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Leaving baby in hotel room

266 replies

AvadaKedavra92 · 07/06/2019 16:39

So I'm on the ground floor of a hotel have a baby monitor, WIBU to take the video monitor to the bar/restaurant and get something to eat while she sleeps?

I'm not sure whether to do it or not, don't want to wake her up this evening for me to go eat. They don't offer room service.

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rainbowunicorn · 07/06/2019 22:50

God there are some nasty, horrible people on this thread. There really is no need for it. Certain posters sound like the nasty bullying bitches that you get in every high school. I guess some people never grow out of being like that. They just move on to online nastiness as they get older.
I hope you have a good evening OP and that the problem with your flat is fixed soon.

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AvadaKedavra92 · 07/06/2019 22:50

@Vulpine aren't I lucky! All hail mighty unicorn!

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AvadaKedavra92 · 07/06/2019 22:51

@rainbowunicorn thank you Smile

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awalkintheparka · 07/06/2019 22:52

Ffs own it OP. I've done it a fair few times. It has been fine. She had a breathing monitor that flashes each time she had a breath. Of course you need to eat.
You asked a question and got a mixed response. Own what you said and stop trying to act like you didn't ask it. Everyone's allowed an opinion. Stick with yours!

Jodie571 · 07/06/2019 22:55

@Smilingthroughit why do you have to be so mean? You can’t believe people like this exist?! Totally unnecessary, OP is asking a question and doesn’t deserve that kind of response.

If she was leaving the child without I monitor I’d understand but she can SEE the child. I’m not saying it’s acceptable but she doesn’t deserve that.

No need to be so horrible.

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AvadaKedavra92 · 07/06/2019 22:56

@awalkintheparka I know I asked for opinions? Where have I said I didn't? I don't really have an opinion on it to stick to.

I was just getting fed up with unicorn being an arse.

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Leftielefterson · 07/06/2019 22:57

God no I just wouldn’t risk it.

Jodie571 · 07/06/2019 22:57

@rainbowunicorn I totally agree. It disgusts me how people’s claws come out on mumsnet - it’s full of nasty bullies.

I’m on the verge of shutting down my mumsnet I think there’s too many nasties

WellVersedInEtiquette · 07/06/2019 22:59

We did. Just before Madeleine McCann went missing. I wasn't entirely comfortable with it but I was assured it was safe. (One way in and out of the hotel through the bar)
And then a few months later she went missing and it quickly felt abhorrent

perfectstorm · 07/06/2019 23:00

Well, I could have a parent who thought it might be okay to be 15 feet away, with a video monitor, on the ground floor, while she grabbed a bite to eat. Or I could have a parent who thought spewing venom and spite at a stranger was evidence of moral superiority.

I know who I'd want to avoid having as my mum, tbh.

Mother40 · 07/06/2019 23:04

We did this a couple of times when our first child was a baby. Lots of hotels.have this service, so there must be.lots.of other people who think.it is ok. It's nothing like the McCann case, where they did not have a .monitor and could not see the room. If you can see the room and see your baby is safe, I don't see the problem with it.

Sedlescombe · 07/06/2019 23:05

I wouldn’t even consider it

NCBabyBoy · 07/06/2019 23:07

I'd do it probably even with just an audio monitor. You cannot live your life constantly worrying about what ifs. I did that when I had postnatal anxiety and it was draining. The chances of something happening are minuscule. Putting DC in the car is probably more dangerous. In fact, mine has already been in a car accident and he's only 9 monthsConfused.

And to the PP saying that leaving a child to nap in their pram in the garden is dangerous - wtaf?

AnneElliott · 07/06/2019 23:19

We did it a couple of times op - but that was before MM. I wouldn't do it now.

Hope the power is sorted for tomorrow

Lizzie48 · 07/06/2019 23:20

@UnicornDust9 why do you feel the need to keep kicking the OP when she's said she isn't leaving her baby? You're basically a school bully in the playground who hasn't grown up. Do you enjoy making yourself feel morally superior?

OP, that kind of bully always hangs around on AIBU looking for potential victims to give a kicking. They obviously lead very sad lives and are not worth taking seriously.

I hope you have a good night there and that the electricity will be back on again at home soon. Thanks

MiniMum97 · 07/06/2019 23:21

I wouldn't after seeing Madeleine documentary. Even if you lock the room, the hotel have access and you don't know how secure their keys are. I wouldn't chance it. Take baby in a buggy to sleep with you or eat in your room.

Jodie571 · 07/06/2019 23:27

@AvadaKedavra92 I don’t think what you’re saying is bad.

To all the other posters - I don’t understand why all of a sudden we feel our eyes are not reliable enough to see if someone is taking our child?! As the OP is saying she is watching via a monitor.

Logic seems to have gone out the window. It is not the same as Madeline McCann whose parents did NOT have a baby monitor and could not see the room.

Jodie571 · 07/06/2019 23:28

@UnicornDust9 you are a playground bully.

No wonder you’ve gone quite hopefully you’re ashamed of yourself.

FunInTheSun2019 · 07/06/2019 23:52

This again?!

Why doesn't she go to sleep in her pram??

When we go on holiday, we go for dinner earlier than we use to when it was just my DH and I, but sometimes our babies have fallen asleep..very content and safe in their prams, with us at all times!!!!

It's not bloody rocket science!!

When you have a baby, they are your main priority!!!!

UnicornDust9 · 08/06/2019 00:00

@Jodie571 -. I don’t spend my whole life on MumsnetHmm

And no I’m not ashamed of myself.

Call me a playground bully all you like. The ops idea was plain stupid.

Lizzie48 · 08/06/2019 00:07

Repeating yourself AGAIN?? Do change the record, you're making yourself sound ridiculous. We all have stupid ideas sometimes, especially when under stress, or sleep deprived. It would only have been blameworthy if the OP had actually done it. Hmm

TanMateix · 08/06/2019 00:10

Stop for some sandwiches/takeaway on the way to the hotel, get some granola bars in case you get peckish at night after the early dinner.

Do not leave the baby alone. Nothing will happen but it is a slippery slope. Once you leave them alone once it is difficult to stop. So do not break the rule yet, wait until she is at least 8 years old to leave her alone (for a few minutes)

motherofcats81 · 08/06/2019 00:13

@MrsG010814 you did actually twice insist it was the OP, you didn't just say it was similar, nice try backpedaling now you've been called on it but it's there in black and white.

People don't need to be so nasty to the OP, she came on for advice because she wasn't sure, and has been very accepting and grateful for the (non-sarcastic) answers, posters could stand to give the raised eyebrow emojis a rest.

motherofcats81 · 08/06/2019 00:16

@UnicornDust9 that was a horrible comment, OP is right. If you're so judgmental that you can't allow people to have a question without suggesting that makes their child suffer then to be honest people could legitimately say the same to you.

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AvadaKedavra92 · 08/06/2019 07:25

@FunInTheSun2019 have you read the thread? I didn't leave baby for dinner.

As for the pram, I only have the car seat and wheels - she does not sleep in the car seat, I've said that already.

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