07/06/2019 16:39

So I'm on the ground floor of a hotel have a baby monitor, WIBU to take the video monitor to the bar/restaurant and get something to eat while she sleeps?

I'm not sure whether to do it or not, don't want to wake her up this evening for me to go eat. They don't offer room service.

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AvadaKedavra92 · 08/06/2019 07:27

Thank you to all the nice posters who haven't tried to make me feel like shit Smile

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azulmariposa · 08/06/2019 07:43

No. Get room service and don't leave the baby alone.

TheGoogleMum · 08/06/2019 07:46

You don't deserve all the stick you are getting. I hadn't thought about safety issues like just how many staff members might have keys and not even crb checked but with a video monitor and trying to eat quite quickly it probably would have been fine. I would have tempted myself! But you didn't even do it in the end and people are still going on. Definitely not unreasonable to consider it and decide not to do it!

herculepoirot2 · 08/06/2019 08:03

The posts where people say they did this before MM and then didn’t again really confuse me. MM went missing because her parents neglected her. It just happened that they were very unlucky when that happened. It’s no different if you did it before they did - you were just luckier. They have paid for what they did, before anyone starts.

Biancadelrioisback · 08/06/2019 08:11

Is "get room service" the new cancel the cheque?

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AvadaKedavra92 · 08/06/2019 08:14

@azulmariposa if I hear room service one more time I'm going to explode. RTFT.

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chanderl · 08/06/2019 08:25

With a video monitor you'll be fine.

dementedpixie · 08/06/2019 08:26

She's had her dinner already!

MRex · 08/06/2019 08:31

Even if a hotel says they won't do room service it's worth asking if someone could bring the food just across the courtyard so you can sit by the open room doorway, most humans are willing to bend the rules slightly to help where needed. It'd be pleasant on a warm night. Suggest it as "rather than bring a screaming baby into your restaurant" and see what help is suddenly available to get food to your room. If not then at 9 months I'd just eat early and keep the baby up slightly later.

The person who wants to get a random stranger to sit with the baby and apparently thinks hotel staff have spare half hours to enjoy babysitting. That's got to be a joke, right?

sweetheartyparty · 08/06/2019 08:33

Very harsh responses here, don't worry OP you're a good mum

Jodie571 · 08/06/2019 08:53

Yes OP you’re a good mum don’t let any other silly mumsnet user try to tell you otherwise.

The fact you’re even posting here to ask the questions proves that.

Xx

ZenNudist · 08/06/2019 08:54

Ive done it and friends have. Our kids are aged up to 10 so this is post McCann. Not in big hotels are many flights of stairs but if its not far back to the room then fine.

edgeofheaven · 08/06/2019 09:03

Hotel staff have keys to the rooms and they know the layout of the place better than you do. It’s not secure to leave a child alone in a hotel, ever. Even when I travel on my own I always latch the door to prevent someone entering.

We rely heavily on Airbnb so we can get flats or suites on holiday, that way when DCs are asleep we can watch telly and have a meal in a different room.

Jodie571 · 08/06/2019 09:25

If a staff member can’t in the OP would see it on the monitor

Jodie571 · 08/06/2019 09:25

Came in *

Jodie571 · 08/06/2019 09:26

And if the eatery was across the way would run to the door

Crazybunnylady123 · 08/06/2019 09:26

Not read whole thread. But I would never leave my daughter on her own like that.
To precious to risk her for anything.

TheSerenDipitY · 08/06/2019 09:31

do you recall a while back a couple on holiday left their children in their hotel room and fucked off for dinner, they were just "next door" too... now they are one child less than they started, and to this day still have no answers as to where their daughter is.... no parent should ever need a wake up call after this... just dont

MorningRichie · 08/06/2019 11:30

Giddyyup, I'm not sure she's thinking of murdering her child.

cccameron · 08/06/2019 13:00

Lots of high end family-orientated hotels have similar services

Oh that's totally fine then if it's HIGH END. Of course if you are paying money for an upmarket hotel you are perfectly entitled to neglect your baby!

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AvadaKedavra92 · 08/06/2019 22:29

@TheSerenDipitY sarcasm is the lowest form wit.

@Jodie571 Thank you Smile I like to think it showed I had doubts! xx

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Peachsummer · 08/06/2019 22:37

I absolutely would not do that. I’d rather starve than leave my child unsupervised in a hotel. And I would judge very harshly any parent who put their own desire to eat above their baby’s safety.

BlueWonder · 08/06/2019 22:45

Why didn't you anticipate this and buy a sandwich meal deal or similar during the day and save for tonight. Now I guess your only options are to order a takeaway or just have an early night and go down to breakfast early in the morning. Missing one meal won't kill you (unless you have a specific medical condition). I would not leave a baby alone in a strange environment.

dementedpixie · 08/06/2019 22:46

OP had her dinner last night!

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AvadaKedavra92 · 08/06/2019 22:46

@Peachsummer a very medical condition no longer allows me to skip meals, I am still learning how to manage it - my little lady needs a healthy parent.

Can't you see I had doubt and that's why I posted. I just thought she might be alright within 15ft, can see my room and would also have taken the monitor. Just wouldn't have disturbed her.

Thanks for your input.

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