If you're female AIBU to ask if you're ok with male health professionals at all times and in any scenario?

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It's just that question really.

Well I know my dh preferred having a male doctor do his prostate exams.

@StreetwiseHercules

I think it’s bigotry to have an issue with the sex of the person providing healthcare. Load of nonsense which the NHS should never entertain

Did you read the reply from @EleanorOalike??? Read it then spill your vile comments.

I prefer a female to do things involving boobs and cervices etc! However I’ve had Male gynae drs and my boobs examined by men. Didn’t like it really but my husband was there/a nurse so that put me more at ease!

Literally could not care less.

No. In some scenarios i would prefer (and would wait for) a female HCP.

I don’t care. A doctor is a doctor

I wanted a female midwife and I ask for a female nurse to do my smears. Apart from that I don't mind.

“Are you always a handmaiden?
Or is this your patriarchy showing?
FYI - that's still not abuse, not figurative, not literal, just a genuine question.”

There’s nothing general about your question. Why pretend there is?

Sid find it weird when a male sonographor gave me an internal ultrasound as most seem to be female but we were chaperoned do all good. Since having kids I dont give a toss.
In fact probably the nicest consultant I have ever dealt with was a male in a breadt clinic. He was so lovely.

Mostly don't mind. The only exception is for 'female' stuff. Then I want a biological female.

Breast clinic. Sorry can't type.

“Are you always a handmaiden?
Or is this your patriarchy showing?
FYI - that's still not abuse, not figurative, not literal, just a genuine question

The poster in question is male.

I had some gynae issues in my early 20s, and the consultant asked if he could bring in some medical students, which I agreed to. I think that kind of demolished most of the embarrassment I might feel about getting my chuff out in front of a male doctor.

I have had breast examinations and internal examinations and checked for piles by male HCP each time I was asked if I wanted a female chaperone but I didn't feel the need and all 3 of my babies were delivered by male surgeons. It doesn't bother me as long as they are qualified! My husband was shocked and winced at the huge male dr who basically shoved his whole hand up me while checking my cervix lol and that did bloody hurt but I was like just hurry up and get my baby out!

My favourite dr at my new surgery is male and he's very friendly, professional and approachable. There were some useless male gps at my old surgery though who had no bedside manner and made you feel stupid for taking up their time and like there was nothing wrong with you so I avoided them but that was their personality not to do with them being male!

Responses will not only depend on the kind of life experiences you have but also on the kind of medical issues you have had to take to the doctor in the past.
So I’m not sure what we can gain from the thread.

If anyone, regardless of sex, has a preference it should be adhered to

Absolutely as I addressed in a subsequent post. The post you quoted was in direct reference to a woman, hence using “woman”.

Yes, sorry, I missed your follow up. My bad.

I feel more comfortable with a woman but I don't mind if it's a man, at this stage of my life. If I were younger or much older i might feel vulnerable and then I might have a strong preference for a female nurse/doctor/HCA. Women and men should have requests for same sex health provider facilitated, it doesn't take a brain surgeon to understand why they may feel happier with someone of their own sex.

Having worked with male HCP all my career, I would not under any circumstances have any one of them treat me - unless I was unconscious and unable to say no. IME, they have no respect for female patients or colleagues. When you are older and slightly overweight, they are not terrible keen to examine you. There is a reason for this.

Just my experience and opinion.

Yes, sorry, I missed your follow up. My bad

No worries! Thank you though.

No. I'm not always fine with females either. Some just arent great in comparison to others. Sometimes it depends on the person.

Yes, I am happy for any HCP in any scenario, despite being examined by a male gynaecologist for prolapse surgery who was subsequently struck off and jailed for sexually assaulting his patients. I chose to use a different male surgeon for my operation, mainly because the the struck off one clearly had no clue what he was talking about in relation to the diagnosis.

I had a male midwife who was incredible.

Had a male consultant looking at my fanjo just this afternoon. He asked whether I wanted a chaperone I’m like no, it’s fine.

It’s a professional situation and, having had a chat with him beforehand, I trusted him implicitly (and more importantly) wanted his professional and experienced opinion that nothing was seriously wrong!

Yes no problem at all.

I think I would prefer the nurses who cared for me after my c section to be women as I felt very vunrable then but mostly I am not fussed. I think all women should have the choice though.