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AIBU pregnant & turned away from training

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MimiKoko · 01/06/2019 11:49

AIBU to be ticked off ? Please forgive me very pregnant and a little hormonally emotional- if there’s such a thing. So I have a seasonal job which requires me to attend a training session before I can commence the short term contract - training was today a Saturday- I was meant to be there at 10am a nice hotel - quite far from where I live got there 33 minutes late because I had a bad night- couldn’t get up on time - public transport on a Saturday in London isn’t the best either - nothing in confirmation email said if you’re late you will not be let in - got there after they ladies at the door “conferred” I was told can’t come in after lugging laptop etc all that way - I’ve done this job for years not particularly taxing, offered to make the time up at lunch - transport was quite expensive being London - now lost the contract as can’t do it without attending the training - just majorly annoyed at subtle pregnancy discrimination - need the money and really would not have been late on purpose - being on the underground there’s no contact number to ring whilst enroute.

OP posts:
bluebeck · 01/06/2019 12:04

What pregnancy discrimination?

CobaltRose96 · 01/06/2019 12:06

You were late. You weren’t discriminated against.

XXVaginaAndAUterus · 01/06/2019 12:06

That's not pregnancy discrimination!

I'm sorry you had an expensive wasted journey and have lost the contract. That sucks. But being pregnant isn't a valid excuse for being late. There are all sorts of reasons why people don't get a good night's sleep - those people still have to function in the real world.

Star81 · 01/06/2019 12:06

I get that you feel hard done to but I really don’t think it’s to do with pregnancy. If your late your late. Same rule would apply to a non pregnant person !

AnActualWoman · 01/06/2019 12:07

On face value it doesn't sound like discrimination at all. I was turned away from a class I had to attend due to being late and I had to take the next one, it can be quite disruptive to the others and can throw the rest of the day out having to catch you up.

DannyWallace · 01/06/2019 12:08

Sorry OP but I agree with other posters.
I really struggled in pregnancy, I was physically in a lot of pain...so I planned everything to get places on time. I'm aware that I still could have been reprimanded if I was late for work often.
It doesn't appear to have anything to do with your pregnancy, but it was due to the fact that you were late.

Fairenuff · 01/06/2019 12:08

If you couldn't turn up on time for training why would they want to employ you anyway. Pregnant or not you only have yourself to blame for being so entitled that you thought you could rock up 30 minutes late. That's a long time to keep people waiting.

Toddlerteaplease · 01/06/2019 12:09

Not being able to get up is not a good excuse for being late.

babysharkah · 01/06/2019 12:09

You were late. End of. Don't call discrimination it really doesn't help people who are actually discriminated against.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 01/06/2019 12:10

Its people like you doing woman no favours whatsoever by screaming discrimination when there was none. You were not let in because you were late, no other reason.

Toddlerteaplease · 01/06/2019 12:11

As a non Londoner, transport In London is amazing. The underground is just an amazing thing. So that excuse is rubbish as well.

ElspethFlashman · 01/06/2019 12:11

This is hilarious. That's entirely normal for a training course. They may have let you in after 10 mins but after that they have to make a cut off.

I was once 30 mins late for a training course. It started at 7.30, my mind read 8.30am (as starting at 7.30 is INSANE) and I was there at about 8am, so in my mind 30 mins early. But in reality 30 mins late!

It was super tiresome as I'd travelled a half hour but hey ho, it was 100% my own fault for only skimming the letter.

Pregnancy is no excuse for poor timekeeping and ringing them wouldn't have made a difference. Bad night's whilst pregnant are nothing to the bad nights you have with kids, so you just have to be the adult and get up on time even if you're crawling to the door on your knees. We all do.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 01/06/2019 12:12

I travelled the length and breadth of the UK for work, week in week out until I was 36+1 I had DS at 36+6. It's nothing to do with pregnancy you were late and the start time was ten, not 5am.

arethereanyleftatall · 01/06/2019 12:12

Re 'catching up in the lunch break' . Are you saying you expect the trainer to repeat the first half hour just for you in the lunch break?

CloserIAm2Fine · 01/06/2019 12:12

YABVVVU

I would suggest you google the definition of “discrimination” because you clearly have no understanding of the concept

You weren’t allowed in because you were late. “Being late” is not a protected characteristic. Hmm

PinkHeartLovesCake · 01/06/2019 12:13

Not sure being pregnant is an excuse tbh, why should you get special treatment?

Your an adult, you knew what time it started, you were late.....

Top tip, next time plan better especially if you need the money

Anothertempusername · 01/06/2019 12:13

Discrimination? "Couldn't get up on time" is what teenagers say.

DonkeyHohtay · 01/06/2019 12:14

subtle pregnancy discrimination

It's not discrimination though. The session was well underway, for the people who had bothered their backsides to get there on time. Were you expecting them to wait for you? Or maybe to start all over so that you could catch up on what you'd missed?

Really don't like the attitude of some people that pregnancy is a get our of jail free card which allows you to do whatever you like at work and there can never be any consequences because of "discrimination". Hmm

Yabbers · 01/06/2019 12:14

How far is quite far?

Can’t see it is pregnancy related.

If this is your attitude to being turned away for being over half an hour late for a work commitment, best thing for them to turn you away.

MorganKitten · 01/06/2019 12:14

You were late, Did you call ahead to let them know you were late?

Don’t accuse them of discrimination when you were late and they were doing their job.

Peperpiperpickedwrong · 01/06/2019 12:14

quite far from where I live got there 33 minutes late because I had a bad night- couldn’t get up on time

So presumably they decided you are unreliable and don’t wish you to do the short term contract.

nothing in confirmation email said if you’re late you will not be let in

I don’t imagine they feel the need to put that to be fair. Most people would make the effort to get there on time if they actually wanted the contract.

YABVVU to be ticked of and even consider it to be pregnancy discrimination.

GhostIsAGoodBoi · 01/06/2019 12:15

Nothing to do with you being pregnant and everything to do with you being late.

Own the mistake and stop bleating.

RebootYourEngine · 01/06/2019 12:15

What part was discrimination?

ElspethFlashman · 01/06/2019 12:16

Omg 10am??! I missed that.

OP, you're pulling the piss. 10am is an amazing time to have to be there. I've never heard of a training course starting that late.

motherofcats81 · 01/06/2019 12:16

I am pregnant and was feeling terrible last night, throwing up. I still feel awful today. I do sympathize.

But I still made it to work on time this morning.