To not want a night out, ever

[overthehorizon]

I have a toddler and a job so I'm exhausted. I wake up exhausted and pass out at nine every night.

So why does everyone expect me to want to go out in the evenings? Why? Is it obligatory? Anybody else just want to be in bed by nine?

I'm supposed to be going out on Sat, have a babysitter and everything and I'm dreading it.

I've only got the one and a job, and I'd happily be in bed by 6pm everyday. YANBU.

Yanbu
I feel the same

Nice to know I'm not a freak.

I like putting him to bed.

Struggling to keep my eyes open drinking sugary, shit booze (cocktails) in a loud room is my idea of hell.

Me and my mum friends (hate that term, but you know what I mean!) have started going out for boozy lunches, then we can be home by 7pm and still have had fun. Nights out are over rated!

Totally agree. It feels like something we ought to be doing and ought to be enjoying... ugh.

I'm the same so as far as I'm concerned YADNBU!

Just to offer a different POV, I fancy an evening out so I'm off out for dinner

If you are pissed who looks after your child Twirlypoo? Imagine turning up at A&E because your child has had an accident and you are rat arsed ! Since when did it become acceptable to get drunk when you are in charge of children ? And before you are all outraged i love many a Voddie &coke and can happily spend hours in the pub, difference being my kids had a sober mum but now the are grown i can drink to my hearts content because i am not responsible for them

Did Twirlypoo say she was in charge of her children while having a boozy lunch?

Why would twirlypoo be drunk in charge of children? I assume someone else has her children while she is enjoying her lunch, which sounds great by the way!

@omione has presumably forgotten the existence of fathers. Or grandparents. Or friends.

Actually @omione I've a lone parent and I've had a shit day, I might have a beer IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN.

Luckily, if they need A and E I know how to order a taxi.

This is so me. I'm tired by 9pm without fail, I have to get up early for work & have a toddler. I love it when people have barbecues in the afternoon and I'm a big fan of meeting people for lunch! Dinner I like but not if it runs too late. I could not be less bothered about going "out out".

Are you feeling alright omione? All that outrage will give you heartburn.

I’m with you OP. I like having people over but can’t be arsed with going out.

That’s you told, Twirlypoo!!

But seriously omione, are you for real? Where did she say she was drunk while looking after her kids? I imagine she has childcare or a partner who looks after her kids, the same as if she was going out in the evening.

< massive eye roll >

Before DC I had a good social life, but close friends lived far away, would visit and host. Have met lots of nice people since having DC but don’t feel I have much to offer friends anymore.

I work FT and commute.

V short lunch breaks in week. Weeknights - knackered and doing DC-wrangling and domestic work. Weekend daytime - feel guilty about leaving the DC. Sat nights - good, but everything seems boozy and drinking isn’t ideal as have a MH issue.

Don’t like accepting hospitality as don’t want to reciprocate hosting!

And childcare costs.

I do want to try though as would like friends. my parents, for different reasons, didn’t have many friendships at my age and now they’re older are very isolated.

I have 3 under 5 and value sleep above everything, including going out

I like the idea of going out and routinely enthusiastically commit to things and then the closer the date gets i start to dread it

Mine are young adults, I still never want go out.

Really like group fitness classes at the gym - good for energy levels and slightly social in a “boundaried” way!

This is me! Going to the theatre tonight and I could cry. It’s been booked for months but I’m just so bloody knackered :(

Haha, did I touch a nerve there Omione?!

No children were harmed on my boozy lunches, promise

This is why day drinking is the best. Apart from when it turns into night drinking. And then accidental clubbing. Then accidental kebabing.
Then you have to parent the next day after 20 hours of drinking and 3 hours sleep. wahooooo

I went off going out years ago
Maybe a bit of day drinking every few months but some of my friends still like to go out at 8pm and I can’t think of anything worse

Im just the same, an the children's are all self sufficient these days - I'd much rather go our mid afternoon, home and tucked up by 8pm

@omione - some people have support networks and are allowed out you know

I bloody love a night out! I go out at least once a week, not 'out out' but still out. Staying in every night is my idea of hell!

It’s so expensive too, 3 course meal last month, only one pudding, two drinks was £70. It took an hour and a half, I felt rushed as they needed the table at 9. That’s a gastro pub in rural Leics too so nowhere fancy.

Home by 9:30. Felt cheated if I’m honest and dh was gobsmacked it cost that much.