To not want a night out, ever

[overthehorizon]

I have a toddler and a job so I'm exhausted. I wake up exhausted and pass out at nine every night.

So why does everyone expect me to want to go out in the evenings? Why? Is it obligatory? Anybody else just want to be in bed by nine?

I'm supposed to be going out on Sat, have a babysitter and everything and I'm dreading it.

I used to think I didn't want to go out.
The trouble is when you don't go out, you stop wanting to go out.
Pretty soon you will look round and you haven't been out in 10 years. Your friends will eventually stop asking.
Trust me I know
Go out, even if you dont want to. When you are out you might find you enjoy it. You don't have to stay all night
Go for an hour an or two. The tired years will pass. You will want to go out again.
You need to keep your social network alive until then

@omione No, of course she didn't. But you still felt the need to pit yourself against her, painting her as a shit mother to prop yourself up as holier than. Why is that? 🤔

My perfect night these days is in front of the telly surrounded by the duvet and pillows. A liquid lunch is a great idea.

If you are pissed who looks after your child Twirlypoo?

Err... the children’s father maybe?

I’m a fan of the boozy lunch too. I go out with my friends (in the daytime), children at home with DH. Home at 7.30pm (missing bedtime!), early to bed, and wake up in the morning feeling semi fresh as I’ve had a decent amount of sleep

I love a night out, feeling rough the next day, not so much!

but then again she didnt say she was on her own.

Well I doubt she is on her own. Boozy lunches on your own are crap. I imagine she’s with friends, or maybe her partner while her DC are being cared for elsewhere. That’s what people normally do.

Yanbu.

I like going to gigs but I think I'd like it even more if they were just after lunch. I'm usually yawning by the main event!

Lunch followed by support act with a beer, followed by cigarette break and a beer, followed by main event, with a beer, followed by stop at the pub for dinner (with beer) followed by bed!!

Sounds bloody perfect!!!

Taking my child on the boozy lunch totally spoils my fun. I prefer to leave him alone at home playing with knives, or make him wander the streets. I get a babysitter if I have a night out though, he only gets the knives if I do a boozy lunch

I know the feeling

We thought as much, twirly, we ALL thought as much

In my teens and early twenties, I used to feel really sorry for all the parents stuck in with their children in the evenings. Now I have children and am quite happy to be in, with a gin and the remote control. I do enjoy going out occasionally, but I would never have believed that I would be happy that dh was out while I was stuck in because we couldn’t get a babysitter.
I’m not sure if it’s age that has changed me or motherhood, but I don’t miss the boozy all nighters I used to do at all.

YANBU one bit.
For all those parents who like to go ‘out out’, I salute you for your energy and have a great time. I will be in bed.

I'm out tomorrow with! "mom friend" but it'll be dinner, most are driving so only one or two drinking and we'll be home by 11 at latest. Place we eat is relaxed so we can eat slowly, sit slowly and not have to go anywhere to catch up

First night out after PFB my NCT friend and I got the taxi at 3 am... We might have been overdue some release haha

I've never been into the idea that sitting in your nightwear watching television and eating chocolate is 'better' than running around town with your mates. I spend a lot more nights at home since having DS than I used to, but there's still nothing like a good night's rampaging.

All my nights out have to be at lunchtime and involve alcohol and be practical for me to get to. Preferably my choice of food. Otherwise I'm just not interested

@ReanimatedSGB you rampage?!!! my kinda gal!

Mine have long left home and I still hardly ever want to go,out in the evening.
But I've now reached an age where if I don't want to do something, I just say so, and don't give a toss if anyone thinks I'm being boring.
Bed with cup of tea and book is heaven.

I am exactly the same. I question what is necessary and what is not all the time. I like to chill at home too after a tiring day at work and have some family time. Having said that, it’s refreshing to make an effort and go out. After an evening out, I always think it was a good idea. Hope you enjoy your evening out.

If you don't want to go on a night out then... Don't? Everyone seems to complain about this recently on Mumsnet. It's weird. I'm sure everyone would complain just as much if nobody ever invited them out!

I can’t be arsed with it either. It’s the thought of having to get “dressed up” and head off to a pub where you can’t hear yourself think. I don’t drink anymore so this is less appealing than ever. Coffee dates are lovely. You get to eat cake too.

Occasionally I'm in the mood to go out in the evening/night but it is very rare. And it's no fun wandering from cramped bar to cramped bar where they play shit music and you have to dance the whole time. I prefer to go somewhere chilled out with nice booze, reasonable volume music and everyone can chat and hang out.

Since when did it become acceptable to get drunk when you are in charge of children ?

Well yes alcohol is a modern invention

Yanbu op, we have early evening nights out.

I’m the same.

Going out at night is always a chore.

Yanbu. I didn't enjoy them that much when I was young and energetic so can think of nothing worse now I'm old with a stressful job and 2 toddlers.