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AIBU?

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Holiday other mum

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hipslikecinderella · 01/06/2019 07:46

In a goregous holiday bungalow with another family. Men went out to play golf at 7am, my dcs woke up and made some noise.
Normal noise, but other mum came out of her room mad and begged "please let my child sleep a bit longer, its seven o'clock!"
To us this isn't early.
We're in an open plan bungalow which they booked. It's a bit ridiculous imo to be precious about sleep at this time of day?

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letsdolunch321 · 02/06/2019 10:12

I agree with petal, a lot of posters are jumping to conclusions that the children of op were being loud on purpose.

Calm ya tits - they were making breakfast !!!

Isthisafreename · 02/06/2019 10:20

@letsdolunch321 - I agree with petal, a lot of posters are jumping to conclusions that the children of op were being loud on purpose.

Whether they are being loud on purpose or not is irrelevant. They are being loud. They now know, so can be quiet. Not to do so would be inconsiderate.

letsdolunch321 · 02/06/2019 10:53

You cannot help some noise when making breakfast !!!!

Isthisafreename · 02/06/2019 11:04

@letsdolunch321 - You cannot help some noise when making breakfast !!!!

There's a difference between making minimal noise and making enough noise to wake people. If everyone is up, I will chat, not be bothered about clattering dishes, opening/closing doors quietly etc. If I know people are sleeping, I will be do all of that very quietly so I don't disturb them.

Vulpine · 02/06/2019 11:07

Tomorrow, hows about the women leave early to do an important activity and leave the men to deal with this kind of crap

hopeishere · 02/06/2019 11:51

The OP hasn't come back. Maybe she's been battered with a cereal bowl?!

Jaxhog · 02/06/2019 12:02

It's on theing to have your kids awake and playing queitly at 7am. It's quite another to allow them to run around the house screaming at 7am. If the latter, then yes, YABVU.

Agree a mutually reasonable morning 'noise' time with your friends.

Arpafeelie · 02/06/2019 12:12

If the men were out at 7, what time did they get up and have breakfast? I could have kept my two in bed past 7am if everyone was in bed, but if they knew that Dad was up and had had breakfast, they would want to be up and have breakfast too.

trainmybrain · 02/06/2019 12:14

I don't think you really being unreasonable. It's your kids holiday too and they should be allowed to get up and have breakfast without being mute 🤐

Figgygal · 02/06/2019 12:16

Yup mine would have been up by then too

Shared holiday homes is a hotbed for tension but you need to try compromise where possible

Figgygal · 02/06/2019 12:18

Oops posted too soon
My 2 year old is incapable of being quiet in mornings unfortunately so I wouldn't have agreed to go away with another family if having told them of how it is they expected it to be any different

arganlady · 02/06/2019 14:32

I literally don’t know anyone with young children who get up after 7am

It's 9.30am here and my five year old ds is still fast asleep. As he is any day he doesn't go to school.

princessjelly · 02/06/2019 14:37

I'd be pissed off before 11 - my kids can easily sleep till then - but there again I wouldn't share a house with anyone.

Vulpine · 02/06/2019 14:40

Before 11? Blimey

cccameron · 02/06/2019 15:01

YAB completely U. I would be raging if noisy kids woke me and dd at 7am on holiday. And you say normal noise but for the mum to come out of her room and beg you not to wake her kids they must have been really noisy. Have some consideration for others FFS. For alot of people holidays are a time for rest and relaxation not to be woken up at 7am by rampaging kids

Vulpine · 02/06/2019 15:02

Yet it was probably the dads who woke the kids in the first place

cccameron · 02/06/2019 15:05

Well the dads didn't wake the other families kids did they. So it's up to the parent of the kids that are up to make sure they show some consideration for others in the house and keep the noise down!

AnAC12UCOinanOCG · 02/06/2019 16:22

Shared holiday homes is a hotbed for tension but you need to try compromise where possible

The only sensible compromise is the early risers getting up when they want to but being quiet enough that the later risers can also get up when they want to.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 02/06/2019 17:04

Self self self OP....7 am and your up and doing OMG,,,,I pity the other woman no end....have some sense please...its a holiday not a boot camp...

Vulpine · 02/06/2019 17:06

If 7am is too early for the kids which I agree it is then it's too early for the dads surely

Bluewall · 02/06/2019 17:29

How exactly do you make zero noise when making breakfast?? Also depending how old the OP children are she might not even be able to stop them making any noise. My 19 month old is not intrested in tablets and when he wakes up he wants milk and breakfast. He wouldn't understand if I told him so and so is sleeping so you should just sit in your room quietly for the next 1 ? 2 hours ?

If you are in shared holiday house I think you need to take the hit that once the first set of kids are up that is probably it. All normal people would stop their kids running around mad and screaming at 7am but you can't force them to sit silently in a room until you are given the go ahead to speak !
Again with younger kids they may make loud noises unexpectedly and you can tell them no don't shout or don't bang or whatever but they will have already made some noise by that point. Other mum needs to get a grip.

Bluewall · 02/06/2019 17:33

*cccameron

Well the dads didn't wake the other families kids did they. So it's up to the parent of the kids that are up to make sure they show some consideration for others in the house and keep the noise down!*

Perhaps they did and that's why the other mum is annoyed as the dads woke her kid and she was trying to get her back to sleep. They woke OP's kids.

If grown men can't move about in the house without waking people how do you expect little kids to manage.

BogglesGoggles · 02/06/2019 17:39

I think it depends on how old the children are. If they are over five it’s not unreasonable to ask them to play silently for an hour or two until a more reasonable hour.

Isthisafreename · 02/06/2019 18:04

@Bluewall - How exactly do you make zero noise when making breakfast??

How exactly are you not able to make breakfast quietly enough not to wake people in a separate room? It may not be zero noise but it's not difficult to do it quietly enough to avoid disturbing others.

Glitterblue · 02/06/2019 18:04

To us this isn't early

This says it all. To you it's not early, to others, it is. My DD sleeps until 8.30/9 and is a little monster if she hasn't had enough sleep. I don't think she's being precious at all, 7am is very early.

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