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AIBU?

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Holiday other mum

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hipslikecinderella · 01/06/2019 07:46

In a goregous holiday bungalow with another family. Men went out to play golf at 7am, my dcs woke up and made some noise.
Normal noise, but other mum came out of her room mad and begged "please let my child sleep a bit longer, its seven o'clock!"
To us this isn't early.
We're in an open plan bungalow which they booked. It's a bit ridiculous imo to be precious about sleep at this time of day?

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Tunt · 01/06/2019 08:19

I literally don’t know anyone with young children who get up after 7am

Maybebaybe · 01/06/2019 08:19

I used to holiday with a friend. My child was a good sleeper and needed as much as she could get. Her child was not and would be awake with the lark. She used to let him scream and shout and wake my child up. We stopped holidaying with them.

My child would be sweet as pie with enough sleep and a demon without, hers just didn't need as much so maybe she didn't fully grasp the situation from my pov. Anyway kids should know to whisper when others are asleep.

SimonJT · 01/06/2019 08:19

7am can be early for a holiday, my son is normally awake then. We’re on holiday and he didn’t get to bed until 8:30 last night so he is still asleep, I would be annoyed if someone woke him up being noisy.

diddl · 01/06/2019 08:21

So the men woke the kids up?

Open plan though if people (especially kids) are getting up at different times sounds awful.

You say "other mum"-surely she's a friend who you can talk to?

Constance1234 · 01/06/2019 08:21

I'd say 8am is an ok time to make noise, but 7am is a tad early. Can your DC play outside if they get up that early again tomorrow? If I was in shared accommodation like that, tbh I wouldn't let my DC make noise until everyone was up - just common decency! But it does sound like the place isn't really suitable for two families sharing.

rookiemere · 01/06/2019 08:24

It's very hard sharing accommodation with another family. 7 is early but they were woken by the blokes going out so I think other DM is being a bit precious.

user1480880826 · 01/06/2019 08:25

7am isn’t early for young children. If her child sleeps late why on earth did they book an open plan house?

Can you swap bedrooms so the late sleepers are further away from the living room?

ReturnofSaturn · 01/06/2019 08:27

7am is pretty early! Especially on holiday! I'd try to keep them quiet for another hour at least.

OKBobble · 01/06/2019 08:30

Everyone assumes their routine is normal. You assume your early starts are normal and she assumed their later ones are. I suspect because of this the matter wasn't addressed until it happened.

Now you do know so you will need to ask your children to keep it down as much as possible at least for an hour.

DragonMamma · 01/06/2019 08:30

I’d be furious at being woken up at 7am on holiday. My DC usually sleep in until 8/9am after a late night and would be a nightmare otherwise.

We’ve shared plenty of holiday properties with family and there’s an unwritten rule that you don’t make loads of noise until 8.30am. You can make tea or coffee but no breakfast until everybody is up!

InDubiousBattle · 01/06/2019 08:32

I'd keep everything quiet until 8, it's a holiday and 7 is quite early.

redspider1 · 01/06/2019 08:36

Never share holiday accommodation.

redspider1 · 01/06/2019 08:37

7 is early on holiday unless child is a baby/toddler in which case you control the noise as much as you can if others are sleeping. If they’re old enough to be getting their own breakfast, they’re old enough to be sent back to their room with a book/tablet/ flea in their ear!

Recavanometer · 01/06/2019 08:38

Isn’t this what iPads were invented for??? It’s irrelevant whether 7 am is early or not, just don’t let your kids disturb other people! Back to bed with iPads and a snack till everyone is up!

redspider1 · 01/06/2019 08:40

On holiday in France one year we stayed on a campsite in a caravan.
Every morning the children next door were allowed to play out at 7am . Ruined our holiday.

SoyDora · 01/06/2019 08:46

Regardless of what is ‘normal’, when we’re on holiday with friends we keep ours as quiet as possible until everyone’s up. It’s frustrating when your children are woken up and you know that’s going to mean they’re tired and grumpy for the rest of the day. Mine are up at 7 at home when they go to bed at 7, but if they were later to bed they’d sleep later in the morning.
Mine are 5 and 3 and I’d let them play on my phone/iPad in my bed until everyone was awake.

Qweenbee · 01/06/2019 08:54

Mine are old now but I'm retrospectively jealous of all those kids that sleep in after a late night. Mine were up with the lark no matter what time they went to bed, or even after a series of late nights, but would be grumpy because of the late nights.

alittleprivacy · 01/06/2019 09:03

Also all these folk saying it’s U for you to expect them to adhere to your schedule, surely the same is true in reverse! It’s about compromise. Her kid likes a lie in but you can’t force yours to stay asleep either!

No. The same being true in reverse will be in the evening when the OP's DC are asleep and the other mum will have to keep her child quiet so as not to disturb them. I regularly go on holiday with a friend who's DC are early to bed/early to rise people while my DS is the opposite. In the morning she keeps her DC quiet so my DS can sleep on. In the evening I make sure DS is quiet once her DC go to bed. Nobody has to compromise their natural schedules, but consideration has to be made for the sleep needs of others.

chocatoo · 01/06/2019 09:08

7am is Early! Take your kids into your bedroom and keep them quiet in there with tablet, etc.

GhostIsAGoodBoi · 01/06/2019 09:10

I also don’t know anyone’s who’s kids sleep past 7am. She’s being a dick. It’s an open plan bungalow.

alittleprivacy · 01/06/2019 09:14

I also don’t know anyone’s who’s kids sleep past 7am. She’s being a dick. It’s an open plan bungalow.

By that logic, this evening when the OP's kids need to be asleep earlier than her friend's DC the OP will be a dick if she expects them to be quiet. It's an open plan bungalow after all.

4legsandawaggytail · 01/06/2019 09:17

YABU. Reverse the roles and think about it..... The other family like to get up at 5am which is normal for them even during a precious holiday. They get up with no consideration for you and go about their normal routine.
How would you feel?

HennyPennyHorror · 01/06/2019 09:20

Lol I can't believe people think 7.00am is "Ridiculous" !! It's a completely normal time for children and for many adults too. Some people must waste half their lives in bed!

givemesteel · 01/06/2019 09:27

They're never going to book a holiday with you again. I'd be annoyed too.

7am is early for a holiday, your kids might be awake at that time (mine probably would be as well) but if the other family aren't up then it should be quiet play in room / ipad time, and you can just quietly get them a snack to keep them going before proper breakfast.

daisypond · 01/06/2019 09:28

7am sounds reasonable to me.

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