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AIBU?

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Aibu to tell my dp that I would leave him if he shaved his head?

33 replies

TennisBoi · 06/06/2019 13:42

He has very long hair and has said that if he were to cut it it would be all off.

Aibu to say that in that case I would leave him?

OP posts:
freshstartnewme · 06/06/2019 13:44

I suppose YANBU if you are that shallow that your relationship means nothing to you.

Back in the real world, ridiculous.

Villanellesproudmum · 06/06/2019 13:44

Yes.

zinger · 06/06/2019 13:45

Very!

Justmuddlingalong · 06/06/2019 13:45

You can say what you like. Just as he can shave his head if he likes.

TheVanguardSix · 06/06/2019 13:46

Would you leave him if he had chemo?

AnnaComnena · 06/06/2019 13:46

As long as you're prepared for him to leave you if you cut, dye or perm your hair.

Skyejuly · 06/06/2019 13:46

Yabu

Greggers2017 · 06/06/2019 13:47

Aww that is really horrible.
My ex DP went bald with alopaecia, he had long hair before.
It never changed the way I felt about him, I wasn't that shallow.

Expressedways · 06/06/2019 13:47

Well you don’t have to find it attractive but you can’t tell him what he can/can’t do with his hair. I presume this is a crap joke? Or your marriage is shit anyway as no one normal would leave solely because of a haircut. Back in the real world you could just tell you find his long half sexy.

Expressedways · 06/06/2019 13:48

Half = hair

SoupDragon · 06/06/2019 13:48

If someone said something like that to me, I would probably be far more keen to do it.

Tentomidnight · 06/06/2019 13:49

My DH grew a beard. His decision but I couldn’t bring myself to kiss him. He soon shaved it off of his own accord Grin

Ronnie27 · 06/06/2019 13:52

Mine has short hair but always wants to shave it off. The truth is he hasn’t aged well and would look awful bald but he’s got all this blonde, surfy hair which hides it quite well. I’m dreading the day he does it but I can’t say anything as it would hurt him. SadSadSad

AnActualWoman · 06/06/2019 13:53

Mmmm......my dp does know that i cant stand beards. Absolutely hate them. For that reason he doesn't grow one. I think the bigger issue here is if he knows you're not a fan of bald heads - out of choice - and he still does it.

Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge · 06/06/2019 13:55

Dh was shaven when we met, hair grew LONG! beautiful curls omg I had hair ENVY!! The day he got dragged off a quad by getting stuck in a bush (Grin) he came home and to the barber's. His hair, his choice but what a bloody waste!
Yabu to dictate to dh.

Whatareyoutalkingabout · 06/06/2019 17:01

If you would do this, you're clearly not that into him. Is it worth continuing with the relationship?

44HuntJas · 06/06/2019 17:03

I wouldn't fit it attractive at all but I wouldn't leave him over it, he'd likely grow it back when he realised it put me off him anyway

kaytee87 · 06/06/2019 17:06

You can leave someone for whatever reason you like. It would make you a shallow arsehole though.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 06/06/2019 17:06

DH wouldn't shave his moustache for me. I hated it but loved him, so I let it go. Just like he never left me when I dyed my hair blonde, which he hated. (To be fair it wasn't a good look on me).

Pinkvoid · 06/06/2019 17:08

What if he loses his hair as he ages? Will you leave him then for being old?

Ridiculous, it’s just hair.

ScreamingValenta · 06/06/2019 17:10

I don't mind baldness, but I hate shaved heads. I wouldn't leave someone over a shaved head, but I'd make my dislike of it known.

Butchyrestingface · 06/06/2019 17:10

What happens when male pattern baldness kicks in?

At least you’ll be giving him due warning with that ultimatum, I suppose.

gamerchick · 06/06/2019 17:15

New poster, slightly goady. Ok Grin

Life has a habit of throwing curve balls OP.

Witchofzog · 06/06/2019 17:17

You would be a controlling arsehole. How would you like it if he dictated what you did with your hair and then threatened to leave you over it?

Teddybear45 · 06/06/2019 17:17

Does that mean he gets to leave you if you put on weight?